How to filter for men who have or will have high incomes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re young enough with adequate grades from undergrad, go to a graduate program at an Ivy. Many people there are seeking their prospective spouses.

There is nothing wrong with not wanting to struggle, I do not understand a lot of these responses.

Same here. Maybe these are bitter people who feel that women like OP would reject them because they don't make a lot of money? Or wish they had found a spouse who made more money? What OP is doing is what a lot of UMC and UC parents did for their own kids - putting them in certain social circles, introducing them to certain families, to make a "good march." In fact, I remember the old joke that so and so went to college to get her MRS degree.

I, in my modest MC way, chose my DH not just because of physical attraction, personality, commonalaties, character, and shared life goals but because he had a stable job that provided a good living making a bit more than me. It was important because we both were looking to have children in wedlock and to raise them without a lot of financial struggle. People need to be at least somewhat aware about what their potential partner makes or could make so they know if they can have the life (and lifestyle) you would like. that. Thing with sussing out if they have a lot of commercial debt and student loans,, if they are careless with spending,, if they have no plans to save for retirement. Financial strife is one of the main causes of divorce and it makes sense to want to avoid all that.

I’m actually a rich dude that wants to be valued for more than my ability to provide a nice lifestyle and a bump in social class. I’m highly grateful that I met my wife when I was broke — I dodged a lot of these striving women who are really just low key gold diggers. On a semi related note, I was happy when I was broke, and I’m happy now that I’m rich — a lot of you social climbers won’t get to experience this because you’re so focused on the material aspect of life.

So? You are a rich guy so you are totally capable of judging “social climbers”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was single and you targeted me on a dating site, hoping I would take care of financially so you could quit your stupid admin job at whatever save the kittens non-prof you work at, and I found out all you care about is money, I would hit it and quit it. Men can see through desperation.

Most men who do well will look at you as “ easy p*ssy” and that’s it. They are not trying to marry someone who just wants to marry them because they make a lot of money.

[Anonymous]

I hid my light under a bushel for a few years while dating and saw the bad ones fall away. The keeper now lives in a 5-6 million dollar home, has a beach house, staff and a husband who makes 2-4 million a year. I also do most of the cooking. Cleaning is outsourced. My wife does all the scheduling and with 4 kids, it can be a real head ache. Still. Some patience and focus on character paid off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where do I find a wife who can support me? She should have a high income so I can be a SAHD. If I can’t find one of those, how do I find one who will deliver home cooked meals every night, sex on a regular basis (including blowjobs) and non-complaining nights out with my bros?

For your first idea, same advice I gave the OP— go to graduate school at one of the Ivy’s, people practice assortive mating and you may meet someone who wants kids but doesn’t want a nanny or to stay home.

For your second, I suggest UberEats and an escort service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe look for someone in the trades who owns their own business. Lots of plumbers and electricians making good money and they will be earning more than most lawyers because fewer and fewer people want to work in the trades while lawyers are a dime a dozen.

But stay away from hair barbers. Shudder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where do I find a wife who can support me? She should have a high income so I can be a SAHD. If I can’t find one of those, how do I find one who will deliver home cooked meals every night, sex on a regular basis (including blowjobs) and non-complaining nights out with my bros?

Gay man that is a politician.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hid my light under a bushel for a few years while dating and saw the bad ones fall away. The keeper now lives in a 5-6 million dollar home, has a beach house, staff and a husband who makes 2-4 million a year. I also do most of the cooking. Cleaning is outsourced. My wife does all the scheduling and with 4 kids, it can be a real head ache. Still. Some patience and focus on character paid off.

Hid your light under a bushel??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming OP is a straight woman?

Lololololol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lol something tells me that OP's gonna wind up old, unattractive, with cats, and on Prozac. We avoid you hags like the plague, just FYI. You lot are all too easy to sniff out.

Hahahahahaha this is so true. I can't stand and actively avoid the non-profit or government workers out there

I make $220K in my government job, not a fortune but not starving either. Good thing I also get $30K annually in dividends and $50K in rental income, and have several million banked. Good luck with your strategy. Oh yeah and hahahahaha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re young enough with adequate grades from undergrad, go to a graduate program at an Ivy. Many people there are seeking their prospective spouses.

There is nothing wrong with not wanting to struggle, I do not understand a lot of these responses.

Same here. Maybe these are bitter people who feel that women like OP would reject them because they don't make a lot of money? Or wish they had found a spouse who made more money? What OP is doing is what a lot of UMC and UC parents did for their own kids - putting them in certain social circles, introducing them to certain families, to make a "good march." In fact, I remember the old joke that so and so went to college to get her MRS degree.

I, in my modest MC way, chose my DH not just because of physical attraction, personality, commonalaties, character, and shared life goals but because he had a stable job that provided a good living making a bit more than me. It was important because we both were looking to have children in wedlock and to raise them without a lot of financial struggle. People need to be at least somewhat aware about what their potential partner makes or could make so they know if they can have the life (and lifestyle) you would like. that. Thing with sussing out if they have a lot of commercial debt and student loans,, if they are careless with spending,, if they have no plans to save for retirement. Financial strife is one of the main causes of divorce and it makes sense to want to avoid all that.

I’m actually a rich dude that wants to be valued for more than my ability to provide a nice lifestyle and a bump in social class. I’m highly grateful that I met my wife when I was broke — I dodged a lot of these striving women who are really just low key gold diggers. On a semi related note, I was happy when I was broke, and I’m happy now that I’m rich — a lot of you social climbers won’t get to experience this because you’re so focused on the material aspect of life.

I'm the PP. Congratulations on being rich and, I'm assuming, happy in your relationships. My DH is a public school teacher. I work for a nonprofit. I wasn't gold digging and striving for a captain of industry. Just a financially stable person who made a bit more than me so that we could have the family that we both wanted. We make together $225K. We're not rich, he did not need to be rich, I didn't need to be rich. We have the kids we wanted and could afford. We'll be able to retire at 58 and put our kids through college. We've been together 17 years. We're both really happy and I feel like I really lucked out spouses and children-wise. That is what I'm was talking about. Isn't the financial piece one piece of the puzzle?

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Definitely not at a not for profit. 😆
How about upping your skills and being successful on your own. Success gets success!

[Anonymous]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonic_treadmill


If you are empty and needing material things and wealth to fill you a rich husband isn’t going to do it; you need to figure out what is leaving that gigantic gaping hole inside of you, it’s not Louboutin shoes and BMWs I promise you.

If you are pretty enough and manipulative enough you can score yourself a rich guy but very quickly you will return to the same state you are in right now…..more, more, different, not better, more, worse, empty then miserable and lonely; this cycle has likely been playing itself out for your entire life, over and over and over again; maybe it was getting into the right clubs in junior high or having the sneakers that the rich girl did in sixth grade.

[Anonymous]

Why is this board so obsessed with money??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this board so obsessed with money??

Women that are lazy and don't want to work. They watch a lot of Real Housewives and want to emulate that lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're dating, how can you filter for men who either have a good income or will be making so in a few years?

I work in non-profits so all the men I meet are in similar salary range to me. (60k-110k) I'd like to see if I can swing higher.

Tell me again how this makes you any different than an escort? You are basically willing to date men for their money. And it's a high priority since that is what you're seeking.