Delaying TTC due to coronavirus

[Anonymous]

This seems petty balanced

“ What are your thoughts on trying to get pregnant now? — Doug, 33, Somerville, Mass.

Based on limited data, pregnant people don’t seem to be at increased risk for serious illness from coronavirus. However, pregnancy increases the risk of serious outcomes for other respiratory viruses, like influenza, so pregnant people are currently considered an at-risk population for Covid-19. The risk of a preterm birth may also increase if you get sick with Covid-19.

With so many unknowns about what to expect when you are expecting during a pandemic, here are some considerations:

Pregnancy increases interactions with the health care system — blood tests, ultrasounds, blood pressure checks — and interactions with the health care system increase your risk of exposure to coronavirus.

Many medical centers are trying to limit routine in-person visits for the safety of their patients and workers, and are instead conducting some appointments virtually; many are also asking that partners not accompany women to these appointments.

If you have an underlying medical condition, like diabetes or high blood pressure, or had a complication, such as preterm delivery, in a prior pregnancy, then you are at higher risk for complications in your next pregnancy and will probably need more access to the heath care system.

If you have an unforeseen pregnancy complication, you may need an emergency department. In addition to potentially increasing your risk of exposure, if the hospital is at capacity with coronavirus patients or has no supply of personal protective equipment, there may be an impact on your care.

While most people have uncomplicated pregnancies, I would consider those factors. Many of us have taken for granted the ability to get the medical care we need in a true emergency. We can’t do that anymore.”

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/10/style/coronavirus-sex-pregnancy-questions.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow with the fear mongering. To those saying no one should do it — are you reading something I’m not? Care to share a link with us? Because from what I’m reading there is a risk for sure but it is not nearly as bad as you’re making it out to be.

Most of what I’ve read says that COVID positive women who have given birth generally don’t pass it on to the child. The worst case scenarios I’ve read (very severe cases) still resulted in live births and were complicated by other factors — mothers with health problems like obesity, giving birth in the worst-hit hospitals in the Bronx. (Specifically referring to the NYT article which is probably where you’re getting your worst case scenario from)

Of course there are risks, and in a perfect world everyone should wait. But anyone over 35 and/or with fertility issues needs to balance the need to wait up to possibly 18 months before this is over with their own fertility and timeline. Let’s all discuss calmly, shall we?

Have you ever had a respiratory illness while far long in pregnancy? It's very taxing on the body. From personal experience, my temperature approached 104F my resting heart rate was 130 while the baby's was at 160. There are no allowable drugs you can take. They even warn against taking inhalers, etc. I cannot imagine fighting off COVID 19 while pregnant.

Can you just get off this post? Why are you even in this forum? It’s a TTC forum which you clearly aren’t doing. Bye!

[Anonymous]

Planned to start trying for #2 in January 2021 (#1 was born this January and took a while to conceive). Currently that is still the plan although of course I will reassess when the time comes. My family is healthy and low risk and fortunately my job lets me take social distancing very seriously. First pregnancy and delivery were also largely uneventful so I’m optimistic about that being the case again although there are no guarantees. I get why this is such a tough decision and I don’t know that there are any right answers. Good luck to all who are currently pregnant (you didn’t sign up for this and it sucks!) and those who were or are TTC (like it wasn’t stressful without a pandemic).

[Anonymous]

This thread needs to die. It’s filled with trolls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread needs to die. It’s filled with trolls.

A troll isn’t anyone who says something that you don’t want to hear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread needs to die. It’s filled with trolls.

A troll isn’t anyone who says something that you don’t want to hear.

Agreed.
I replied with my perspective as a pregnant woman who is due in a few weeks. Likely not the info OP wanted to hear, but I'm definitely not a troll.
Also, I'm AMA and dealt with infertility, so I get some of the sensitivity to delaying conception any longer than necessary.

[Anonymous]

We planned on starting to TTC #2 this month. We are undecided still on what to do.

I think in 8 weeks when you would have a first appt, many areas will be relaxing social distancing. Not full on but easing in. That may lead to more cases and it may not. I believe after 8 wks then you go again at 12 right? So 3 months from now. So that’s not a lot of contact during this time where we start to navigate a path back to a new normal. I say all this as someone who believes we aren’t going back to an old normal. That we are in this for 6-18 months. By the time we would need more frequent prenatal care, we would know more about what measures need to be taken in our new normal. It’s quite possible that hospitals will be in a better place then they have been the last month, even if we have a second or third wave. We will know more. But absolutely, there will still be risks.

For those that recommend waiting, I’d be curious to know how long you recommend waiting for. When do you think it would be safe again? A full 12-18 months from now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread needs to die. It’s filled with trolls.

A troll isn’t anyone who says something that you don’t want to hear.

Agreed.
I replied with my perspective as a pregnant woman who is due in a few weeks. Likely not the info OP wanted to hear, but I'm definitely not a troll.
Also, I'm AMA and dealt with infertility, so I get some of the sensitivity to delaying conception any longer than necessary.

If you’re pregnant why are you on the TTC forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread needs to die. It’s filled with trolls.

A troll isn’t anyone who says something that you don’t want to hear.

Agreed.
I replied with my perspective as a pregnant woman who is due in a few weeks. Likely not the info OP wanted to hear, but I'm definitely not a troll.
Also, I'm AMA and dealt with infertility, so I get some of the sensitivity to delaying conception any longer than necessary.

I’m the OP. With the exception of responding to an early commenter who called me a drama queen last month for considering delaying early on in this pandemic, I haven’t though there’s been any drama aimed at me specifically. I welcomed all respectful opinions. That’s why I asked in the first place!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread needs to die. It’s filled with trolls.

A troll isn’t anyone who says something that you don’t want to hear.

Agreed.
I replied with my perspective as a pregnant woman who is due in a few weeks. Likely not the info OP wanted to hear, but I'm definitely not a troll.
Also, I'm AMA and dealt with infertility, so I get some of the sensitivity to delaying conception any longer than necessary.

If you’re pregnant why are you on the TTC forum?

Because, on occasion, some posters might appreciate a BTDT perspective. I know I did when I was TTC, and then later on when I moved to the Infertility forum.
Something wrong with that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We planned on starting to TTC #2 this month. We are undecided still on what to do.

I think in 8 weeks when you would have a first appt, many areas will be relaxing social distancing. Not full on but easing in. That may lead to more cases and it may not. I believe after 8 wks then you go again at 12 right? So 3 months from now. So that’s not a lot of contact during this time where we start to navigate a path back to a new normal. I say all this as someone who believes we aren’t going back to an old normal. That we are in this for 6-18 months. By the time we would need more frequent prenatal care, we would know more about what measures need to be taken in our new normal. It’s quite possible that hospitals will be in a better place then they have been the last month, even if we have a second or third wave. We will know more. But absolutely, there will still be risks.

For those that recommend waiting, I’d be curious to know how long you recommend waiting for. When do you think it would be safe again? A full 12-18 months from now?

I haven’t posted yet but I’m someone considering waiting. I agree with you about not going back to the new normal...this virus is here to stay until we get a vaccine. I’m only really considering waiting until summer or early fall to allow time for states to peak and our health care system to adapt accordingly. Maybe we will have a better understanding of the virus in a few months too. If we don’t get any better adapted by then, I don’t plan on sitting around waiting for answers that aren’t coming (or waiting a year+ for a vaccine). That all being said, my commitment to waiting even a few months is rather weak. I’m a few weeks away from 30 and this will be #1, fwiw.

[Anonymous]

I’m 38 and just had a TFMR the first week in March. I was instructed to wait 2 cycles before trying again which I’m fine with. I’d prefer to wait until end of May/June so I can do the first trimester during the summer when hopefully the chance of contracting the virus is lowest. If I had the luxury of being younger I’d probably wait an additional few months but I’m feeling the pressure of time and this past pregnancy coupled with a MMC in October has me feeling the pressure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We planned on starting to TTC #2 this month. We are undecided still on what to do.

I think in 8 weeks when you would have a first appt, many areas will be relaxing social distancing. Not full on but easing in. That may lead to more cases and it may not. I believe after 8 wks then you go again at 12 right? So 3 months from now. So that’s not a lot of contact during this time where we start to navigate a path back to a new normal. I say all this as someone who believes we aren’t going back to an old normal. That we are in this for 6-18 months. By the time we would need more frequent prenatal care, we would know more about what measures need to be taken in our new normal. It’s quite possible that hospitals will be in a better place then they have been the last month, even if we have a second or third wave. We will know more. But absolutely, there will still be risks.

For those that recommend waiting, I’d be curious to know how long you recommend waiting for. When do you think it would be safe again? A full 12-18 months from now?

I would argue it'll be more risky in the next coming months. As pressure mounts to get people back to work they won't be giving any thought to high risk groups.

As for the poster saying there is no increased risk, you willing to bet your life and your unborn child's life know that? Check out the Mom in Baltimore forced to get a c section at 36 weeks and cannot see her baby for 4 weeks. Ask her how she's doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We planned on starting to TTC #2 this month. We are undecided still on what to do.

I think in 8 weeks when you would have a first appt, many areas will be relaxing social distancing. Not full on but easing in. That may lead to more cases and it may not. I believe after 8 wks then you go again at 12 right? So 3 months from now. So that’s not a lot of contact during this time where we start to navigate a path back to a new normal. I say all this as someone who believes we aren’t going back to an old normal. That we are in this for 6-18 months. By the time we would need more frequent prenatal care, we would know more about what measures need to be taken in our new normal. It’s quite possible that hospitals will be in a better place then they have been the last month, even if we have a second or third wave. We will know more. But absolutely, there will still be risks.

For those that recommend waiting, I’d be curious to know how long you recommend waiting for. When do you think it would be safe again? A full 12-18 months from now?

I would argue it'll be more risky in the next coming months. As pressure mounts to get people back to work they won't be giving any thought to high risk groups.

As for the poster saying there is no increased risk, you willing to bet your life and your unborn child's life know that? Check out the Mom in Baltimore forced to get a c section at 36 weeks and cannot see her baby for 4 weeks. Ask her how she's doing.

Probably stressed but still thankful to have the damn kid vs waiting indefinitely. And all the women that are having healthy pregnancies and deliveries will be glad they have theirs too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We planned on starting to TTC #2 this month. We are undecided still on what to do.

I think in 8 weeks when you would have a first appt, many areas will be relaxing social distancing. Not full on but easing in. That may lead to more cases and it may not. I believe after 8 wks then you go again at 12 right? So 3 months from now. So that’s not a lot of contact during this time where we start to navigate a path back to a new normal. I say all this as someone who believes we aren’t going back to an old normal. That we are in this for 6-18 months. By the time we would need more frequent prenatal care, we would know more about what measures need to be taken in our new normal. It’s quite possible that hospitals will be in a better place then they have been the last month, even if we have a second or third wave. We will know more. But absolutely, there will still be risks.

For those that recommend waiting, I’d be curious to know how long you recommend waiting for. When do you think it would be safe again? A full 12-18 months from now?

I would argue it'll be more risky in the next coming months. As pressure mounts to get people back to work they won't be giving any thought to high risk groups.

As for the poster saying there is no increased risk, you willing to bet your life and your unborn child's life know that? Check out the Mom in Baltimore forced to get a c section at 36 weeks and cannot see her baby for 4 weeks. Ask her how she's doing.

Probably stressed but still thankful to have the damn kid vs waiting indefinitely. And all the women that are having healthy pregnancies and deliveries will be glad they have theirs too

She's not healthy, she's now fighting for her life. She had to deliver early to have a chance to fight off the infection. She was understandably a mess when they took her baby away. Now she gets to be in isolation in the hospital trying not to pull a stitch coughing.