Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confirmed hospitals with no visitor/support person:

NYP
Metropolitan
Mt Sinai
NYU
Greenwich-CT

None of these are in DC. Getting people anxious about a possibility of this doesn’t serve anyone. It just promotes fear and stress during an already stressful time. When DC hospitals adopt these policies, then come back and post and women can prepare. But whipping up hormonal anxious moms to be over a possibility doesn’t really serve anyone.

Literally in the first post, op states this is in NYC. If you don't care keep moving.

Then she should have specified that in the thread title. Otherwise everyone from DC will click this and it’s gonna cause a ton of unneeded stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its a safety issue, where is the issue? I'd rather be safe and have my baby safe than take a risk.

Of course.but it's still traumatic to labor alone and deliver alone especially in this climate

I understand; however, if you are in this position, know that in an actually traumatic delivery, I do not remember my DH being there (though he was) -- I remember the voices of the nurses. You will be focused on one thing only. Also, if you go in assuming that being with only the nurses will make it traumatic, then it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Change your attitude and adapt, so that if it comes to this you are in control of your own response to the situation. It does not have to be traumatic. It is not just about you and your birth experience anymore; your child is coming into the world in challenging times, and you need to keep everyone who is not vital away from your baby if you can. You also need to do your part to keep the L&D medical staff healthy so they can help the moms and babies who come after you this Spring and summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confirmed hospitals with no visitor/support person:

NYP
Metropolitan
Mt Sinai
NYU
Greenwich-CT

None of these are in DC. Getting people anxious about a possibility of this doesn’t serve anyone. It just promotes fear and stress during an already stressful time. When DC hospitals adopt these policies, then come back and post and women can prepare. But whipping up hormonal anxious moms to be over a possibility doesn’t really serve anyone.

Literally in the first post, op states this is in NYC. If you don't care keep moving.

Then she should have specified that in the thread title. Otherwise everyone from DC will click this and it’s gonna cause a ton of unneeded stress.

you're causing unneeded stress with all this complaining. Things aren't just perfect for this little snowflake

I’m being sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. It’s something we could do a lot more of in these times, PP, instead of vitriol and nastiness.

[Anonymous]

Facing a csection (my 4th alone) is terrifying. Recovering the first few days is tough, I cannot imagine not having my partner to help when you can’t even get up or down, no less care for a baby. It seems like a hindrance to a good recovery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confirmed hospitals with no visitor/support person:

NYP
Metropolitan
Mt Sinai
NYU
Greenwich-CT

None of these are in DC. Getting people anxious about a possibility of this doesn’t serve anyone. It just promotes fear and stress during an already stressful time. When DC hospitals adopt these policies, then come back and post and women can prepare. But whipping up hormonal anxious moms to be over a possibility doesn’t really serve anyone.

Literally in the first post, op states this is in NYC. If you don't care keep moving.

Then she should have specified that in the thread title. Otherwise everyone from DC will click this and it’s gonna cause a ton of unneeded stress.

you're causing unneeded stress with all this complaining. Things aren't just perfect for this little snowflake

I’m being sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. It’s something we could do a lot more of in these times, PP, instead of vitriol and nastiness.

You are being nasty by continuing to click and comment on a post that clearly has nothing to do with you and that you clearly disapprove of. Just stop. Anyone who clicks will read in the first post where this is happening.

Just because you don't like something doesn't mean it's insensitive. This sticking out heads in the sand is partly what got us in this position. Be aware of what's happening in around you. It's only a matter of time until it happens to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Facing a csection (my 4th alone) is terrifying. Recovering the first few days is tough, I cannot imagine not having my partner to help when you can’t even get up or down, no less care for a baby. It seems like a hindrance to a good recovery.

It's terrifying.

I'm also worried about having to get baby down tonte car alone. Hopefully there is enough staff to help but I don't know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confirmed hospitals with no visitor/support person:

NYP
Metropolitan
Mt Sinai
NYU
Greenwich-CT

None of these are in DC. Getting people anxious about a possibility of this doesn’t serve anyone. It just promotes fear and stress during an already stressful time. When DC hospitals adopt these policies, then come back and post and women can prepare. But whipping up hormonal anxious moms to be over a possibility doesn’t really serve anyone.

Literally in the first post, op states this is in NYC. If you don't care keep moving.

Then she should have specified that in the thread title. Otherwise everyone from DC will click this and it’s gonna cause a ton of unneeded stress.

you're causing unneeded stress with all this complaining. Things aren't just perfect for this little snowflake

I’m being sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. It’s something we could do a lot more of in these times, PP, instead of vitriol and nastiness.

You are being nasty by continuing to click and comment on a post that clearly has nothing to do with you and that you clearly disapprove of. Just stop. Anyone who clicks will read in the first post where this is happening.

Just because you don't like something doesn't mean it's insensitive. This sticking out heads in the sand is partly what got us in this position. Be aware of what's happening in around you. It's only a matter of time until it happens to you.

I’m not sticking my head in the sand. But I’m also not going to allow myself to get whipped up into a potential frenzy over the possibility of something bad like this happening. Would this absolutely suck for any woman who had to experience it? Yes. But do all women need to prepare for this, like it’s an eventuality, or get freaked out by this news? No. They don’t. Just like you need to take every study and covid-19 projection in stride, you need to take the possibility of things in stride. It’s like preparing for covid itself. As a pregnant woman, I’m taking steps to minimize chances I’ll be exposed to it. I’m washing my hands, not going to public areas, etc. just like we all are. But I’m also mentally acknowledging the possibility I could get it. Does this mean I’m devouring every news story, reading up in symptoms, and panicking for no reason? No, because none of that helps anyone and it does not help me. Along the same lines, reading every news story about pregnancy women and covid and freaking myself out about worst case scenarios doesn’t serve me. We are playing the long game folks. This thing is going to be around for a long time. It’s important to do what we can to protect our mental health, otherwise we will wear ourselves down with stress and that depletes our immune system which makes us more susceptible to infection.

I’m sad for you that you are so uncaring that you are saying “this is going to happen to you.” You don’t know me, my health, my due date, my birth plans, or my life. I’m a caring person. I would hope this doesn’t happen to anyone and I’m sorry for the women who will be affected. But being cruel and wishing Awful things to happen to other women is pretty awful, as well as bad karma for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Other countries are trying it too. My friend just gave birth in Portugal. No partner allowed.

How was your friends experience? How is she doing now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father who is 93 was hospitalized for internal bleeding today near Albany NY. His care manager was not allowed to stay with him or even go into the ER with him. He has memory issues and we are concerned for him.

They do not have any confirmed coronavirus patients. I bet this new hospital rule of patients only will become true for all hospitals in a week or two.

I hope your dad is doing okay. So scary. We just went through this with my DH grandpa too

[Anonymous]

So happy I am sticking with my home-birth midwife, in the birthing tub. This will be my third. The thought of delivering a baby in a hospital makes me cringe more than ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect we're going to have an uptick in L & D deaths and infections.

I really really hope not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So happy I am sticking with my home-birth midwife, in the birthing tub. This will be my third. The thought of delivering a baby in a hospital makes me cringe more than ever.

Good luck!! Sending lots of love!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And what happens when some of those L&D and postpartum staff start coming down with covid-19 (because you know they will), there's staffing shortages, and no support person available to advocate and help the patient?

I don't want to know.


Usually L/D is the safest place to be because staff rarely gets floated to another unit and they change into hospital scrubs once shift starts. But rumors about nurses being floated to help with influx of Covid19 patients. Without proper unions or ratios I'm afraid we will see more of this but hopefully not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its a safety issue, where is the issue? I'd rather be safe and have my baby safe than take a risk.

Umm how about first time moms that have no clue what to expect and now don’t have the comfort of their husband being with them? This would make me consider a home birth very seriously.

Yes. But I feel for the women who were scheduled this week. Too late to find all the equipment and a midwife open to transfer to soon

[Anonymous]

Hospitals will always need to deliver healthy babies and keep moms safe, I would imagine that they are keep L and D and maternity staff separate. Let’s be positive here