5'2, 165 pounds, I know I'm fat but don't feel like it

[Anonymous]

You are fat but fat doesn't immediately equate to unattractive or not looking good.

I am 5'6" and was 190. I could convince myself at times that I wasn't that fat. I hadind of lost perspective on what fat / not fat looked like. In the mirror, I didn't see fat but in pictures, I saw it all, I felt enormous and way out of proportion to how I actually saw myself. For example, I would think I was the same size as 'Sue' but then in a picture beside Sue, I would look so much bigger and it wouldn't really make sense to me.

Now I am 165 pounds and interestingly my perceptions of myself is more accurate. I am still fat but I can see the fat in the mirror and it is pretty similar to what I expect to see in a picture. in some ways I feel fatter than I felt at 190 because I have a less skewed perspective. But at the same time, clothes fit better and I know I am not as fat as I was.

Our minds are powerful tools. They can convince you of all kinds of things.

[Anonymous]

Wear a fit and flare skirt and you will make the most of your body. --someone with similar stats.

[Anonymous]

Its hard to pull off curves and carry weight when you're short. I'm 5'2", 118, and 35-29-37, and look chunky in certain clothes. But having a thin upper body also means that in general, you look at your face in the mirror and from head on, so you dont seen the angles that are less flattering. My mother always taught me to lookin a 3 way mirror before purchasing clothes. It is not always a happy experience.

[Anonymous]

Is t that how Kim K is built? Short, voluptuous, huge bum? But still looks great!

yes, but she is around 120# or less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'2. I weigh 165 pounds. My BMI puts me at obese. (Yes, I understand the difference between BMI as a measure of population and the bastardized version of applying it to individuals.) I have a 32 inch waist and 45 inch hips (WHR of .71). According to size charts, I'm solidly in the 16-18 / XL / plus size category. BUT. I'm like an extreme triangle, in that my lower body weight is all booty and thighs (vice wide hips and belly) and my body narrows significantly from the waist upwards. My bra size is 32B. I buy tops in size small.

When I look in the mirror in the morning, I don't feel fat. But when I catch a glimpse of my reflection while out and about, all I can see is how enormous I look and how my clothes really don't flatter me.

Which is more accurate? The "Damn, you're cute" image as I leave home in the morning, or the "OMG you cow, just put down the fork!" image throughout the day?

I prefer curvy women, so, I'd agree with the "Damn, you're cute" description. Plus, I'm a sucker for large butts and thighs.

[Anonymous]

Have lipo. You look weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have lipo. You look weird.

Too bad you can’t lipo your personality.

[Anonymous]

OP , are you single?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP , are you single?

Why does this matter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP , are you single?

Why does this matter?

It doesn't. I'm just interested.

[Anonymous]

Have someone you trust take a video of you on your cell phone. See how it matches up with the internal image you have of your body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have someone you trust take a video of you on your cell phone. See how it matches up with the internal image you have of your body.

OP - I can help with this if you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have lipo. You look weird.

Your brain needs lipo

[Anonymous]

Las gorditas me encantan!

[Anonymous]

Why would you want random DCUMers telling you how to feel about yourself. For all we know, a 200 pound jerk is telling you that you are too fat. Focus on loving your body and treating it right, please.