I make so much money my whole concept of money is distorted and it’s hard to relate others anymore

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We have a friend who makes a ton of money. He just invests and makes more money. Sounds like he invests millions and makes multiples of the millions. I don’t think he is quite a billionaire but has hundreds of millions.

He still has an elderly dying parent, kids and enjoys good company. He is super generous to friends, family and charities. He is an all around great guy and has powerful friends as well as friends and family with humble backgrounds. I know he is on multiple boards and seems busy yet makes time for his friends.

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Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of FAT FIRE people on reddit who are young with a lot of money. Go there.

There’s an entire sub that exists to make fun of r/fatfire, r/fijerk. It’s amazing.

[Anonymous]

Just some practical advice for OP, why don’t you build relationships based on WHO people are vs WHAT they have. Try it, you may make some unexpected friends. Focus and prioritize relationships that matter, THAT will make your life rich.

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Anonymous wrote:Just some practical advice for OP, why don’t you build relationships based on WHO people are vs WHAT they have. Try it, you may make some unexpected friends. Focus and prioritize relationships that matter, THAT will make your life rich.

Op here. I have some good old friendships. I assure you that money is not the base but it feels like I am being deceitful to hide things from them. It’s not like we have discussions about money but we have what I think are normal conversations about vacations, saving for college, helping age parents, refinancing a mortgage etc. And I have a hard time relating. So instead I just sit quiet while they all discuss it. It’s awkward for me and them. We all know why. And the subject is often changed to avoid it. But that is in an of itself awkward and unrelatable.

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Anonymous wrote:Just some practical advice for OP, why don’t you build relationships based on WHO people are vs WHAT they have. Try it, you may make some unexpected friends. Focus and prioritize relationships that matter, THAT will make your life rich.

Op here. I have some good old friendships. I assure you that money is not the base but it feels like I am being deceitful to hide things from them. It’s not like we have discussions about money but we have what I think are normal conversations about vacations, saving for college, helping age parents, refinancing a mortgage etc. And I have a hard time relating. So instead I just sit quiet while they all discuss it. It’s awkward for me and them. We all know why. And the subject is often changed to avoid it. But that is in an of itself awkward and unrelatable.

We have more money than our friends. I just don’t participate in some conversations. This can really be about anything you are not interested in. I personally don’t like sports. Sometimes people’s politics are different. I don’t always like the same books, movies, music, food, anything. I often don’t participate in the topic. This is pretty normal behavior. DH and I have no Bitcoin or GameStop. We have 2 good friends who talk about these 2 things often. People talk about college tuitions. We are fully funded plus can easily pay for college. I can still comment about different colleges and how tuitions have gone up. Or I say nothing.

I personally like to hang out with people who make me laugh and i have a good time. Talking about refinancing mortgages sounds like a pretty boring topic. I do have elderly parents and my friends support me through my hardship. Money and elder care costs is a non issue for us but watching my parents age and dying is painful. You can offer empathy and be a good friend.

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Anonymous wrote:Just some practical advice for OP, why don’t you build relationships based on WHO people are vs WHAT they have. Try it, you may make some unexpected friends. Focus and prioritize relationships that matter, THAT will make your life rich.

Op here. I have some good old friendships. I assure you that money is not the base but it feels like I am being deceitful to hide things from them. It’s not like we have discussions about money but we have what I think are normal conversations about vacations, saving for college, helping age parents, refinancing a mortgage etc. And I have a hard time relating. So instead I just sit quiet while they all discuss it. It’s awkward for me and them. We all know why. And the subject is often changed to avoid it. But that is in an of itself awkward and unrelatable.

You don’t sound like a very good friend.

Everyone has a rich friend. You could be the rich friend or not. It is not a big deal.

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OP, You are the one making things weird. It’s like you think everyone wants to be you and is jealous. Not everyone is so focused on money. We have more money than most but it isn’t a big deal to us or them. Like I said before, if it’s such a challenge to be with the little people, go move to a rich neighborhood, put your kids in private, join a country club and socialize amount those people.

[Anonymous]

You need to run in different circles. Start donating money to causes/universities/organizations of the types of things you want to get involved in. You'll find people there who are as wealthy or wealthier than you. But I would make sure you stay connected to family, friends, who really care about you. In the times of Covid, with the super rich going off to "safer" homes, you really realize that you need your core family, even if they aren't as rich as you.

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Anonymous wrote:Just some practical advice for OP, why don’t you build relationships based on WHO people are vs WHAT they have. Try it, you may make some unexpected friends. Focus and prioritize relationships that matter, THAT will make your life rich.

Op here. I have some good old friendships. I assure you that money is not the base but it feels like I am being deceitful to hide things from them. It’s not like we have discussions about money but we have what I think are normal conversations about vacations, saving for college, helping age parents, refinancing a mortgage etc. And I have a hard time relating. So instead I just sit quiet while they all discuss it. It’s awkward for me and them. We all know why. And the subject is often changed to avoid it. But that is in an of itself awkward and unrelatable.

OP, you’ve got no chill. That’s your problem. Do you also shut down when there’s any other topic of conversation that you can’t directly relate to? I can’t relate to having a car payment, but I still have enough social grace to contribute to a conversation about financing and ask various questions that show I’m at least interested in my friends affairs (did you get a loan from the bank or the dealer? Interesting choice!….. What’s your thoughts on leasing? Oh yeah me too!)
If you’re truly not a troll, you’re just not trying… people spend a lot less time thinking and caring about you and all your money than you think they do.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, You are the one making things weird. It’s like you think everyone wants to be you and is jealous. Not everyone is so focused on money. We have more money than most but it isn’t a big deal to us or them. Like I said before, if it’s such a challenge to be with the little people, go move to a rich neighborhood, put your kids in private, join a country club and socialize amount those people.

I totally agree. We come from humble beginnings. Professionally we are surrounded by wealth but personally we like to hang out with more down to earth people. We are Ivy educated, members of a country club, kids have rich and UMC friends, etc. I have the best time when I hang out with my childhood friends. I usually treat my old friends if I see them.

We also hang out plenty with the country club and successful business folks as well as lawyers and doctors. I just like my old friends better who happen to be more middle class. One of my closest friends is a special education preschool teacher and she is amazing.

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Anonymous wrote:And as a result there is literally no one to speak to about it. It’s not a financial problem (obviously), but it’s lonely and awkward. I’m sure this post will draw a bunch of “humblebrag” (or maybe outright brag) or violin complaints and probably a number of posters calling me a troll (that is what they always do to really high dollar posters). And then there will be a bunch of people suggesting that I speak to a financial advisor or attorney experienced with very high net worth and income without realizing that doing so is still awkward and unrelatable (sort of like a paid friend). It’s even worse if you are younger. Still at the moment it would be nice to know that there are others who experience the same and I’m not alone.

I feel for you, OP. Being rich is a lonely place and so disconnected from the rest of the world.

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Anonymous wrote:And as a result there is literally no one to speak to about it. It’s not a financial problem (obviously), but it’s lonely and awkward. I’m sure this post will draw a bunch of “humblebrag” (or maybe outright brag) or violin complaints and probably a number of posters calling me a troll (that is what they always do to really high dollar posters). And then there will be a bunch of people suggesting that I speak to a financial advisor or attorney experienced with very high net worth and income without realizing that doing so is still awkward and unrelatable (sort of like a paid friend). It’s even worse if you are younger. Still at the moment it would be nice to know that there are others who experience the same and I’m not alone.

I feel for you, OP. Being rich is a lonely place and so disconnected from the rest of the world.

Lol you mean from the poors???? You’re only disconnected because you chose to be ignorant about the millions and millions that don’t have your riches. But yeah go paint horse nails or buy rolexes made out of diamonds or whatever it is you rich folk do.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And as a result there is literally no one to speak to about it. It’s not a financial problem (obviously), but it’s lonely and awkward. I’m sure this post will draw a bunch of “humblebrag” (or maybe outright brag) or violin complaints and probably a number of posters calling me a troll (that is what they always do to really high dollar posters). And then there will be a bunch of people suggesting that I speak to a financial advisor or attorney experienced with very high net worth and income without realizing that doing so is still awkward and unrelatable (sort of like a paid friend). It’s even worse if you are younger. Still at the moment it would be nice to know that there are others who experience the same and I’m not alone.

I feel for you, OP. Being rich is a lonely place and so disconnected from the rest of the world.

I can take the problem off you if you want. Call me up.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just some practical advice for OP, why don’t you build relationships based on WHO people are vs WHAT they have. Try it, you may make some unexpected friends. Focus and prioritize relationships that matter, THAT will make your life rich.

Op here. I have some good old friendships. I assure you that money is not the base but it feels like I am being deceitful to hide things from them. It’s not like we have discussions about money but we have what I think are normal conversations about vacations, saving for college, helping age parents, refinancing a mortgage etc. And I have a hard time relating. So instead I just sit quiet while they all discuss it. It’s awkward for me and them. We all know why. And the subject is often changed to avoid it. But that is in an of itself awkward and unrelatable.

This may sound stupid, but... have you considered helping them financially? I don’t know how rich you are and whether they would accept it, but if a friend suddenly became rich and told me they have everything taken care of and will be happy to contribute to my kid’s 529, I would be over the moon

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Anonymous wrote:Spend some of that money on a therapist and stop your self pitying navel gazing. Some people have real problems.

Good luck with a therapist. As soon as OP hints as to the size of their wealth, the therapist will tune them out.

No they won’t. An intelligent therapist knows an annuity when one comes knocking.