How to filter for men who have or will have high incomes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're dating, how can you filter for men who either have a good income or will be making so in a few years?

I work in non-profits so all the men I meet are in similar salary range to me. (60k-110k) I'd like to see if I can swing higher.

1. Look at what he does
2. Look at where he went to school
3. Look at where he grew up

Yes. It's not bulletproof but looking at simple facts will tell you someone's likely income trajectory.

Helping rich people (fintech, lawyer, botox specialist) pays better than helping people/things without money (helping the homeless, people leaving prison, the environment).

[Anonymous]

How transactional, you want a meaningful career that helps people...but won’t marry a man who shares your values. Sad and hypocritical.

[Anonymous]

Human earnings is a function of skills, experience, education, quality of education, demand in that field, etc.

Does he have in demand highly developed skills and education? Can he interview semi-decently? If so he’ll be paid well and more so as he advances his career.

Or is he unskilled, uneducated and illiterate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How transactional, you want a meaningful career that helps people...but won’t marry a man who shares your values. Sad and hypocritical.

Agree, she should marry a teacher or social worker like herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're dating, how can you filter for men who either have a good income or will be making so in a few years?

I work in non-profits so all the men I meet are in similar salary range to me. (60k-110k) I'd like to see if I can swing higher.

You look at what field he’s in and if he wants to stay in it, you’ll know what his earning potential is. Or even his current base salary and bonus range.

This knowledge comes from being in a career where you interact with lots of talent know the market rates, or you’re a headhunter. Or have MBA friends who know what start up, marketing roles, consulting roles, advisory roles, investing roles, nonprofit roles, etc make a year. Govt jobs and nonprofits publish their comp, or highest paying comp people (foia). You could look at job specs, sometimes they have salary and benefits on them, at junior levels.

Agree. If you work in business or went to bschool, you have a pretty accurate sense of what people make. There are also comp studies and surveys out all the time or noted in WSJ or FT articles about what doctors, surgeons, litigators, in-house roles, anything really make per year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's an app that will let you scan their barcodes.

LOL. 18 people use it, all in non-US cities. But the network is growing.

[Anonymous]

American women are the only women who shame each other for marrying up and attempting to better their own and potential children's financial situation.

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP and how old are you trying to date?

A 45 yr old has a lot less potential of making a lot of money if they haven’t done so already.

Income potential really only means something if you are in your 20s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:American women are the only women who shame each other for marrying up and attempting to better their own and potential children's financial situation.

It’s the 21st century. Make your own money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:American women are the only women who shame each other for marrying up and attempting to better their own and potential children's financial situation.

Yes, because it is 2021 and we prefer bettering our children's financial positions through increasing our OWN education and earning potential, not by luring a man who has figured out that formula.

Your model belongs in the dusty Dark ages of human evolution.

[Anonymous]

So you want to know how to find a rich dude willing to marry down?

[Anonymous]

Those men don’t need dating sites, unless they are married and using it to cheat outside of their work/social circle so as not to get caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:American women are the only women who shame each other for marrying up and attempting to better their own and potential children's financial situation.

It’s the 21st century. Make your own money.

Sure right after American husbands start raising their own kids and cleaning their own houses.

[Anonymous]

This seems simple to me.

Ask.

There are many men who determine their own self worth by this. Of course, then you need to look after all the other things you deem less important.

It’s fine to list money /income as your #1 qualifier. But then don’t complain when you get a bunch of other $hit that comes with it.

[Anonymous]

Date men in finance/investment banking/hedge funds.