I make so much money my whole concept of money is distorted and it’s hard to relate others anymore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I went from very poor as a kid and young adult to wealthy. Part of that was I was very driven in school as I didn't want to be poor again (meaning, avoiding financial insecurity is a big motivator)

So, anyways, that mindset is very different than people who have grown up with money (or grown up financially secure, even if not rich). So, if you are dealing with people who either don't have a lot of money, or dealing with people who have always had a lot of money, both experiences can make you feel like there is a disconnect.

So yes, finding people that are similarly situated is a good strategy (but you won't find that sympathy here, so go for real life)

Separate from the above: I disagree with you re your mindset about "paid friends." You need the financial advisor or attorneys. They are essential for their knowledge of how to deal with wealth.

As for a PP's comment that therapist not being sympathetic: I got one when my kid got really sick while my mom was dying and I was an anxious mess. My therapist wanted her clients to pay by check (she's older and didn't want to venmo etc). I discovered she had not cashed about a year's worth of my checks. It was crazy. At one point she was telling me not to worry about it, it was all her mistake and any check we couldn't find she would just not take payment on.

My point is, putting thoughts of how badly my therapist handles money aside, 1) she's an amazing therapist, and 2) She clearly isn't living paycheck to paycheck if she can not noticed that she has not cashed around 52 checks! Just because therapists don't make millions of dollars doesn't mean they don't have other sources of income; there are rich ones and poor ones. And they can help you. And I do see my therapist as sort of a "paid friend." OP, if you get ONE thing out of my post, I hope you get this: It's okay to have a few paid friends. I had to get over that, too. It's hubris. Get over it and get more people who are on your side in your life.

Why is it that people like this grow up to be so awful?

[Anonymous]

I used to work for the brother of a guy like this. The brother was worth ~500M. One time he sent my boss a couple tshirts from Calvin Klein that cost $2500 each for his birthday. I was his personal assistant (so my boss was pretty rich himself) and we laughed about it and then he had me return them and buy a ton of other really nice clothes from Calvin Klein. I had to call the main store in NYC to do the exchange and the people there were stumbling over themselves to help since the brother was such a big customer of theirs. I am sure that the brother just told his assistant to get some shirts from Calvin Klein for his brother and she didn’t even ask about the price. But, man those shirts were soft!

[Anonymous]

We are kind of in this situation. We have a HHI of $2m+ while most of our friends earn $200-300k. We don’t talk about money. They may notice our lifestyle has improved. We save a lot.

[Anonymous]

Death is the great leveler. Someday you'll be at death's door and your money won't matter at all.

OP, you need to get over yourself and focus on nurturing the connections in life. Plenty of people out there who don't give a shit about your money. Go make friends with some of them.

[Anonymous]

Do you like horses? Horses are wonderful and you can spend almost any amount of money on them. Also a good way to make private jet friends you can talk to about your money feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you like horses? Horses are wonderful and you can spend almost any amount of money on them. Also a good way to make private jet friends you can talk to about your money feelings.

I’m not even kidding.

[Anonymous]

Georgina Bloomberg got to have a horse show in Central Park, think about how much that cost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Georgina Bloomberg got to have a horse show in Central Park, think about how much that cost.

And at the Eiffel Tower! In fairness, this is a team effort by several daddies and husbands.

[Anonymous]

+ to the horses idea, I came here to say exactly that. You'll find some cool friends and then eventually you won't have so much money and can better relate to your old ones. Horses are great and so are some but not all horse people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And as a result there is literally no one to speak to about it. It’s not a financial problem (obviously), but it’s lonely and awkward. I’m sure this post will draw a bunch of “humblebrag” (or maybe outright brag) or violin complaints and probably a number of posters calling me a troll (that is what they always do to really high dollar posters). And then there will be a bunch of people suggesting that I speak to a financial advisor or attorney experienced with very high net worth and income without realizing that doing so is still awkward and unrelatable (sort of like a paid friend). It’s even worse if you are younger. Still at the moment it would be nice to know that there are others who experience the same and I’m not alone.

Do you have enough money to buy a yacht? Otherwise you don’t make a lot of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And as a result there is literally no one to speak to about it. It’s not a financial problem (obviously), but it’s lonely and awkward. I’m sure this post will draw a bunch of “humblebrag” (or maybe outright brag) or violin complaints and probably a number of posters calling me a troll (that is what they always do to really high dollar posters). And then there will be a bunch of people suggesting that I speak to a financial advisor or attorney experienced with very high net worth and income without realizing that doing so is still awkward and unrelatable (sort of like a paid friend). It’s even worse if you are younger. Still at the moment it would be nice to know that there are others who experience the same and I’m not alone.

You might find volunteering or donating may help?

[Anonymous]

Read “Siddartha” by H.Hesse. Life is not about just $$.

[Anonymous]

Move soon if this is sudden. Change your circles to be at optimal comfort. Despite the comments about money not mattering (BS) it does and it is better to be around those with similar concerns unless you want to live biting your tongue. Even keeping your secret wealth is impossible because little details will slip all the time. Better to get away before inducing the resentment of your current peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to work for the brother of a guy like this. The brother was worth ~500M. One time he sent my boss a couple tshirts from Calvin Klein that cost $2500 each for his birthday. I was his personal assistant (so my boss was pretty rich himself) and we laughed about it and then he had me return them and buy a ton of other really nice clothes from Calvin Klein. I had to call the main store in NYC to do the exchange and the people there were stumbling over themselves to help since the brother was such a big customer of theirs. I am sure that the brother just told his assistant to get some shirts from Calvin Klein for his brother and she didn’t even ask about the price. But, man those shirts were soft!

Wtf

What is hard to understand? The brother was so rich that he had no idea that $2500 was a ridiculous price to pay for a basic black tshirt. This is just one example. He was a nice guy. He just lost his connection to how regular people assign value to money.

[Anonymous]

So give your money away.

I'm an artist, why don't you be a benefactor to some artists like the days of yore. I could actually do what I want to do and make art specifically for you and your home if you support me.