Should financial aid in private school be stricter?

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Woe is me. The world so so unfair and everyone conspires to keep me down. Why can’t the someone else pays for everything I need. Why do I have to work so hard?!?!


Then just eliminate financial aid. I think it would be better. No give away to upper middle class families.


Since I can’t have it, nobody can.


It’s was sarchasm for the oligarch parent that was trolling another parent. But no. It’s very simple. Don’t give money to people that can pay for school. Very simple.


What are your criteria for who can pay? HHI, AGI, home equity, number of dependents, number of children enrolled, retirement balance, assets, or debt to income ratios? How do you know what these are for the ‘upper middle class’ families that you think are unfairly receiving aids?


This is why schools have a committee or office to determine who gets aid. No matter what they do or where they draw the line, people will complain. I'm more comfortable giving it to MC teachers to keep them longer. Some of them have been the best teachers we've had. One of our favorite teachers used this perk for her grandchildren and I thought it was a great way to reward ther tenure at the school. She was so helpful to my youngest, I think she changed my DD's life.


That’s fine for you, but would it be fine for the rest of the donors. Maybe or maybe not, because there is not full disclosure. This is not the school money, is the parents money by the way.


💯 absolutely!! It's the parent's money and they can designate how it's spent. At our school they can tick a box or fill in the blank. They can also write "I don't want teachers or MC people to receive any financial aid with this money", or, "I want all this money to upgrade the dining facilities", or, "I want this money to be spent to market in lower income communities", or, I want this money to be spent only on the girls basketball team". See how that works?

Maybe the donors should just donate to the facilities and their kids' sports - no financial aid at all. How would you find that? After all, they still get the same tax break.


That’s a good approach. In most schools financial aid is as opaque as the dark side of the moon.


Which school is that? I have 4 kids and we've been members of 4 communities through the years. I can allocate my donations at all those schools. I didn't realize there are schools that don't have that option for the donors. Which are these? I know most of the schools discussed on this forum have that as an option. You can also request to know the allocation of money. Also the report published every year. Some schools publish their annual report to the public, some don't.


For financial aid in us schools you donate to a fund and you CANNOT request that financial aid is allocate for low income families. This is decided arbitrarily by the school.


That is absolutely false. You can allocate at every school we've donated to. Clearly you have no experience with this.



Really? Can I say, please give my 1000 dollar donation to the Asian single mother than earns less than 150k. Obviously that does happen. Firs there is fundraising, and the school give away the money to well off families for random reasons.


You can absolutely do this. It would be a pain in the @ss for your school to administer this if it were a $1000 donation. Make it a $10K and watch your school rush to make it happen.

I don’t know what school you’re referring to that’s giving FA for random reasons. Our school uses an independent company to gather, validate, and assess the FA applications based on criteria the school established. Each application is assigned a grade. The clear No’s are removed and the committee review the Maybes and make their decision.



What your are saying for practical purposes does not work. I understand if you donate 10 million dollars. But for humble parents like I that can only donate 5k, that doesn’t work. Ok. Forget about it. Middle class families with financial aid can still go to Europe.


They should not be able to go to Europe if other parents are paying their tuition. I think that is the point. Private school is a luxury and not something you only pay what you can but still live a luxurious life. If you can t pay for private school then all extra income should go to the school. I would expect those on financial aid to go on my CV less expensive vacations.


Do you honestly believe that a family whose income + assets qualify them for financial aid are actually paying to go to Europe? You're mistaken. The numbers don't add up.

Their parents (students grandparents) pay for it. You never heard of parents giving their children gifts? The average home here is $1.5m+. Recipients of parent gifting are everywhere. Look to the left, look to the right, one of them or both are receiving gifts.


I know a family with two kids in private who ski in Utah and travel to Europe each year. They receive aid of $5,000 per child.


I also know a similar family that sail instead of ski. The grandparents fund the remaining tuition, vacations that include all extended family, and the kids' 529s. I want them to adopt me too. The family lives in a small 1 story bungalow, cute and tidy in the nice part of town. I guess their house is $1M. This arrangement, including that they are FA recipients, sits ok with me. The dad went to the school and had kids young. His family is wealthy, but he isn't (yet). The mom grew up poor in a southern state and is a sweet as can be. She's a SAHM. The kids are very kind and friendly, nothing exceptional about any of them.


That’s a lie. They would have to explain why the mom is a SAHM and not working (just so her kids can get FA) so you’re okay with that arrangement, but the persons with the “wrong color” should not receive any aid? Like make it make sense.


It doesn't have to make sense to you. Truth is you're probably not capable of understanding the truth anyway.

I never said what color they were.

The SAHM is with a SN kid that has lots of appointments.

Does that pass your harsh ignorant judgement test? Thank God you're not part of the admin. Your lack of understanding and empathy is truly next-level.


Amen, this is what I said 20 pages back. Thank God this person isn't in a decision making position. 49 pages of multiple explanations from multiple angles and this person continues to dig their heels in.


I would think the same if I were receiving financial aid. I also love free money.

But it’s not the case. I donate money and it’s reasonable to ask for accountability. Not sure what’s so controversial.


Any "accountability" that doesn't involve complete adherence to your extremely limited view will be enough for you. As many have mentioned, don't donate money if you don't support how it's being used. It's really that simple!


Sure. Don’t read my posts. It’s also simple. That’s ok. Let’s continue the give away to entitled upper class families. Let’s bring fake diversity to schools. Please exclude all the low income families. That’s what all inclusive families want.


Why anyone continues to respond to the sarcastic angry OP is beyond me. She has been saying the same thing for 50 pages now and is impervious to logic or reason. Ignore the troll, she will start another obnoxious thread very soon.


I really enjoy. Specially the part where inclusive families trash Lower income families. It’s very revealing of the idiosyncrasy of upper middle class parents. Also when upper middle class families try to justify their free money. Enjoy!


OP, literally no one has done that but you.
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Woe is me. The world so so unfair and everyone conspires to keep me down. Why can’t the someone else pays for everything I need. Why do I have to work so hard?!?!


Then just eliminate financial aid. I think it would be better. No give away to upper middle class families.


Since I can’t have it, nobody can.


It’s was sarchasm for the oligarch parent that was trolling another parent. But no. It’s very simple. Don’t give money to people that can pay for school. Very simple.


What are your criteria for who can pay? HHI, AGI, home equity, number of dependents, number of children enrolled, retirement balance, assets, or debt to income ratios? How do you know what these are for the ‘upper middle class’ families that you think are unfairly receiving aids?


This is why schools have a committee or office to determine who gets aid. No matter what they do or where they draw the line, people will complain. I'm more comfortable giving it to MC teachers to keep them longer. Some of them have been the best teachers we've had. One of our favorite teachers used this perk for her grandchildren and I thought it was a great way to reward ther tenure at the school. She was so helpful to my youngest, I think she changed my DD's life.


That’s fine for you, but would it be fine for the rest of the donors. Maybe or maybe not, because there is not full disclosure. This is not the school money, is the parents money by the way.


💯 absolutely!! It's the parent's money and they can designate how it's spent. At our school they can tick a box or fill in the blank. They can also write "I don't want teachers or MC people to receive any financial aid with this money", or, "I want all this money to upgrade the dining facilities", or, "I want this money to be spent to market in lower income communities", or, I want this money to be spent only on the girls basketball team". See how that works?

Maybe the donors should just donate to the facilities and their kids' sports - no financial aid at all. How would you find that? After all, they still get the same tax break.


That’s a good approach. In most schools financial aid is as opaque as the dark side of the moon.


Which school is that? I have 4 kids and we've been members of 4 communities through the years. I can allocate my donations at all those schools. I didn't realize there are schools that don't have that option for the donors. Which are these? I know most of the schools discussed on this forum have that as an option. You can also request to know the allocation of money. Also the report published every year. Some schools publish their annual report to the public, some don't.


For financial aid in us schools you donate to a fund and you CANNOT request that financial aid is allocate for low income families. This is decided arbitrarily by the school.


That is absolutely false. You can allocate at every school we've donated to. Clearly you have no experience with this.



Really? Can I say, please give my 1000 dollar donation to the Asian single mother than earns less than 150k. Obviously that does happen. Firs there is fundraising, and the school give away the money to well off families for random reasons.


You can absolutely do this. It would be a pain in the @ss for your school to administer this if it were a $1000 donation. Make it a $10K and watch your school rush to make it happen.

I don’t know what school you’re referring to that’s giving FA for random reasons. Our school uses an independent company to gather, validate, and assess the FA applications based on criteria the school established. Each application is assigned a grade. The clear No’s are removed and the committee review the Maybes and make their decision.



What your are saying for practical purposes does not work. I understand if you donate 10 million dollars. But for humble parents like I that can only donate 5k, that doesn’t work. Ok. Forget about it. Middle class families with financial aid can still go to Europe.


They should not be able to go to Europe if other parents are paying their tuition. I think that is the point. Private school is a luxury and not something you only pay what you can but still live a luxurious life. If you can t pay for private school then all extra income should go to the school. I would expect those on financial aid to go on my CV less expensive vacations.


Do you honestly believe that a family whose income + assets qualify them for financial aid are actually paying to go to Europe? You're mistaken. The numbers don't add up.

Their parents (students grandparents) pay for it. You never heard of parents giving their children gifts? The average home here is $1.5m+. Recipients of parent gifting are everywhere. Look to the left, look to the right, one of them or both are receiving gifts.


I know a family with two kids in private who ski in Utah and travel to Europe each year. They receive aid of $5,000 per child.


I also know a similar family that sail instead of ski. The grandparents fund the remaining tuition, vacations that include all extended family, and the kids' 529s. I want them to adopt me too. The family lives in a small 1 story bungalow, cute and tidy in the nice part of town. I guess their house is $1M. This arrangement, including that they are FA recipients, sits ok with me. The dad went to the school and had kids young. His family is wealthy, but he isn't (yet). The mom grew up poor in a southern state and is a sweet as can be. She's a SAHM. The kids are very kind and friendly, nothing exceptional about any of them.


That’s a lie. They would have to explain why the mom is a SAHM and not working (just so her kids can get FA) so you’re okay with that arrangement, but the persons with the “wrong color” should not receive any aid? Like make it make sense.


It doesn't have to make sense to you. Truth is you're probably not capable of understanding the truth anyway.

I never said what color they were.

The SAHM is with a SN kid that has lots of appointments.

Does that pass your harsh ignorant judgement test? Thank God you're not part of the admin. Your lack of understanding and empathy is truly next-level.


Amen, this is what I said 20 pages back. Thank God this person isn't in a decision making position. 49 pages of multiple explanations from multiple angles and this person continues to dig their heels in.


I would think the same if I were receiving financial aid. I also love free money.

But it’s not the case. I donate money and it’s reasonable to ask for accountability. Not sure what’s so controversial.


Any "accountability" that doesn't involve complete adherence to your extremely limited view will be enough for you. As many have mentioned, don't donate money if you don't support how it's being used. It's really that simple!


Sure. Don’t read my posts. It’s also simple. That’s ok. Let’s continue the give away to entitled upper class families. Let’s bring fake diversity to schools. Please exclude all the low income families. That’s what all inclusive families want.


Just stay public. No one wants you anyway.


That’s ok. I love that all parents get engaged with this thread, son they can learn more about the mentality of parents in private schools. Think about it. Middle class parents say that they should have priority in the financial aid that they receive and exclude low income families. I think people used to have more dignity.


Agree. It used to be frowned upon to pick fights with strangers, but dignity is gone.
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Woe is me. The world so so unfair and everyone conspires to keep me down. Why can’t the someone else pays for everything I need. Why do I have to work so hard?!?!


Then just eliminate financial aid. I think it would be better. No give away to upper middle class families.


Since I can’t have it, nobody can.


It’s was sarchasm for the oligarch parent that was trolling another parent. But no. It’s very simple. Don’t give money to people that can pay for school. Very simple.


What are your criteria for who can pay? HHI, AGI, home equity, number of dependents, number of children enrolled, retirement balance, assets, or debt to income ratios? How do you know what these are for the ‘upper middle class’ families that you think are unfairly receiving aids?


This is why schools have a committee or office to determine who gets aid. No matter what they do or where they draw the line, people will complain. I'm more comfortable giving it to MC teachers to keep them longer. Some of them have been the best teachers we've had. One of our favorite teachers used this perk for her grandchildren and I thought it was a great way to reward ther tenure at the school. She was so helpful to my youngest, I think she changed my DD's life.


That’s fine for you, but would it be fine for the rest of the donors. Maybe or maybe not, because there is not full disclosure. This is not the school money, is the parents money by the way.


💯 absolutely!! It's the parent's money and they can designate how it's spent. At our school they can tick a box or fill in the blank. They can also write "I don't want teachers or MC people to receive any financial aid with this money", or, "I want all this money to upgrade the dining facilities", or, "I want this money to be spent to market in lower income communities", or, I want this money to be spent only on the girls basketball team". See how that works?

Maybe the donors should just donate to the facilities and their kids' sports - no financial aid at all. How would you find that? After all, they still get the same tax break.


That’s a good approach. In most schools financial aid is as opaque as the dark side of the moon.


Which school is that? I have 4 kids and we've been members of 4 communities through the years. I can allocate my donations at all those schools. I didn't realize there are schools that don't have that option for the donors. Which are these? I know most of the schools discussed on this forum have that as an option. You can also request to know the allocation of money. Also the report published every year. Some schools publish their annual report to the public, some don't.


For financial aid in us schools you donate to a fund and you CANNOT request that financial aid is allocate for low income families. This is decided arbitrarily by the school.


That is absolutely false. You can allocate at every school we've donated to. Clearly you have no experience with this.



Really? Can I say, please give my 1000 dollar donation to the Asian single mother than earns less than 150k. Obviously that does happen. Firs there is fundraising, and the school give away the money to well off families for random reasons.


You can absolutely do this. It would be a pain in the @ss for your school to administer this if it were a $1000 donation. Make it a $10K and watch your school rush to make it happen.

I don’t know what school you’re referring to that’s giving FA for random reasons. Our school uses an independent company to gather, validate, and assess the FA applications based on criteria the school established. Each application is assigned a grade. The clear No’s are removed and the committee review the Maybes and make their decision.



What your are saying for practical purposes does not work. I understand if you donate 10 million dollars. But for humble parents like I that can only donate 5k, that doesn’t work. Ok. Forget about it. Middle class families with financial aid can still go to Europe.


They should not be able to go to Europe if other parents are paying their tuition. I think that is the point. Private school is a luxury and not something you only pay what you can but still live a luxurious life. If you can t pay for private school then all extra income should go to the school. I would expect those on financial aid to go on my CV less expensive vacations.


Do you honestly believe that a family whose income + assets qualify them for financial aid are actually paying to go to Europe? You're mistaken. The numbers don't add up.

Their parents (students grandparents) pay for it. You never heard of parents giving their children gifts? The average home here is $1.5m+. Recipients of parent gifting are everywhere. Look to the left, look to the right, one of them or both are receiving gifts.


I know a family with two kids in private who ski in Utah and travel to Europe each year. They receive aid of $5,000 per child.


I also know a similar family that sail instead of ski. The grandparents fund the remaining tuition, vacations that include all extended family, and the kids' 529s. I want them to adopt me too. The family lives in a small 1 story bungalow, cute and tidy in the nice part of town. I guess their house is $1M. This arrangement, including that they are FA recipients, sits ok with me. The dad went to the school and had kids young. His family is wealthy, but he isn't (yet). The mom grew up poor in a southern state and is a sweet as can be. She's a SAHM. The kids are very kind and friendly, nothing exceptional about any of them.


That’s a lie. They would have to explain why the mom is a SAHM and not working (just so her kids can get FA) so you’re okay with that arrangement, but the persons with the “wrong color” should not receive any aid? Like make it make sense.


It doesn't have to make sense to you. Truth is you're probably not capable of understanding the truth anyway.

I never said what color they were.

The SAHM is with a SN kid that has lots of appointments.

Does that pass your harsh ignorant judgement test? Thank God you're not part of the admin. Your lack of understanding and empathy is truly next-level.


Amen, this is what I said 20 pages back. Thank God this person isn't in a decision making position. 49 pages of multiple explanations from multiple angles and this person continues to dig their heels in.


I would think the same if I were receiving financial aid. I also love free money.

But it’s not the case. I donate money and it’s reasonable to ask for accountability. Not sure what’s so controversial.


Any "accountability" that doesn't involve complete adherence to your extremely limited view will be enough for you. As many have mentioned, don't donate money if you don't support how it's being used. It's really that simple!


Sure. Don’t read my posts. It’s also simple. That’s ok. Let’s continue the give away to entitled upper class families. Let’s bring fake diversity to schools. Please exclude all the low income families. That’s what all inclusive families want.


Why anyone continues to respond to the sarcastic angry OP is beyond me. She has been saying the same thing for 50 pages now and is impervious to logic or reason. Ignore the troll, she will start another obnoxious thread very soon.


I really enjoy. Specially the part where inclusive families trash Lower income families. It’s very revealing of the idiosyncrasy of upper middle class parents. Also when upper middle class families try to justify their free money. Enjoy!


OP, literally no one has done that but you.


Not really. I suggest to prioritize low income families for financial aid because they need more support, that’s something normal that many educations institutions do.

Read the 50+ pages and most families find it a crazy idea. Moreover most parents think low income income kids are not qualified for private schools.
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Woe is me. The world so so unfair and everyone conspires to keep me down. Why can’t the someone else pays for everything I need. Why do I have to work so hard?!?!


Then just eliminate financial aid. I think it would be better. No give away to upper middle class families.


Since I can’t have it, nobody can.


It’s was sarchasm for the oligarch parent that was trolling another parent. But no. It’s very simple. Don’t give money to people that can pay for school. Very simple.


What are your criteria for who can pay? HHI, AGI, home equity, number of dependents, number of children enrolled, retirement balance, assets, or debt to income ratios? How do you know what these are for the ‘upper middle class’ families that you think are unfairly receiving aids?


This is why schools have a committee or office to determine who gets aid. No matter what they do or where they draw the line, people will complain. I'm more comfortable giving it to MC teachers to keep them longer. Some of them have been the best teachers we've had. One of our favorite teachers used this perk for her grandchildren and I thought it was a great way to reward ther tenure at the school. She was so helpful to my youngest, I think she changed my DD's life.


That’s fine for you, but would it be fine for the rest of the donors. Maybe or maybe not, because there is not full disclosure. This is not the school money, is the parents money by the way.


💯 absolutely!! It's the parent's money and they can designate how it's spent. At our school they can tick a box or fill in the blank. They can also write "I don't want teachers or MC people to receive any financial aid with this money", or, "I want all this money to upgrade the dining facilities", or, "I want this money to be spent to market in lower income communities", or, I want this money to be spent only on the girls basketball team". See how that works?

Maybe the donors should just donate to the facilities and their kids' sports - no financial aid at all. How would you find that? After all, they still get the same tax break.


That’s a good approach. In most schools financial aid is as opaque as the dark side of the moon.


Which school is that? I have 4 kids and we've been members of 4 communities through the years. I can allocate my donations at all those schools. I didn't realize there are schools that don't have that option for the donors. Which are these? I know most of the schools discussed on this forum have that as an option. You can also request to know the allocation of money. Also the report published every year. Some schools publish their annual report to the public, some don't.


For financial aid in us schools you donate to a fund and you CANNOT request that financial aid is allocate for low income families. This is decided arbitrarily by the school.


That is absolutely false. You can allocate at every school we've donated to. Clearly you have no experience with this.



Really? Can I say, please give my 1000 dollar donation to the Asian single mother than earns less than 150k. Obviously that does happen. Firs there is fundraising, and the school give away the money to well off families for random reasons.


You can absolutely do this. It would be a pain in the @ss for your school to administer this if it were a $1000 donation. Make it a $10K and watch your school rush to make it happen.

I don’t know what school you’re referring to that’s giving FA for random reasons. Our school uses an independent company to gather, validate, and assess the FA applications based on criteria the school established. Each application is assigned a grade. The clear No’s are removed and the committee review the Maybes and make their decision.



What your are saying for practical purposes does not work. I understand if you donate 10 million dollars. But for humble parents like I that can only donate 5k, that doesn’t work. Ok. Forget about it. Middle class families with financial aid can still go to Europe.


They should not be able to go to Europe if other parents are paying their tuition. I think that is the point. Private school is a luxury and not something you only pay what you can but still live a luxurious life. If you can t pay for private school then all extra income should go to the school. I would expect those on financial aid to go on my CV less expensive vacations.


Do you honestly believe that a family whose income + assets qualify them for financial aid are actually paying to go to Europe? You're mistaken. The numbers don't add up.

Their parents (students grandparents) pay for it. You never heard of parents giving their children gifts? The average home here is $1.5m+. Recipients of parent gifting are everywhere. Look to the left, look to the right, one of them or both are receiving gifts.


I know a family with two kids in private who ski in Utah and travel to Europe each year. They receive aid of $5,000 per child.


I also know a similar family that sail instead of ski. The grandparents fund the remaining tuition, vacations that include all extended family, and the kids' 529s. I want them to adopt me too. The family lives in a small 1 story bungalow, cute and tidy in the nice part of town. I guess their house is $1M. This arrangement, including that they are FA recipients, sits ok with me. The dad went to the school and had kids young. His family is wealthy, but he isn't (yet). The mom grew up poor in a southern state and is a sweet as can be. She's a SAHM. The kids are very kind and friendly, nothing exceptional about any of them.


That’s a lie. They would have to explain why the mom is a SAHM and not working (just so her kids can get FA) so you’re okay with that arrangement, but the persons with the “wrong color” should not receive any aid? Like make it make sense.


It doesn't have to make sense to you. Truth is you're probably not capable of understanding the truth anyway.

I never said what color they were.

The SAHM is with a SN kid that has lots of appointments.

Does that pass your harsh ignorant judgement test? Thank God you're not part of the admin. Your lack of understanding and empathy is truly next-level.


Amen, this is what I said 20 pages back. Thank God this person isn't in a decision making position. 49 pages of multiple explanations from multiple angles and this person continues to dig their heels in.


I would think the same if I were receiving financial aid. I also love free money.

But it’s not the case. I donate money and it’s reasonable to ask for accountability. Not sure what’s so controversial.


Any "accountability" that doesn't involve complete adherence to your extremely limited view will be enough for you. As many have mentioned, don't donate money if you don't support how it's being used. It's really that simple!


Sure. Don’t read my posts. It’s also simple. That’s ok. Let’s continue the give away to entitled upper class families. Let’s bring fake diversity to schools. Please exclude all the low income families. That’s what all inclusive families want.


Just stay public. No one wants you anyway.


That’s ok. I love that all parents get engaged with this thread, son they can learn more about the mentality of parents in private schools. Think about it. Middle class parents say that they should have priority in the financial aid that they receive and exclude low income families. I think people used to have more dignity.


Agree. It used to be frowned upon to pick fights with strangers, but dignity is gone.


Totally agree…. Coming from a Stranger…. Noticing the irony here? ….
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Stop taking the bait, she is not persuaded by anyone on any of her threads. She has nothing new to add, just the same tired formula.


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I am MC, send my children to the top schools with financial aid and manage to get a vacation in once a year whether internationally or domestic. I notice ALL the other parents do the same, because who wants to be the kid not doing anything for the summer. I don't feel bad about anything, because my kids went through a rigorous application process: In person interview, application with multiple essays, 2 previous years report cards and grades, At least 2 letters of recommendation, testing and then separate from that filling out a very extensive financial aid application. The school knows my finances and what is affordable and they thought that our family would be a good fit for their community. I personally don't feel if you are lower class you should go to a day school (too many variables) but should go to private via a boarding school. I think lower class kids with much academic prowess would benefit more from an elite boarding school.

a) Boarding School: Takes the pressure off parents, who may have to discuss jobs, people know where you live, drive the child a far distance everyday, attend parties and galas (what if you don't have the time for that). In day school, I have literally seen mean kid behavior where a student printed an child's address calling them "poor" the embarrassment and disappointment in that can be avoided via boarding school.

b) Financial Aid: Aid at the top boarding schools (Exeter, Andover) is 10 times better and you can even get 100% of the costs covered if your income is low enough. Day schools in the DC area still require parents on aid to contribute a portion of their income to the tuition.

c) Also, sorry OP, but it isn't only "your dollars" that are contributing towards funding these alleged financial aid MC and UMC scammers. It is through the generosity of alumni, parents, and outside donors. So its a shared pot of money to attract qualified students.

Most of these kids go on to great careers and feel grateful for the education. So please after 50+++ pages, let's agree that financial aid is working well.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I am MC, send my children to the top schools with financial aid and manage to get a vacation in once a year whether internationally or domestic. I notice ALL the other parents do the same, because who wants to be the kid not doing anything for the summer. I don't feel bad about anything, because my kids went through a rigorous application process: In person interview, application with multiple essays, 2 previous years report cards and grades, At least 2 letters of recommendation, testing and then separate from that filling out a very extensive financial aid application. The school knows my finances and what is affordable and they thought that our family would be a good fit for their community. I personally don't feel if you are lower class you should go to a day school (too many variables) but should go to private via a boarding school. I think lower class kids with much academic prowess would benefit more from an elite boarding school.

a) Boarding School: Takes the pressure off parents, who may have to discuss jobs, people know where you live, drive the child a far distance everyday, attend parties and galas (what if you don't have the time for that). In day school, I have literally seen mean kid behavior where a student printed an child's address calling them "poor" the embarrassment and disappointment in that can be avoided via boarding school.

b) Financial Aid: Aid at the top boarding schools (Exeter, Andover) is 10 times better and you can even get 100% of the costs covered if your income is low enough. Day schools in the DC area still require parents on aid to contribute a portion of their income to the tuition.

c) Also, sorry OP, but it isn't only "your dollars" that are contributing towards funding these alleged financial aid MC and UMC scammers. It is through the generosity of alumni, parents, and outside donors. So its a shared pot of money to attract qualified students.

Most of these kids go on to great careers and feel grateful for the education. So please after 50+++ pages, let's agree that financial aid is working well.



Yes, I agree. It’s working well for you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.


I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.


After slavery ended, the U.S. government gave reparations to slave owners to compensate them for their ‘loss of property’. I thought that was super unfair. Instead of giving money and property to the slaves, who had nothing but the clothes on their backs and clearly needed it, they gave it to the wealthy white landowners. What do you think about this? Would you like to help correct this atrocity?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.


I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.


After slavery ended, the U.S. government gave reparations to slave owners to compensate them for their ‘loss of property’. I thought that was super unfair. Instead of giving money and property to the slaves, who had nothing but the clothes on their backs and clearly needed it, they gave it to the wealthy white landowners. What do you think about this? Would you like to help correct this atrocity?


Yes, schools can contribute to repair this atrocity by providing aid to low income families. That’s what I have been saying.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.


I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.


After slavery ended, the U.S. government gave reparations to slave owners to compensate them for their ‘loss of property’. I thought that was super unfair. Instead of giving money and property to the slaves, who had nothing but the clothes on their backs and clearly needed it, they gave it to the wealthy white landowners. What do you think about this? Would you like to help correct this atrocity?


Yes, schools can contribute to repair this atrocity by providing aid to low income families. That’s what I have been saying.

This has nothing to do with slavery. Schools give aid to the kids they think will make the student body better. The students benefit from a better education, but the school benefits by having a more desired student body.

Financial aid is not reparations to the families of the people enslaved on US soil. Those people deserve a cash dispersement.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.


I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.


After slavery ended, the U.S. government gave reparations to slave owners to compensate them for their ‘loss of property’. I thought that was super unfair. Instead of giving money and property to the slaves, who had nothing but the clothes on their backs and clearly needed it, they gave it to the wealthy white landowners. What do you think about this? Would you like to help correct this atrocity?


Yes, schools can contribute to repair this atrocity by providing aid to low income families. That’s what I have been saying.

This has nothing to do with slavery. Schools give aid to the kids they think will make the student body better. The students benefit from a better education, but the school benefits by having a more desired student body.

Financial aid is not reparations to the families of the people enslaved on US soil. Those people deserve a cash dispersement.


Stop responding to this instigator. It’s the same nonsense across several threads. It’s either a mom or a student who is spewing this.

They want to go to a top dmv private, but can’t afford it and don’t have the grades to get in. So everything keeps getting boiled down to scholarships being given to MC minorities and not them.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.


I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.


After slavery ended, the U.S. government gave reparations to slave owners to compensate them for their ‘loss of property’. I thought that was super unfair. Instead of giving money and property to the slaves, who had nothing but the clothes on their backs and clearly needed it, they gave it to the wealthy white landowners. What do you think about this? Would you like to help correct this atrocity?


Nope, they want to keep descendants of slavery uneducated, undereducated and out of any leadership or influential position that would elevate financial status equal to theirs. What better way to do that than to restrict access to promising students of color by making it financially impossible to attend?

When POC already make a 1/3 of what our counterparts make with the same level of education, experience and skill sets. Yet any attempt to “level the playing field” through financial aid, DEI programming, affirmative action is always met with vitriol.
Anonymous
The problem I was discussing here is more narrow that all the societal problems like slavery threats to democracy or climate change. The question is if financial aid be stricter? Given that money is limited, the answer is yes.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:The problem I was discussing here is more narrow that all the societal problems like slavery threats to democracy or climate change. The question is if financial aid be stricter? Given that money is limited, the answer is yes.


“Stricter” is a subjective term and clearly many people disagree with you about what criteria schools should prioritize when administering their aid budget. Thankfully you just seem to be an internet troll and in no real position of responsibility to make such decisions. Will look forward to your next display of nonsense coming soon.
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