Resolve this debate - is 20-25 min. to quick or too slow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please weigh in - I've been feeling that the time we spend making love is too quick and my DH disagrees saying it seems just right to him. So, without telling him I set my IPhone timer on twice and both times it was about 20-25 minutes. This is from when we first lock lips until we are done. I don't expect it should last an hour but the time just seems to fly by. I do know that time flies when you are having a good time!

I think that’s perfect! Longer and I start having distracting thoughts. But I heat up fast with DH so 10 of foreplay, then 10 of intercourse is good for me.

[Anonymous]

25 min can be too fast or too slow depending on my mood. I usually like it slow and that can take 30 min but sometimes I'm simply incredibly horny and it only lasts 5-10 min. My DH doesn't complain because on those occasions I am the initiator and get very physical.

[Anonymous]

Huh. this is interesting. Is this a married people's thing, for it to be so short? Length of actual PIV is one thing - anything more than ten starts to be painful for me. But I like to spend time on foreplay. I feel like when I'm dating someone we can spend hours cuddling and hooking up and fooling around.

[Anonymous]

DW - I prefer quickies. 20-25 is long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW - I prefer quickies. 20-25 is long.

Is that because that's what gives you the most satisfaction, or are you more happy to be done with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh. this is interesting. Is this a married people's thing, for it to be so short? Length of actual PIV is one thing - anything more than ten starts to be painful for me. But I like to spend time on foreplay. I feel like when I'm dating someone we can spend hours cuddling and hooking up and fooling around.

LOL yes ain’t going to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW - I prefer quickies. 20-25 is long.

Is that because that's what gives you the most satisfaction, or are you more happy to be done with it?

satisfaction. completely. I like it hard and fast.

[Anonymous]

We usually take a break, perhaps a bite to eat, between the 2nd and 3rd hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW - I prefer quickies. 20-25 is long.

Is that because that's what gives you the most satisfaction, or are you more happy to be done with it?

satisfaction. completely. I like it hard and fast.

Just curious if you O from “hard and fast” PIV only or are you supplementing that with some manual stimulation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW - I prefer quickies. 20-25 is long.

Same.

[Anonymous]

I’m curious, like others, if you’re not satisfied or if you have some preconceived notion of how long it should last no matter what.

If you’re not satisfied, discuss that issue with him. Tell him what will get you there. If you’re not satisfied and he says game over, that’s a real issue and you have every right to tell him to step up. (If you’ve always faked it and pretended to be satisfied though, you can’t really blame him for thinking he did ok.)

If the issue is that you’re satisfied but in the movies it seems to last 3 hours and you want that, well, good luck to you. Pressuring him about his performance isnt likely to help his performance, especially if he’s already doing a good job.