Mental Load — All the Rage says men just flit it all away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look I used to have a lot of rage about this- a lot. Then I figured out that I want the control. You can’t have it both- either you do it yourself and control it or you pass it to DH and cede control. In my case, if I cede control, DC would have the iPad all day, chicken nuggets every night, may or may not have childcare, would go to bed at 11 pm... just easier for me to do it bc I need the control.

+1

OP described it herself: "One tale is about the mental load, such as summer camp regs, health forms, carpools, etc and how even after assigning a task to her DH he just blows it off until she does it."

Women want to do all this stuff. If we didn't, we wouldn't.

I don’t want to. So DH and i split it.

[Anonymous]

I’d love to hear from gay couples how they handle these sorts of tasks.