Resolve this debate - is 20-25 min. to quick or too slow?
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Anonymous
| Please weigh in - I've been feeling that the time we spend making love is too quick and my DH disagrees saying it seems just right to him. So, without telling him I set my IPhone timer on twice and both times it was about 20-25 minutes. This is from when we first lock lips until we are done. I don't expect it should last an hour but the time just seems to fly by. I do know that time flies when you are having a good time! |
Anonymous
| Eh, that sounds like a good amount of time to me, but we have two small kids and are perpetually exhausted. Pre-kids we spent a lot longer when we were less tired and had lots of free time. |
Anonymous
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It is weird to put a clock on it. If you aren't satisfied with what is happening, it doesn't matter if it is 5 minutes or 3 hours.
What is it that you aren't getting out of it that you need? Talk to your husband about that. And please, never time it again. |
Anonymous
| Woman here- 20 minutes is right on point for me. |
Anonymous
Anonymous
| Just right |
Anonymous
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Are you unsatisfied, or do you just have an arbitrary number in your head of how long it should be?
If your needs aren’t being met, ask for more foreplay/oral/whatever it is you want. |
Anonymous
| So long as I O, I don’t care how fast he wants to be. |
Anonymous
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As always, "it depends". On the surface, I say it's plenty. Heck, 5-10 mins can be "plenty" depending on satisfaction level. Do you get off? If not, perhaps have him devote a little more time to that before he gets off.
Before kids, our sessions used to last an hour (start to finish) but it involved a LOT of kissing/stroking/etc before PIV. Now? Probably 5-10 mins lol b/c of exhaustion, late in night, etc. |
Anonymous
| You used a Timer ?? That is hilarious to me for some reason... |
Anonymous
| Once in a while we are super quick and both get off in like 15 minutes, we usually spend around 45 to an hour. |
Anonymous
| I've never actually timed it but 20-25 seems right. Foreplay is most of it because that's what I enjoy most. PIV only lasts about 4-5 min which is fine by me as much longer then that begins to hurt. I do my best to get my DH to be ready to fire and he doesn't seem to complain. |
Anonymous
20-25 minutes is above average.
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Anonymous
| Personally the quicker the better for me...I HATE long sex sessions and I'm female. But, I am pretty quick so there is that. 20-25...long!!! Do you have kids yet? I think all the physical touching you get from children seriously impacts my need for physical touching. A little and I'm good. And note...I do still like it...just not that much! |
Anonymous
+1 |