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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you’re young enough with adequate grades from undergrad, go to a graduate program at an Ivy. Many people there are seeking their prospective spouses.

There is nothing wrong with not wanting to struggle, I do not understand a lot of these responses. [/quote]

Same here. Maybe these are bitter people who feel that women like OP would reject them because they don't make a lot of money? Or wish they had found a spouse who made more money? What OP is doing is what a lot of UMC and UC parents did for their own kids - putting them in certain social circles, introducing them to certain families,  to make a "good march." In fact, I remember the old joke that so and so went to college to get her MRS degree.

I, in my modest MC way, chose my DH not just because of physical attraction,  personality,  commonalaties, character, and shared life goals but because he had a stable job that provided a good living making a bit more than me. It was important because we both were looking to have children in wedlock and to raise them without a lot of financial struggle. People need to be at least somewhat aware about what their potential partner makes or could make so they know if they can have the life (and lifestyle) you would like. that. Thing with sussing out if they have a lot of commercial debt and student loans,, if they are careless with spending,, if they have no plans to save for retirement. Financial strife is one of the main causes of divorce and it makes sense to want to avoid all that.[/quote]

I’m actually a rich dude that wants to be valued for more than my ability to provide a nice lifestyle and a bump in social class. I’m highly grateful that I met my wife when I was broke — I dodged a lot of these striving women who are really just low key gold diggers. On a semi related note, I was happy when I was broke, and I’m happy now that I’m rich — a lot of you social climbers won’t get to experience this because you’re so focused on the material aspect of life.  [/quote]

I'm the PP. Congratulations on being rich and, I'm assuming, happy in your relationships. My DH is a public school teacher. I work for a nonprofit. I wasn't gold digging and striving for a captain of industry. Just a financially stable person who made a bit more than me so that we could have the family that we both wanted. We make together $225K. We're not rich, he did not need to be rich, I didn't need to be rich. We have the kids we wanted and could afford. We'll be able to retire at 58 and put our kids through college. We've been together 17 years. We're both really happy and I feel like I really lucked out spouses and children-wise. That is what I'm was talking about. Isn't the financial piece one piece of the puzzle?[/quote]

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