5'2, 165 pounds, I know I'm fat but don't feel like it

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

[Anonymous]

Is your face thin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

It's very possible that both are true! You sound like at certain angles and poses, you are probably very cute, but at other angles you may look bigger than you actually are.

[Anonymous]

Probably both. You're leaner on top, but significantly lower body heavy.

I'm 5'2.5. 130 now, but I used to be close to 190 - at that weight I was a 12-14, but I carried my weight pretty evenly. I had large boobs, but could still shop at "normal" stores (not plus size). Now I'm more of a 4-6, though I think my body type is more athletic and work out regularly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

Is your home mirror standing against the wall, or hung on the wall? That makes a difference. Also, I do not trust clothing store mirrors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

Is your home mirror standing against the wall, or hung on the wall? That makes a difference. Also, I do not trust clothing store mirrors.

Weird. I always feel like I look far worse in dressing rooms than in my own mirror.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

Is your home mirror standing against the wall, or hung on the wall? That makes a difference. Also, I do not trust clothing store mirrors.

where is it supposed to be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

This could be me! I'm trying to be healthier and lose weight - totally got derailed over the summer, with so much travel and ice cream. Now that school has started, it seemed like a good time to start monitoring my diet again.

[Anonymous]

You sound very disproportionate, which is fine and many of us are. But then clothes aren't going to look right.

Invest in visits to a good tailor. Will make a world of difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

It's very possible that both are true! You sound like at certain angles and poses, you are probably very cute, but at other angles you may look bigger than you actually are.

+1 The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. Occasionally I've noticed when standing with a friend in front of a restroom mirror that she appears larger in the reflection than she does in reality. Conversely, I do think my home mirror is overly flattering.

[Anonymous]

you are too fat

[Anonymous]

Is t that how Kim K is built? Short, voluptuous, huge bum? But still looks great!

[Anonymous]

If you like the way you look, who the hell cares what others think?? Positive body image is fantastic!

[Anonymous]

Have you ever been told you might have lipedema, which is an adipose tissue and lymphatic disorder and is widely under-diagnosed? The hallmark features are a lean upper body and fat concentrated in lower torso and legs. Many people have widespread pain. Google "lipedema project". The lipedemic fat is very resistant to diet and exercise. Treatment includes manual drainage massage or physical therapy and compression garments. There are several helpful nutritional strategies, including low inflammation, low carb and something called RAD. Dr. Karen Herbst MD in Tuscon, AZ is the leading national expert. Her research is on "Fat Disorders Research Society." At the Lipedema Project website the is a link to a new publication for physicians that is also helpful. Wish I had been diagnosed much earlier in my life so just passing on this info in case it helps you or anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

Is your home mirror standing against the wall, or hung on the wall? That makes a difference. Also, I do not trust clothing store mirrors.

where is it supposed to be?

Hung flat on the wall. Standing on the floor and leaning against the wall gives a slight bend to the mirror that distorts the image (sometimes in your favor).