Should financial aid in private school be stricter?

[Anonymous]

I see a lot of schools devoting a lot of effort in fundraising for financial aid, and the importance of financial to support diversity and families in need.

However, when I see the families that are using financial aid I see only upper middle class families with several children, and not even top performers.

Shouldn’t fínancial aid be stricter (let’s say truly low income households) and perhaps the brightest or athletic chidlren from middle class families.

In its current form (at least in my children’s school) the financial aid looks pretty much like a giveaway for well off parents. Does anyone observe the same pattern?

[Anonymous]

On what planet are you aware of the actual income and the assets/liabilities of other families and on what planet are you aware of everyone who applies and is granted FA?

Pro Tip: mind you own damn business. If you don’t want to give to the FA fundraisers, don’t. If you’re wealthy enough that it’s not even a consideration for you, be grateful.

[Anonymous]

If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On what planet are you aware of the actual income and the assets/liabilities of other families and on what planet are you aware of everyone who applies and is granted FA?

Pro Tip: mind you own damn business. If you don’t want to give to the FA fundraisers, don’t. If you’re wealthy enough that it’s not even a consideration for you, be grateful.

I do see that there are no low income families in my kids grade. All cars are big and new and all take several vacation trips a year. Do you think they qualify as low income families? Maybe you have a different concept of low income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.

I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On what planet are you aware of the actual income and the assets/liabilities of other families and on what planet are you aware of everyone who applies and is granted FA?

Pro Tip: mind you own damn business. If you don’t want to give to the FA fundraisers, don’t. If you’re wealthy enough that it’s not even a consideration for you, be grateful.

I do see that there are no low income families in my kids grade. All cars are big and new and all take several vacation trips a year. Do you think they qualify as low income families? Maybe you have a different concept of low income.

I have no idea if they are low income families but I do know that it’s none of your damn business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On what planet are you aware of the actual income and the assets/liabilities of other families and on what planet are you aware of everyone who applies and is granted FA?

Pro Tip: mind you own damn business. If you don’t want to give to the FA fundraisers, don’t. If you’re wealthy enough that it’s not even a consideration for you, be grateful.

I do see that there are no low income families in my kids grade. All cars are big and new and all take several vacation trips a year. Do you think they qualify as low income families? Maybe you have a different concept of low income.

So let me get this right, you don’t know what they do for a living but you do know:

A) That they drive big cars
B) That they go on fancy vacations
C) That they receive financial aid?

That’s an odd relationship that you have with other parents. Most people would share these other details (jobs, for example) before sharing their financial aid status with another parent. I guess you are unique.

[Anonymous]

Lots of defensiveness here. I’m with you OP. I’d much rather my school give scholarships to truly low income children who need a chance in life vs UMC families that want private but can’t afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.

I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.

Yes, it’s fair that well-off families should get all of your donations. They should also be required to send you Instas from their overseas trips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On what planet are you aware of the actual income and the assets/liabilities of other families and on what planet are you aware of everyone who applies and is granted FA?

Pro Tip: mind you own damn business. If you don’t want to give to the FA fundraisers, don’t. If you’re wealthy enough that it’s not even a consideration for you, be grateful.

I do see that there are no low income families in my kids grade. All cars are big and new and all take several vacation trips a year. Do you think they qualify as low income families? Maybe you have a different concept of low income.

I have no idea if they are low income families but I do know that it’s none of your damn business.

Really? Now it seems that financial aid money comes from thin air.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On what planet are you aware of the actual income and the assets/liabilities of other families and on what planet are you aware of everyone who applies and is granted FA?

Pro Tip: mind you own damn business. If you don’t want to give to the FA fundraisers, don’t. If you’re wealthy enough that it’s not even a consideration for you, be grateful.

I do see that there are no low income families in my kids grade. All cars are big and new and all take several vacation trips a year. Do you think they qualify as low income families? Maybe you have a different concept of low income.

So let me get this right, you don’t know what they do for a living but you do know:

A) That they drive big cars
B) That they go on fancy vacations
C) That they receive financial aid?

That’s an odd relationship that you have with other parents. Most people would share these other details (jobs, for example) before sharing their financial aid status with another parent. I guess you are unique.

It’s very logical if you have basic reading skills. You don’t see low income families in my kids school. And I bet it’s the same in your kids school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re unhappy with how YOUR donations are being used, designate how you want YOUR donations to be used. Or stop donating, problem solved.

I am not unhappy about anything. It’s just a question. Is it ok to subsidize well off families? Maybe you think it’s fair.

Yes, it’s fair that well-off families should get all of your donations. They should also be required to send you Instas from their overseas trips.

Sure! I would love to see your instas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of defensiveness here. I’m with you OP. I’d much rather my school give scholarships to truly low income children who need a chance in life vs UMC families that want private but can’t afford it.

I think well off families that receive financial aid are defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of defensiveness here. I’m with you OP. I’d much rather my school give scholarships to truly low income children who need a chance in life vs UMC families that want private but can’t afford it.

Most, if not everyone, would agree with this. If you don’t think your school is doing this, bring it up to your school’s board. If they don’t fix it, stop donating or start your own scholarship targeting the exact groups you want to help.

OP is nosy and making assumptions about people’s financial aid and income statuses. She probably doesn’t even donate to her school.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they are the poorest in your school. The very poor do not even apply as I find the process daunting.
Most kids from my child's class went private for middle school. They were not the top of the class. The top of the class is going to public because of money.