This seems common sense, but it is wrong! Read "Why we get fat" by Gary Taubes. As a reviewer put it, "This is not a diet book. It is a careful and compelling review of the science of diet and human biochemistry." |
| There are many men who love and adore a size 14 figure. Me included. DW fluctuates between 12 and 14. |
How tall is your wife? |
Interesting that there is one (or more) posters who are really into the idea that men only want to have sex with size 14 women, not date or marry them. You must be very confused.
/woman like yours |
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thesun.co.uk/living/4140313/these-four-women-all-size-16/amp/ The lady on the left is size 14 and 5 feet. She isn’t obscenely overweight. I think you should focus on your self esteem. In the chats you posted, you give off an insecure vibe and predator men will take advantage of that. Don’t focus their attention on your looks but on your common interests, hobbies, personalities. Keep on exercising because that makes you feel better mentally and physically. Try to lose a few pounds by tracking calories in and out. Don’t take drastic measures but go slowly. And connect with men based on shared interests, not looks. Don’t sell yourself short. |
height makes a huge diff |
They all look out of shape. |
Out of your shape maybe. They are way in to their own shape. |
| Those women are actually a US size 12- UK sizes are 4 bigger than US |
US 14 is equivalent to UK 16. |
I don't look like the women above but more like the 2 shortest women in this picture. I wear a size 16 for tops usually. THe picture above the short woman looks like she is a sz 22 at least.
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I'm the first person that responded last night. I'm 5'3" and a size 12-14. I attract all kinds of men, not just skinny white guys. I'm also highly educated, and that's attractive to a certain kind of man. I have dated men of all races and colors and body shapes and sizes. I don't put out easily either.
To the OP- I recognize the app you're on, it's Bumble. I've been on and off there for a while. Sure, there are some guys just looking for sex, but some want a genuine connection. I think that you need to work on your self esteem, that's no way to start a chat with someone. You want to project confidence and self acceptance. For every 10-15 guys you match with, you'll probably meet 1-2. That's just the way it is. Give them the benefit of the doubt, look at what their profile says they're looking for (something casual, not sure, relationship, marriage) and make sure that your bio also honestly reflects what you want. Don't be afraid to ask them what they're looking for, it's a really common question. FWIW, (some) men see women as curvy (at least that's how they always describe me), not chubby or fat or any other pejorative term. I get compliments on my curves a lot. |
| I’m a size 10/12 and DH can’t keep his skinny hands off me, haha! I’m sure there are hateful women out there who who would call me fat but IDGAF. There is a lid for every pot and I refuse to starve myself to meet some ideal my curvy body will fight against anyway. |
Nicola is a lie. |