Would you disown your child if they committed a serious crime?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be devastated. I’d question my parenting and what I did wrong for the rest of my life. I’d hold them accountable and wouldn’t defend their crimes. But no I would not disown them.

+1 this

You could visit your child in prison/remain in contact knowing they were convicted of pedophilia, rape and/or murder? Speaking that they were 100% guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of serious crime?

I would need to distance myself for pedophilia, rape, and similar.

By serious crime, I mean anything that causes serious injury/long-term consequences.

I think it's understandable that you would distance yourself in those cases. If you don't mind me asking, why? Would it be because of the social stigma, or because you would need to protect yourself and your family from them?

It would be because of the strong, overwhelming surge of hatred and disgust I feel for pedophiles and rapists. Would YOU be able to remain in the life of a man who, for example, raped a baby? Murdered somebody for the fun of it? Etc. There are some crimes that invalidate a person's worth as a human being.

Totally agree.

[Anonymous]

From what I’ve seen, parents don’t disown their kids.

Our neighbors have a son who is a convicted rapist. I don’t know the details, but it was bad since he was sentenced to 20+ years and wears an ankle monitor. He still lives with them for periods of time, they protect him from the other neighbors who want him out, and from what I’ve overheard, he walks all over his parents and treats them terribly. But they still tolerate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From what I’ve seen, parents don’t disown their kids.

Our neighbors have a son who is a convicted rapist. I don’t know the details, but it was bad since he was sentenced to 20+ years and wears an ankle monitor. He still lives with them for periods of time, they protect him from the other neighbors who want him out, and from what I’ve overheard, he walks all over his parents and treats them terribly. But they still tolerate it.

PP here - I totally forgot, even my own brother is an example. He’s extremely violent and has been convicted of multiple crimes. But our mom refuses to stop enabling him, bought him a house, and sends him money out of “love”.

All the examples I know are male, and usually it’s the mom who is the worst enabler. I wonder if it’s different for females/dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be devastated. I’d question my parenting and what I did wrong for the rest of my life. I’d hold them accountable and wouldn’t defend their crimes. But no I would not disown them.

So, mostly about you then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be devastated. I’d question my parenting and what I did wrong for the rest of my life. I’d hold them accountable and wouldn’t defend their crimes. But no I would not disown them.

So, mostly about you then?

Not person you're replying to. Why this response? They were answering the question like everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can hold your child accountable for his/her actions and change your boundaries to keep yourself and your other family safe without disowning him/her.

+1. I would never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be devastated. I’d question my parenting and what I did wrong for the rest of my life. I’d hold them accountable and wouldn’t defend their crimes. But no I would not disown them.

+1 this

You could visit your child in prison/remain in contact knowing they were convicted of pedophilia, rape and/or murder? Speaking that they were 100% guilty.

Of course! I wouldn’t stop loving them. I would be very sad and disappointed, but they’d always be my baby.

[Anonymous]

Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

Unless you are as messed up as your offspring - Kyle Rittenhouse.

[Anonymous]

Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

Also, I would disown a child who worked worked for the Trump administration and would divorce DH of he worked for this evil man.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing my children could do that would ever make me disown them. They could stab me in the heart and my dying words would be “I love you”. My love for my children is 100% unconditional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing. Yes I would.

Also, I would disown a child who worked worked for the Trump administration and would divorce DH of he worked for this evil man.

It’s sad that your children will never know unconditional love and acceptance. I despise trump. Thankfully, my children do as well. I would not disown them if they supported him.

[Anonymous]

Rape, incest, pedophilia, murder, kidnapping, violent crimes: absolutely.
White-collar crimes: depends.

[Anonymous]

No, my mother told me she’d always love me even if I committed a heinous crime. She said that she would not support me in my crime, but she’d always love me.