UVA - drinking culture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, perhaps a bad fit for OP's son. Though I am sure he can find some like-minded peers, if he winds up following through with his commitment.

I am not sure how kids get in these positions, but it is a high stakes decision and second thoughts are undoubtedly common.

17,000 people. There are all kinds of people at colleges that large.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, perhaps a bad fit for OP's son. Though I am sure he can find some like-minded peers, if he winds up following through with his commitment.

I am not sure how kids get in these positions, but it is a high stakes decision and second thoughts are undoubtedly common.

-says parent of kid on UVA waitlist.

[Anonymous]

Wow, are you off.

Did you miss my prior post where I said my kid had no interest in any school with greek presence. But, you continue with your fantasy that everyone aspires to attending UVA, if that soothes you during this difficult time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to uva and was not Greek.

I did develop a drinking problem though, mainly because binge drinking was socially acceptable among my peers.

It was similar at other schools too, but I think UVa it is slightly more prevalent.

That said, I think I was more susceptible to binge drinking because I a) didn’t know how to manage my stress level in a healthy way, b) am prone to getting drunk easily and quickly.

I still drank for a long time after college, but gave it up in my 40s. I would say being at UVA and really any college atmosphere (most of them) where you don’t question binge drinking or it’s considered the norm was going to be a problem for me. It depends on how your kid is and how mature or self aware he can be in that environment.

I went to VT but had several friends at UVA and spent a bunch of weekends there. I am not sure if it’s because Greek life is more prominent there or what, but the drinking at the frat houses and the Corner was out of control. Nuts like nothing I ever saw at VT. And I saw plenty at VT, don’t get me wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, perhaps a bad fit for OP's son. Though I am sure he can find some like-minded peers, if he winds up following through with his commitment.

I am not sure how kids get in these positions, but it is a high stakes decision and second thoughts are undoubtedly common.

17,000 people. There are all kinds of people at colleges that large.

+1

What a stupid comment.

[Anonymous]

So my parents took me on a tour of UVA when I was 13 because we were vacationing in the area and we were freaked out by how lecherous the male students seemed towards me, a perfectly normal, obviously 13 year old girl.

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Anonymous wrote:We stayed in Charlottesville not long ago, at a hotel where many families of UVA students stay (and sports teams, it seems). We saw a lot of lunchtime / afternoon drinking on Thursdays in town - college age kids - and most of the girls were wearing micro-shorts and revealing tops. It was like hookersville not Charlottesville.

We also saw a very, very different set of college students walking into classes on the Friday morning, early. Not hungover, not wearing "last night's" clothes. Not dressed like hoes.

So clearly two tribes exist its just about which one you get into.

I have news for you. Those were probably the same kids.

Given that my eye sight is pretty good and I've already told you they were different kids - no. The kids on Friday were total geeks the kids on Thursday were sleazy-glamorous.

Again - no doubt some of the same kids. You do know that putting on makeup and party clothes one night makes you look a lot different and more "glamorous" then waking up early the next day for class, right? Have you ever gone to college?

haha. you're going to need to try a lot harder than that.

So the answer is no. You've clearly never gone to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my parents took me on a tour of UVA when I was 13 because we were vacationing in the area and we were freaked out by how lecherous the male students seemed towards me, a perfectly normal, obviously 13 year old girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my parents took me on a tour of UVA when I was 13 because we were vacationing in the area and we were freaked out by how lecherous the male students seemed towards me, a perfectly normal, obviously 13 year old girl.

Right. Maybe they shouldn't have dropped you off at a frat house and gone off to lunch.

[Anonymous]

UVA has always had a reputation as a party school. Work hard, play hard. I went to Tech, which did not have that reputation -- or at least not in Engineering and Hard Sciences. UVA would make fun of our rural roots ("All dirt roads lead to Tech" was a bumpersticker); Ours were "Virginia Tech: The University of Virginia", referring to the fact that we were more like aa typical state school.

With that said, every school has drinking. UVA, Tech, W &M, Stanford, MIT, ... And most schools have serious students.

With that said, my DD was turned off by UVA and its elitism...she fell in love with the more down to earth W & M and will be there next year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my parents took me on a tour of UVA when I was 13 because we were vacationing in the area and we were freaked out by how lecherous the male students seemed towards me, a perfectly normal, obviously 13 year old girl.

Right. Maybe they shouldn't have dropped you off at a frat house and gone off to lunch.

reading comprehension

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, perhaps a bad fit for OP's son. Though I am sure he can find some like-minded peers, if he winds up following through with his commitment.

I am not sure how kids get in these positions, but it is a high stakes decision and second thoughts are undoubtedly common.

17,000 people. There are all kinds of people at colleges that large.

+1

What a stupid comment.

Is there a bigger drinking culture in Southern schools, maybe? I honestly don't know. I'm not being snarky I'm asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:UVA has always had a reputation as a party school. Work hard, play hard. I went to Tech, which did not have that reputation -- or at least not in Engineering and Hard Sciences. UVA would make fun of our rural roots ("All dirt roads lead to Tech" was a bumpersticker); Ours were "Virginia Tech: The University of Virginia", referring to the fact that we were more like aa typical state school.

With that said, every school has drinking. UVA, Tech, W &M, Stanford, MIT, ... And most schools have serious students.

With that said, my DD was turned off by UVA and its elitism...she fell in love with the more down to earth W & M and will be there next year.

LOL more like party hard and tell yourself you are working hard. UVa is very insular.

[Anonymous]

All colleges big, small, medium have drinking.

If a student wants it it's there.

The college does not make the drinker drink.

Any parent who thinks their child's college has zero or lower drinking is not in touch with reality.

[Anonymous]

Well, OP, whatever happens, it is fairly safe to say that now no American college is going to have much of a drinking culture in the fall.