Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

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Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

JHC! You are the ignorant one, so, so much! You had your 2 year olds volunteer with poor people since 2?!! The real lesson was that they are better than these "losers," as the other pp said, in the Zoo. There has to stop this habit to treating people like objects. I am absolutely appalled, just disgusted by what you wrote and did. Nothing above pp wrote comes close to the insane and detached behavior you did and how you treated poor people.

Our kids have come with us to pack bagged lunches for the homeless in a commercial kitchen weekly since they were 2.5. The real lesson is there are people in need and we are in a position to help so we do. So tell me the problem with this again?

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Sports and only for sports. Of course I had a bunch of other reasons to tell people but we did it so DH would excel in sports. And he is.

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Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

JHC! You are the ignorant one, so, so much! You had your 2 year olds volunteer with poor people since 2?!! The real lesson was that they are better than these "losers," as the other pp said, in the Zoo. There has to stop this habit to treating people like objects. I am absolutely appalled, just disgusted by what you wrote and did. Nothing above pp wrote comes close to the insane and detached behavior you did and how you treated poor people.

I agree that the above poster comes across as a bit insufferable..Honest friendship is so much better than being nice to someone because you feel pity for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports and only for sports. Of course I had a bunch of other reasons to tell people but we did it so DH would excel in sports. And he is.

What if your kid had turned out to not be much of an athlete?

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Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

JHC! You are the ignorant one, so, so much! You had your 2 year olds volunteer with poor people since 2?!! The real lesson was that they are better than these "losers," as the other pp said, in the Zoo. There has to stop this habit to treating people like objects. I am absolutely appalled, just disgusted by what you wrote and did. Nothing above pp wrote comes close to the insane and detached behavior you did and how you treated poor people.

I agree that the above poster comes across as a bit insufferable..Honest friendship is so much better than being nice to someone because you feel pity for them.

Packing sandwiches for the homeless population is pitying someone?

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Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

JHC! You are the ignorant one, so, so much! You had your 2 year olds volunteer with poor people since 2?!! The real lesson was that they are better than these "losers," as the other pp said, in the Zoo. There has to stop this habit to treating people like objects. I am absolutely appalled, just disgusted by what you wrote and did. Nothing above pp wrote comes close to the insane and detached behavior you did and how you treated poor people.

I agree that the above poster comes across as a bit insufferable..Honest friendship is so much better than being nice to someone because you feel pity for them.

Packing sandwiches for the homeless population is pitying someone?

You come across as a bit...superior. The bit about your 2 1/2 year old doing service work for the homeless seems a bit...much. I am glad that you found a way to keep your toddler entertained while you did something productive but portraying your 2 year old as a volunteer is a bit much. You don't strike me as a person who has ever been in need, yourself.

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We were applying to private school and they had an opening for the lower grade but not the grade he would have progressed to based on his age. He was and still is emotionally mature but is a slower learner. We’ve never regretted holding him back.

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NP- speech delays which caused emotional/social delays. Recommended to delay by preK teachers

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Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

JHC! You are the ignorant one, so, so much! You had your 2 year olds volunteer with poor people since 2?!! The real lesson was that they are better than these "losers," as the other pp said, in the Zoo. There has to stop this habit to treating people like objects. I am absolutely appalled, just disgusted by what you wrote and did. Nothing above pp wrote comes close to the insane and detached behavior you did and how you treated poor people.

I agree that the above poster comes across as a bit insufferable..Honest friendship is so much better than being nice to someone because you feel pity for them.

Packing sandwiches for the homeless population is pitying someone?

You come across as a bit...superior. The bit about your 2 1/2 year old doing service work for the homeless seems a bit...much. I am glad that you found a way to keep your toddler entertained while you did something productive but portraying your 2 year old as a volunteer is a bit much. You don't strike me as a person who has ever been in need, yourself.

That PP is typical of the anti-redshirt posters on DCUM. Like the others, a hypocrite engaging in poverty tourism to entertain her toddlers. Disgusting.

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Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

JHC! You are the ignorant one, so, so much! You had your 2 year olds volunteer with poor people since 2?!! The real lesson was that they are better than these "losers," as the other pp said, in the Zoo. There has to stop this habit to treating people like objects. I am absolutely appalled, just disgusted by what you wrote and did. Nothing above pp wrote comes close to the insane and detached behavior you did and how you treated poor people.

Yes, what that PP wrote is vile, but my guess is that she doesn't see it at all and will blindly continue to congratulate herself for not redshirting.

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My child might appear to have been redshirted because he started school in a state with one cutoff date, but we ended up moving to a state with a later cutoff when he was in third grade.

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Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

I want my kids to learn they need to work harder sometimes. They aren’t always going to have an unfair advantage. Plus they are UMC white boys. They already were born more than halfway up the ladder. If they can’t figure things out and be successful adults, shame on me as a parent.

I can't decide whether this is satire or not. The idea that your coddled white UMC boys are going to learn to handle adversity by being the youngest in your wealthy school district is ... something.

You want to teach them real adversity? Move, and for God's sake do not ever talk like this in public again. It's painfully embarrassing.

Move? Why do they can be at the top of a less competitive district because they are UMC kids with more advantages? People do that strategically too, to get into competitive state schools that accept x percent of kids at the top of their school ranking.

No. So they can see what real adversity is rather than pretend adversity. They sure aren't learning any insights from you, that much is obvious.

Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

You'd better hope your kids learn their social skills elsewhere. Pro tip: disadvantaged people aren't zoo animals you take toddlers to watch. Jesus.

You’re clueless and talking in circles. You also have major reading comprehension fail. I never said my kids would be facing any adversity, at all. I said my kids would face adversity. I said they had it easy because they were born UMC, male and white, and if they couldn’t figure out how to be successful without me giving them even further advantages like holding them back, shame on me.

What kind of a parent talks about their own children this way? Most of the people that I know who red shirted their kids weren't doing so to get some sort of unfair advantage for their kid, they did it for maturity reasons. Maybe their kid was slow to potty train, or shy or small for their age and they thought another year to mature before starting K would be helpful.

There’s a whole forum of them called GBCN! And yes, they do talk about themselves and their own kids this way all the time. It’s really something!

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Anonymous wrote:My child might appear to have been redshirted because he started school in a state with one cutoff date, but we ended up moving to a state with a later cutoff when he was in third grade.

My kid was also accidentally redshirted.

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Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

I want my kids to learn they need to work harder sometimes. They aren’t always going to have an unfair advantage. Plus they are UMC white boys. They already were born more than halfway up the ladder. If they can’t figure things out and be successful adults, shame on me as a parent.

I can't decide whether this is satire or not. The idea that your coddled white UMC boys are going to learn to handle adversity by being the youngest in your wealthy school district is ... something.

You want to teach them real adversity? Move, and for God's sake do not ever talk like this in public again. It's painfully embarrassing.

Move? Why do they can be at the top of a less competitive district because they are UMC kids with more advantages? People do that strategically too, to get into competitive state schools that accept x percent of kids at the top of their school ranking.

No. So they can see what real adversity is rather than pretend adversity. They sure aren't learning any insights from you, that much is obvious.

Our kids have been volunteering with at-risk + disadvantaged people since they were 2 and a half. And not a one time gig, a weekly thing. I also work in that sector, give substantial $ and volunteer hundreds of hours a year. You’re ignorant if you think moving in the best option for everyone. And you’re ignorant if you don’t think UMC kids have a huge advantage anywhere they go. It’s really not teaching then adversity when it isn’t their personal struggle. I just said they would have to “work harder” than if I helped them back which is true. It’s still should not be a hardship for them by any means to go on time.

You'd better hope your kids learn their social skills elsewhere. Pro tip: disadvantaged people aren't zoo animals you take toddlers to watch. Jesus.

You’re clueless and talking in circles. You also have major reading comprehension fail. I never said my kids would be facing any adversity, at all. I said my kids would face adversity. I said they had it easy because they were born UMC, male and white, and if they couldn’t figure out how to be successful without me giving them even further advantages like holding them back, shame on me.

What kind of a parent talks about their own children this way? Most of the people that I know who red shirted their kids weren't doing so to get some sort of unfair advantage for their kid, they did it for maturity reasons. Maybe their kid was slow to potty train, or shy or small for their age and they thought another year to mature before starting K would be helpful.

There’s a whole forum of them called GBCN! And yes, they do talk about themselves and their own kids this way all the time. It’s really something!

Do they also boast about poverty tourism for two-year-olds?

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Anonymous wrote:For sports. That’s the truth. And it worked - he got a baseball scholarship to college.

Ditto, except even with redshirting my son was the smallest kid on his varsity teams freshman year (family history of delayed growth).

I’m judging. This is sad. If he couldn’t have gotten it if he went on time he took another kids spot.
Both DH and I were D1 athletes, DH on full football scholarship and summer birthdays and still wouldn’t do this.

DP. Sadly I know a lot of people who did this. Several kept kids even 2 years. For losing in an individual sport. It was not because they were small or shorter, one was over 6'2" in 8th grade. It was because they started to lose and their ranking went down. So you can scam rankings in tennis with two apps that do it. Kids can't compete in USTA or ITF tournaments unless in his/her age group, but for college purposes, they manage to scam even two years somehow. I know parents who put their kids on adhd meds to improve tennis performance.