Is is awful to not care about nieces and nephews?

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t care less about DH sibling’s kids. Sorry, not sorry. I too could go the rest of my life without seeing them and be fine with it. I also assume DH feels the same about my family, I expect as much and as just fine with it. Truth be told, I tolerate my nieces and nephew, that’s the extent. I save my energy and love for my own kids.

Would you take them in if any of them were going to foster care?

No! And should not be guilted or expected to.

Wow. I’m childfree and basically dread being around kids, but I’d totally take in my sister in law’s kids if she and her husband both died. That’s your family, you know.

It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

You are not obligated to pay for their college, but providing a safe home with bed and food, and opportunity to study in school is a great start in life. No one is raising kids in the hopes that they will take care of you in the old age. Some people just do it out of love and care for children.

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t care less about DH sibling’s kids. Sorry, not sorry. I too could go the rest of my life without seeing them and be fine with it. I also assume DH feels the same about my family, I expect as much and as just fine with it. Truth be told, I tolerate my nieces and nephew, that’s the extent. I save my energy and love for my own kids.

Would you take them in if any of them were going to foster care?

No! And should not be guilted or expected to.

Wow. I’m childfree and basically dread being around kids, but I’d totally take in my sister in law’s kids if she and her husband both died. That’s your family, you know.

It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

Nice thing to do, but not legally or morally required.

Is a child’s college education not covered in DC if their raised by a family member? Even in hell hole Florida they have this safety net!

Huh? No one, whether they’re living with they’re bio parents or not, is legally entitled to have their college education payed for outright in cash. Sounds like you need to get out more.

You need to get out more, it’s how I got my University Education paid for, and most adoptees do. As I stated above.

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When you get married it is no long his and her family, it is our family.

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My SIL is like this, I can tell it is a real chore for her.

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Anonymous wrote:My husbands aunt took him in when he lost his parents, and he repaid her a million times over by caring for her tenderly over the next 50 plus years through dementia and until her death.

But how do you mandate that? You can't.

And you think you can mandate that with your kids?! That’s asking for ALOT.

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t care less about DH sibling’s kids. Sorry, not sorry. I too could go the rest of my life without seeing them and be fine with it. I also assume DH feels the same about my family, I expect as much and as just fine with it. Truth be told, I tolerate my nieces and nephew, that’s the extent. I save my energy and love for my own kids.

Would you take them in if any of them were going to foster care?

No! And should not be guilted or expected to.

Wow. I’m childfree and basically dread being around kids, but I’d totally take in my sister in law’s kids if she and her husband both died. That’s your family, you know.

It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

You could also have DC pay for all of that, DC pays the most stipend wise if that’s what you’re worried about...

But it seems like you literally don’t give a s*** about those kids, so their probably better off.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously guys? You are all awful. This is your family too, doesn’t matter whether by blood or marriage. If they’ve done nothing to you, you can’t muster up the wherewithal to send a happy birthday? Geez. Awful, just awful. You don’t need to remember birthdays, Put them in your phone once. You do not have to attend every birthday party but a simple acknowledgement is the least you can do.

+1. Wtf? I am obsessed with my husband’s brother’s kids. They are soooo cute!

Well, and my husband's brother's kids are friggin' spoiled brats. I can't stand being around them. Granted, it's not their fault, but still.
If your nieces and nephews are 'sooo cute', well, enjoy.

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t care less about DH sibling’s kids. Sorry, not sorry. I too could go the rest of my life without seeing them and be fine with it. I also assume DH feels the same about my family, I expect as much and as just fine with it. Truth be told, I tolerate my nieces and nephew, that’s the extent. I save my energy and love for my own kids.

Would you take them in if any of them were going to foster care?

No! And should not be guilted or expected to.

Wow. I’m childfree and basically dread being around kids, but I’d totally take in my sister in law’s kids if she and her husband both died. That’s your family, you know.

It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

Nice thing to do, but not legally or morally required.

Is a child’s college education not covered in DC if their raised by a family member? Even in hell hole Florida they have this safety net!

Huh? No one, whether they’re living with they’re bio parents or not, is legally entitled to have their college education payed for outright in cash. Sounds like you need to get out more.

You need to get out more, it’s how I got my University Education paid for, and most adoptees do. As I stated above.

Cite. Florida has a lot of “free tuition for X gpa and SAT” programs that aren’t present in the northeast. Who pays for it?

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t care less about DH sibling’s kids. Sorry, not sorry. I too could go the rest of my life without seeing them and be fine with it. I also assume DH feels the same about my family, I expect as much and as just fine with it. Truth be told, I tolerate my nieces and nephew, that’s the extent. I save my energy and love for my own kids.

Would you take them in if any of them were going to foster care?

No! And should not be guilted or expected to.

Wow. I’m childfree and basically dread being around kids, but I’d totally take in my sister in law’s kids if she and her husband both died. That’s your family, you know.

It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

Nice thing to do, but not legally or morally required.

Is a child’s college education not covered in DC if their raised by a family member? Even in hell hole Florida they have this safety net!

Huh? No one, whether they’re living with they’re bio parents or not, is legally entitled to have their college education payed for outright in cash. Sounds like you need to get out more.

You need to get out more, it’s how I got my University Education paid for, and most adoptees do. As I stated above.

Cite. Florida has a lot of “free tuition for X gpa and SAT” programs that aren’t present in the northeast. Who pays for it?

You can’t google it?!
https://www.myflfamilies.com/service-programs/independent-living/tuition-fee-exemption.shtml


Students may even be eligible for living stipends (up to $1263/month) if they were in foster care while attending University along with fee exemption.

It’s better than having a lot of homeless young adults on the street, a lot of states are offering these programs. The University I went to also had stipends for ex-fosters to help bridge the gap to provide a new laptop, conference stipends, etc.

Why are you upset about this?!

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t care less about DH sibling’s kids. Sorry, not sorry. I too could go the rest of my life without seeing them and be fine with it. I also assume DH feels the same about my family, I expect as much and as just fine with it. Truth be told, I tolerate my nieces and nephew, that’s the extent. I save my energy and love for my own kids.

Would you take them in if any of them were going to foster care?

No! And should not be guilted or expected to.

Wow. I’m childfree and basically dread being around kids, but I’d totally take in my sister in law’s kids if she and her husband both died. That’s your family, you know.

It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

Nice thing to do, but not legally or morally required.

Is a child’s college education not covered in DC if their raised by a family member? Even in hell hole Florida they have this safety net!

Huh? No one, whether they’re living with they’re bio parents or not, is legally entitled to have their college education payed for outright in cash. Sounds like you need to get out more.

You need to get out more, it’s how I got my University Education paid for, and most adoptees do. As I stated above.

Cite. Florida has a lot of “free tuition for X gpa and SAT” programs that aren’t present in the northeast. Who pays for it?

You can’t google it?!
https://www.myflfamilies.com/service-programs/independent-living/tuition-fee-exemption.shtml


Students may even be eligible for living stipends (up to $1263/month) if they were in foster care while attending University along with fee exemption.

https://www.myflfamilies.com/service-programs/independent-living/postsecondary-education-services.shtml

It’s better than having a lot of homeless young adults on the street, a lot of states are offering these programs. The University I went to also had stipends for ex-fosters to help bridge the gap to provide a new laptop, conference stipends, etc.

Why are you upset about this?!

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No it's not awful. My child has one aunt and one uncle (married) and while they care about him, but they don't really make an effort. It upset me for a while but in the end, he likes them, he considers them to be caring and in his corner, and it's just his concept of what the relationship it. Do I wish it were more? Definitely. But it isn't. They aren't kid people and I can't make that change.

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Anonymous wrote:When you get married it is no long his and her family, it is our family.

Maybe for you. Not us!

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t care less about DH sibling’s kids. Sorry, not sorry. I too could go the rest of my life without seeing them and be fine with it. I also assume DH feels the same about my family, I expect as much and as just fine with it. Truth be told, I tolerate my nieces and nephew, that’s the extent. I save my energy and love for my own kids.

Would you take them in if any of them were going to foster care?

No! And should not be guilted or expected to.

Wow. I’m childfree and basically dread being around kids, but I’d totally take in my sister in law’s kids if she and her husband both died. That’s your family, you know.

It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

Nice thing to do, but not legally or morally required.

Is a child’s college education not covered in DC if their raised by a family member? Even in hell hole Florida they have this safety net!

Huh? No one, whether they’re living with they’re bio parents or not, is legally entitled to have their college education payed for outright in cash. Sounds like you need to get out more.

You need to get out more, it’s how I got my University Education paid for, and most adoptees do. As I stated above.

Cite. Florida has a lot of “free tuition for X gpa and SAT” programs that aren’t present in the northeast. Who pays for it?

You can’t google it?!
https://www.myflfamilies.com/service-programs/independent-living/tuition-fee-exemption.shtml


Students may even be eligible for living stipends (up to $1263/month) if they were in foster care while attending University along with fee exemption.

https://www.myflfamilies.com/service-programs/independent-living/postsecondary-education-services.shtml

It’s better than having a lot of homeless young adults on the street, a lot of states are offering these programs. The University I went to also had stipends for ex-fosters to help bridge the gap to provide a new laptop, conference stipends, etc.

Why are you upset about this?!

I meant cite for DC. As I said, those sorts of programs don’t exist here.

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I gave up on my husband's nieces and nephews. My DH is the youngest and his siblings get together a lot and we are invited, after the fact. Got tired of being sloppy seconds. My kids love their aunts/uncles/cousins but I don't go overboard trying to make things work.

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It's too big a financial and mental responsibility. You'd basically be housing, feeding, and paying for their college. And do you think they'd care for you in your old age? Unlikely, so no. Not taking anyone in.

Is a child’s college education not covered in DC if their raised by a family member? Even in hell hole Florida they have this safety net!

I meant cite for DC. As I said, those sorts of programs don’t exist here.

Ah my mistake, I was asking if DC had one, if not why not. But I found it! It’s capped at 10k a year though which is unfortunate, but I’m also unfamiliar of the cost of DC schools. But it’s better than nothing.
https://www.benefits.gov/benefit/2751