Being the old mom

[Anonymous]

That’s awesome that you to experience being a young mom and an old mom!

[Anonymous]

I'm 47. I have a son that's 10. I have friends around my age, their kids just started college. So, i guess i'm on the old side category compared to my friends.

But, now I see silver hair coming in! yet, my brother who has no spouse and no kids have all black hair and lives without having to worry about many things. Don't care about schools closing, no need to worry about saving for college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s no way other people’s spoken or unspoken opinions would keep me from having a child if I wanted one.

Right? Well, most DCUM posters said I shouldn't have one, so I guess I won't have another child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 13 years older than me so at schools’ event I am usually the youngest mom and DH is one of the oldest dads (I had my first at 29 and DH 42)... people usually think that DH is younger than he really is and that I am older than I really am... I am usually embarrassed to say my age because the older moms usually say: “aww you are a baby”.... ahh no...

Then again my kids go to private schools and parents are usually older there. I bet parents might be closer to my age in public schools

How does age even come up? I don't tell other parents my age.

New poster here (a "young mom.)

Like a previous poster said, talking about things like old songs or movies. One specific instance I can think of is during a social event, a song came on and I mentioned something about how hearing it reminded me of third grade (because the song was popular when I was in third grade) and then an "old mom" mentioned how she was in college at that time....things like that.

I'm the old mom who posted earlier about avoiding cultural references. I would have just nodded and smiled at your third-grade reference. Definitely would not have mentioned I was in college! (Also, kudos for even remembering what song was popular when you were in 3rd grade. I just looked up the top ten from my third-grade year. Wow.)

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 13 years older than me so at schools’ event I am usually the youngest mom and DH is one of the oldest dads (I had my first at 29 and DH 42)... people usually think that DH is younger than he really is and that I am older than I really am... I am usually embarrassed to say my age because the older moms usually say: “aww you are a baby”.... ahh no...

Then again my kids go to private schools and parents are usually older there. I bet parents might be closer to my age in public schools

How does age even come up? I don't tell other parents my age.

New poster here (a "young mom.)

Like a previous poster said, talking about things like old songs or movies. One specific instance I can think of is during a social event, a song came on and I mentioned something about how hearing it reminded me of third grade (because the song was popular when I was in third grade) and then an "old mom" mentioned how she was in college at that time....things like that.

Lol, as a “young” mom myself, it seems like you really really wanted the “old” moms to know how youthful you are

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 13 years older than me so at schools’ event I am usually the youngest mom and DH is one of the oldest dads (I had my first at 29 and DH 42)... people usually think that DH is younger than he really is and that I am older than I really am... I am usually embarrassed to say my age because the older moms usually say: “aww you are a baby”.... ahh no...

Then again my kids go to private schools and parents are usually older there. I bet parents might be closer to my age in public schools

How does age even come up? I don't tell other parents my age.

New poster here (a "young mom.)

Like a previous poster said, talking about things like old songs or movies. One specific instance I can think of is during a social event, a song came on and I mentioned something about how hearing it reminded me of third grade (because the song was popular when I was in third grade) and then an "old mom" mentioned how she was in college at that time....things like that.

Lol, as a “young” mom myself, it seems like you really really wanted the “old” moms to know how youthful you are

Caveat, I'm not sure a man's perspective perfectly applies to women, but this is my opinion. Age is a mentality. I'm a 40 year old dad. My oldest kid is 11 so I had him at a somewhat young age for this area. I felt like all the other dads were older and more knowledgeable about life than me (true). Now I just had my youngest son and feel a bit on the older side. But I look around my neighborhood and there are guys in their early 30s who live their lives like grandpas. On the other hand, one of the guys I know with a 6 year old who is very outgoing, athletic, sociable, etc. who I assumed was also around 35-40 just let slip a few weeks ago that he is 53. I could not believe it. On the flip side, there was a mid-50s couple in my kids' preschool and they looked and felt every bit mid-50s. They dressed like my grandparents and if you brought anything up about culture or entertainment it really was like talking to your grandpa.

I also have a few friends in their mid 30s who have said things like "I haven't found any new music since college." They can't go out and grab a drink because "I'm a father now." Can't go to a concert because, "that's for kids." They act like they were born a couple decades earlier and are just coasting along to the grave. If you live through an entire decade without finding a single new song or even trying to participate in culture, you're going to get old reeeeal quick. If you hole up in your house just driving kids to soccer practice, meal prep, and dcurbanmom, you're gonna get old reeeeal fast. Just get out, see modern movies, listen to modern music, wear modern fashion, stay active and don't put on too much weight. Bam, you're not as old as you thought you were.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 13 years older than me so at schools’ event I am usually the youngest mom and DH is one of the oldest dads (I had my first at 29 and DH 42)... people usually think that DH is younger than he really is and that I am older than I really am... I am usually embarrassed to say my age because the older moms usually say: “aww you are a baby”.... ahh no...

Then again my kids go to private schools and parents are usually older there. I bet parents might be closer to my age in public schools

How does age even come up? I don't tell other parents my age.

New poster here (a "young mom.)

Like a previous poster said, talking about things like old songs or movies. One specific instance I can think of is during a social event, a song came on and I mentioned something about how hearing it reminded me of third grade (because the song was popular when I was in third grade) and then an "old mom" mentioned how she was in college at that time....things like that.

Lol, as a “young” mom myself, it seems like you really really wanted the “old” moms to know how youthful you are

Caveat, I'm not sure a man's perspective perfectly applies to women, but this is my opinion. Age is a mentality. I'm a 40 year old dad. My oldest kid is 11 so I had him at a somewhat young age for this area. I felt like all the other dads were older and more knowledgeable about life than me (true). Now I just had my youngest son and feel a bit on the older side. But I look around my neighborhood and there are guys in their early 30s who live their lives like grandpas. On the other hand, one of the guys I know with a 6 year old who is very outgoing, athletic, sociable, etc. who I assumed was also around 35-40 just let slip a few weeks ago that he is 53. I could not believe it. On the flip side, there was a mid-50s couple in my kids' preschool and they looked and felt every bit mid-50s. They dressed like my grandparents and if you brought anything up about culture or entertainment it really was like talking to your grandpa.

I also have a few friends in their mid 30s who have said things like "I haven't found any new music since college." They can't go out and grab a drink because "I'm a father now." Can't go to a concert because, "that's for kids." They act like they were born a couple decades earlier and are just coasting along to the grave. If you live through an entire decade without finding a single new song or even trying to participate in culture, you're going to get old reeeeal quick. If you hole up in your house just driving kids to soccer practice, meal prep, and dcurbanmom, you're gonna get old reeeeal fast. Just get out, see modern movies, listen to modern music, wear modern fashion, stay active and don't put on too much weight. Bam, you're not as old as you thought you were.

Preach!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I still live here and am always the youngest mom. I have 4 kids. Most of my children's friends parents are 15 to 20 years older than me, but it never stopped us from being friends, and having playdates. Not sure why it's an issue for you, but, age has never come up.

I agree with this, except I am an older mom. I don't base friendships on age, I really do not care how old other parents are.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 13 years older than me so at schools’ event I am usually the youngest mom and DH is one of the oldest dads (I had my first at 29 and DH 42)... people usually think that DH is younger than he really is and that I am older than I really am... I am usually embarrassed to say my age because the older moms usually say: “aww you are a baby”.... ahh no...

Then again my kids go to private schools and parents are usually older there. I bet parents might be closer to my age in public schools

How does age even come up? I don't tell other parents my age.

New poster here (a "young mom.)

Like a previous poster said, talking about things like old songs or movies. One specific instance I can think of is during a social event, a song came on and I mentioned something about how hearing it reminded me of third grade (because the song was popular when I was in third grade) and then an "old mom" mentioned how she was in college at that time....things like that.

Lol, as a “young” mom myself, it seems like you really really wanted the “old” moms to know how youthful you are

Caveat, I'm not sure a man's perspective perfectly applies to women, but this is my opinion. Age is a mentality. I'm a 40 year old dad. My oldest kid is 11 so I had him at a somewhat young age for this area. I felt like all the other dads were older and more knowledgeable about life than me (true). Now I just had my youngest son and feel a bit on the older side. But I look around my neighborhood and there are guys in their early 30s who live their lives like grandpas. On the other hand, one of the guys I know with a 6 year old who is very outgoing, athletic, sociable, etc. who I assumed was also around 35-40 just let slip a few weeks ago that he is 53. I could not believe it. On the flip side, there was a mid-50s couple in my kids' preschool and they looked and felt every bit mid-50s. They dressed like my grandparents and if you brought anything up about culture or entertainment it really was like talking to your grandpa.

I also have a few friends in their mid 30s who have said things like "I haven't found any new music since college." They can't go out and grab a drink because "I'm a father now." Can't go to a concert because, "that's for kids." They act like they were born a couple decades earlier and are just coasting along to the grave. If you live through an entire decade without finding a single new song or even trying to participate in culture, you're going to get old reeeeal quick. If you hole up in your house just driving kids to soccer practice, meal prep, and dcurbanmom, you're gonna get old reeeeal fast. Just get out, see modern movies, listen to modern music, wear modern fashion, stay active and don't put on too much weight. Bam, you're not as old as you thought you were.

Preach!

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 13 years older than me so at schools’ event I am usually the youngest mom and DH is one of the oldest dads (I had my first at 29 and DH 42)... people usually think that DH is younger than he really is and that I am older than I really am... I am usually embarrassed to say my age because the older moms usually say: “aww you are a baby”.... ahh no...

Then again my kids go to private schools and parents are usually older there. I bet parents might be closer to my age in public schools

How does age even come up? I don't tell other parents my age.

lol

You can tell by looking at someone - and definitely by talking to them. I know everyone on this site thinks they look 25, but it’s actually quite easy to tell if someone is in their 30’s or 40’s or 50’s.

I'm 40 with two preschoolers. I probably look 60.