Would you disown your child if they committed a serious crime?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. This is called unconditional love. You don’t approve of what they do but they are always your kids and you are always their mother.

I've always believed this but if one of my children raped and murdered another person, I just don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeffrey Dahmer, yes, in a heartbeat. They would no longer be mine.

I just finished the new Netflix show about him and was reminded that his dad, in particular, publicly stuck by him until his violent end. They did a tv interview together in prison. I understand unconditional love but boy, what J Dahmer did really pushes the boundaries of most peoples capacity to meet that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

Unless you are as messed up as your offspring - Kyle Rittenhouse.

Kyle Rittenhouse is not a criminal. If my child had to kill to protect themselves against someone who attacked them unprovoked I would certainly stand by them.

If they committed an actual real serious crime it would be harder. I wouldn’t enable or defend them but I would visit them in prison and so they could feel they still had a family, it would be my cross to bear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

Unless you are as messed up as your offspring - Kyle Rittenhouse.

Kyle Rittenhouse is not a criminal. If my child had to kill to protect themselves against someone who attacked them unprovoked I would certainly stand by them.

If they committed an actual real serious crime it would be harder. I wouldn’t enable or defend them but I would visit them in prison and so they could feel they still had a family, it would be my cross to bear.

If my 17 year old grabbed an AR-15 and headed to a protest to “protect local businesses,” and subsequently killed two men in self defense, I certainly wouldn’t disown my kid, but I would think they are the biggest dumbass and I failed them as a parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jeffrey Dahmer, yes, in a heartbeat. They would no longer be mine.

I just finished the new Netflix show about him and was reminded that his dad, in particular, publicly stuck by him until his violent end. They did a tv interview together in prison. I understand unconditional love but boy, what J Dahmer did really pushes the boundaries of most peoples capacity to meet that.

The dad just kept making excuses for him. He seemed to think most things weren’t Jeffrey’s fault. I’m sure he carried guilt from the marriage and divorce but this is an example I think, of overcorrecting.

[Anonymous]

I think I’d feel a lot of guilt as the parent and wonder what mistakes I made or things I did/didn’t do to cause my child to commit a horrific crime. I don’t see myself disowning them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be devastated. I’d question my parenting and what I did wrong for the rest of my life. I’d hold them accountable and wouldn’t defend their crimes. But no I would not disown them.

I like to think this is how I would be.

[Anonymous]

If your kid was the Sandy Hook killer, Adam Lanza, who killed those children, would you disown him? (Had he lived.)

[Anonymous]

I often ponder this question whenever a horrible crime is reported. For example, the Sandy Hook shooter. Had he lived, if I were the parent I would disown him.

Not every person is redeemable. Unconditional love does not extend to psychopathic murderers, nor pedos or some other heinous criminals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

What's interesting is that Timothy McVeigh would be a GOP hero is this happened now. That's how sick the GOP has become.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your kid was the Sandy Hook killer, Adam Lanza, who killed those children, would you disown him? (Had he lived.)

He killed his mom first so...

[Anonymous]

My mil did because her adult child stole lots of money from her and the other hrandchildrem/siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

What's interesting is that Timothy McVeigh would be a GOP hero is this happened now. That's how sick the GOP has become.

You’re so precious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kid was the Sandy Hook killer, Adam Lanza, who killed those children, would you disown him? (Had he lived.)

He killed his mom first so...

Right. The question was hypothetical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I’d feel a lot of guilt as the parent and wonder what mistakes I made or things I did/didn’t do to cause my child to commit a horrific crime. I don’t see myself disowning them.

You're assuming that we have the power to make or break our children and except in the most extreme cases I don't know that that is true. We are shepherds not creators.