I hate Mother’s Day.

[Anonymous]

For as long as I can remember, I have never enjoyed the day-- as a daughter or a mother. Leaving me the hell alone is all I really want yet never get. I much prefer Father's Day, but can't explain why.

I love my birthday and am okay with Christmas, but Mother's Day just bugs me for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm dreading next weekend too. My mom died in February. I can't wait to not have to hear about Mother's Day gifts, sales, brunches, etc.

I’m so sorry. My dads Bday was a week before Father’s Day and my mom used to combine the two the week in between because he didn’t want to make it a hassle for everyone. They were always such good times, with the grill and fun.

It was soooo hard the first two years after he died and being reminded and bombarded.

[Anonymous]

Just buy yourself something. That’s what I do.

[Anonymous]

I bet your mother hates you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dreading next weekend too. My mom died in February. I can't wait to not have to hear about Mother's Day gifts, sales, brunches, etc.

I’m so sorry. My dads Bday was a week before Father’s Day and my mom used to combine the two the week in between because he didn’t want to make it a hassle for everyone. They were always such good times, with the grill and fun.

It was soooo hard the first two years after he died and being reminded and bombarded.

PP here. Thank you. I broke down in tears after grocery shopping today because there were tons of Mother' Day balloons and cards in the store, as well as a cheery announcement about "don't forget to buy your mom a present!" My mom was only 60. I watched her die.

[Anonymous]

Another childfree woman with a dead mother. I'm pretty good at ignoring the endless onslaught of Mother's Day related advertising, including the inbox spam. If I happen to interact with friends or extended family with kids, I'll wish them a good day. Otherwise, it's just another non-observed day on my calendar like today (Orthodox Easter).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dreading next weekend too. My mom died in February. I can't wait to not have to hear about Mother's Day gifts, sales, brunches, etc.

My mom died in feb 2016. It was a gut wrench seeing anything Mother’s Day especially that first year. I’m sorry, I understand. It’s so hard.

That first year, it feels like a personal attack. It gets better, but 15 years later, it still stings. I’m sorry to everyone in this shitty club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dreading next weekend too. My mom died in February. I can't wait to not have to hear about Mother's Day gifts, sales, brunches, etc.

My mom died in feb 2016. It was a gut wrench seeing anything Mother’s Day especially that first year. I’m sorry, I understand. It’s so hard.

That first year, it feels like a personal attack. It gets better, but 15 years later, it still stings. I’m sorry to everyone in this shitty club.

I really like an earlier PP's suggestion to write a card to your mom as if you would send it. It truly is a shitty club, but I'm glad some of us here are in it together.

[Anonymous]

Interesting thread. Unlike many here I like Mother’s Day. Growing up we always had an extended family BBQ. Today, I give mom and MIL a card and flowers or a gift card and a phone call.

In our house the morning is spent with the kids. They have their gifts and make breakfast. After breakfast the day is always free for me. I leave and DH is solo for the day. It is glorious. He usually BBQ for dinner or orders in.

Thoughts to all those who have lost your mom. I know this will change it for me and I will forever be nostalgic on the day. But, it means I had a great mom and I am lucky I have had her for almost 50 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet your mother hates you

OP here, honestly I'd prefer it if she did! Which I'm sure a lot of people here who have lose mothers think is callous and unfeeling, but my mother has not been a great mother and keeping her in my life is something I've grappled with my entire adult life. My conscience won't let me sever the cord. If she hated me it would take all the guilt I have felt for the last 15 years of keeping her at arm's length and have it disappear in a poof!

[Anonymous]

I like the feeling behind mother's day, but the push for gifts is too much. Even sending flowers to your mom is $$$. I'd rather it just be a thing where moms of kids at home celebrate. I like having a special breakfast and lunch that dh and the kids make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I really don't understand people like you. Stop expecting people to do extraordinary things for you. Stop doing things for ungrateful people.

For Mother's Day, I state clearly what I want, and knowing my family, I ask for things they can give. Usually I want them to clean the house, instead of me. That's all. I prefer to do my own fancy meal. My family gives me flowers and perhaps a card - I really don't care, and don't ask for them. There is never a gift. I don't give a gift for Father's Day either.

My husband and I then call our respective mothers to wish them a happy day. That's it. No cards, no flowers. Just a nice conversation.

Seriously. Just enjoy the day reflecting on the fact that to all intents and purposes you're a devilishly lucky person with a family. It doesn't take any material goods to do that.

You're an effing moron if that is one of the takeaways from OP's post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet your mother hates you

I bet everyone hates you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You send your mom and stepmom flowers and you call and leave a message if they don't answer. Then turn your phone off. Book yourself a spa treatment or something. And then get therapy to learn to stand up to people.

I did this PP. I'm sure you won't read this, but I basically did this exactly. And I had a very nice day this year that I feel good about. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

I'm OP...who just responded above