sorority hazing

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Anonymous wrote:This is the chance you take when joining a fraternity or sorority. It's one of the reasons I went to a college without a Greek system. They have to do something to really set themselves apart, otherwise they would be just like any other club, but without anything to bond them together. Partying is the bond.

You know that you can go to a school with a Greek system and just have sense enough not to participate, right?

And responsible parents should say no.

I can only imagine how hard we would have laughed if our frat had given a bid to a rushee, only to have him reach out before bid day and tell us, "I want to pledge, but my mommy and daddy won't let me, even though I'm in college, not middle school." That kid would have forever been known on campus as King Dorkus Geed. Luckily, helicopter and bulldozer parents were a much rarer thing when I was in college.

[Anonymous]

UVA in the 90s - my sorority did not haze nor did other sororities as far as I heard. The fraternities all hazed.

FYI for people who have a certain view of sororities - there can be a wide range of houses. They are not all like what you are imagining. Most of the girls in my sorority had middle class backgrounds, many were first generation Americans, we had a lot of minorities, engineering students, and ROTC. Yes, you pay dues but “buying friends” is not quite accurate. I did become close to a lot of the girls but also had other friends. UVA is a big school and it was a way to meet people and make it feel a bit smaller. Everyone in my sorority had other clubs, sports, and activities that they also participated in. It was just one of many social outlets.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother went to UVa back in the day and just skipped the Greek life. I went to a school with no Greek life allowed. I didn’t want to be on a campus where social life was based on excluding people from the get go.

Oh please, if exclusion is your bar then you better toughen up. There are lots of schools, clubs, etc. that exclude "from the get go." There are lots of things to criticize re: Greek system. That is not one of them.

Ugh, you again? There are no other organizations that require you to audition for, and then pay for, friends. That’s so basic it’s astounding it has to be explained to you over and over.

Because you sound stupid. If you don't think there are groups across college and in adult life that exclude on different bases and require you to "pay for your friends", you are in fact stupid. Greek houses are no different from that in that respect. It's just not. There have been multiple examples of htat given here and on other threads. You just have a stick up your ass about the Greek system. That's fine. But doesn't make you right. At all.

You’re actually lumping frats and sororities in with organizations that choose people based on grades, athletic ability, musical/acting talent (MERIT)? And you’re calling other people stupid?? Tell us, what’s the criteria for getting into a frat/sorority?
1. Popularity
2. Good looks
3. Money

How lame and sad.

It is lame and sad to denigrate organizations about which you know nothing. You’ve formed your biases and you haven’t even bothered to understand how and why fraternities and sororities operate/exist. Before being so hateful and judgmental, perhaps you should spend some time researching the organizations. If you are going to form prejudices at least form them with some knowledge and basis in fact.

Greek houses exist primarily to party. They throw a little charity work/fundraising in as cover. But everyone on this planet knows what their actual mission is. And “doing good works” is nowhere near the top of the list.

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Anonymous wrote:They all do it , schools turn a blind eye to most of it because of the money involved.

Schools are businesses, nothing more. a relative was killed in a hazing incident, they go through the motions to make people think they are taking care of it but they don't.

+1, and I’m sorry for your loss.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother went to UVa back in the day and just skipped the Greek life. I went to a school with no Greek life allowed. I didn’t want to be on a campus where social life was based on excluding people from the get go.

Oh please, if exclusion is your bar then you better toughen up. There are lots of schools, clubs, etc. that exclude "from the get go." There are lots of things to criticize re: Greek system. That is not one of them.

Ugh, you again? There are no other organizations that require you to audition for, and then pay for, friends. That’s so basic it’s astounding it has to be explained to you over and over.

Because you sound stupid. If you don't think there are groups across college and in adult life that exclude on different bases and require you to "pay for your friends", you are in fact stupid. Greek houses are no different from that in that respect. It's just not. There have been multiple examples of htat given here and on other threads. You just have a stick up your ass about the Greek system. That's fine. But doesn't make you right. At all.

DP. And that’s the sort of society you like, is it? Why is that?

DP. like it or not, the college itself (the place you presumably want DC to make friends) discriminates based on the ability to pay. The same is true for private school and public if you go to a neighborhood with expensive homes. The same is true for youth sports, youth camps and even a ton of youth service organizations. the Greek system is just another group where your kid makes friends based on the ability to pay in a long line that your kid has been exposed to since they started school

You can’t even be serious. Why do girls have to buy a whole new wardrobe for rush? Gotta look the part, amirite?

Where did you go to school- that certainly wasn’t the case where I went

DP. Maybe a better question is where did you go to school? My neighbor’s daughter was stressed out beyond belief at all the new outfits she had to buy - one for every day of rush, plus formals, etc. She goes to UVA.