Does this sound sketchy?
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Anonymous
| My DD (15) was new to her school and last year, and up until now she has been very socially withdrawn (i.e. headphones, complains of having no friends, etc) Last week, she told me that she "has like, a group of friends now." She was invited to sleep over at one of the girls houses next weekend. I've never met the parents! my DD tells me about crazy parties she hears about with drinking etc and I know it's not her scene. Should I let her go sleep over with 4 other girls whose parents I have never met? |
Anonymous
| Can you just get the parents email and shoot them an email to introduce yourself or else walk her up to the door and say hello and make sure they are home? |
Anonymous
| Walk up to the door and say hello. Based on that you can set a timeframe for picking up / curfew. |
Anonymous
| No don't allow it. For her benefit as much as her safety. Get those kids around your house and see what you think of them first. |
Anonymous
Op, of course she hears about parties. She’s 15. Call the parents and introduce yourself. Of course let her go. |
Anonymous
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I have a DD in high school. Yes, there's a partying crowd, but there's also a good number of kids who don't drink. It sounds like your DD has found some girls who don't. Sleepovers are very common - the girls hang out, play video games, watch movies, chat. It's great that your daughter has been invited to sleep over.
As PP said walk her to the door and meet the parents to judge how comfortable you feel. |
Anonymous
That's what I would do. |
Anonymous
| Next Weekend -- this is what being a parent is about. It's not convenient but you do it anyway. You make a connection. It may not to comfortable or convenient , but you make a connection with parents you don't know. No short cuts to parenting. |
Anonymous
| Call the parents. Simple. Your kid might think you're lame and it could be awkward, but you do it to make sure your child is safe. |
Anonymous
| The poor kid hasn’t had friends for over a year. She finally gets invited to something and you’re thinking about not allowing her to go because you’ve heard rumors of wild parties not involving any kids involved in the sleepover in question? Are you trying to keep her ostracized so you can have weekend company of your own? If not knowing the parents is your only qualm, get the parents’ info and give them a quick call. Don’t keep your daughter isolated. |
Anonymous
| Have your daughter text or call her friend then tell her to put mom on the phone. Introduce yourself and ask when you should drop off and pick up your daughter and if she needs sheets/ sleeping bag. |
Anonymous
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Show up at the house and invite yourself in to meet the parents. This is a non-negotiable.
--parent of 2 teens who has done this and everyone survived |
Anonymous
| She could be spending the night at a new friends house and she could be going to a party. Reach out to the other parents to introduce yourself and make sure they are not being told the girls are staying at your house. Do this every time, no matter how well you know the parents. |
Anonymous
| Does your DD have a cellphone? If she doesn’t, send her with one of your family member’s phones. Tell her she can contact you at any time day/night and you will pick her up. My dad really drilled that into me and my siblings during our teens. |
Anonymous
+1 |