At what age should you stop bringing your opposite gender child to the locker room?

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Anonymous wrote:Pedophiles are a problem, people.
Please keep that in mind.

You know what's not a big problem? Getting in the car and going home and showering there. Oh, big whoop, your hair will smell like chlorine for 15 minutes. Better than pedophiles AND making an entire locker room super uncomfortable.

Most of the time that is fine but in the middle of the winter when its freezing out, you need to at least change.

You don't, actually. That's what parkas are for.

-Captain of the high school swim team who was in winter swimming for 12 years. In Indiana.

+2. Winter swimming for years in PA. My hair actually did freeze one time when I didn't wear a hat, but it thawed once I jumped in the car!

And these are part of wonderful swimming memories, and living in a time when parents didn't micromanage and sweat every single little thing.

You mean uninvolved parents... we still have those now.

And, you are no longer the team captain.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pedophiles are a problem, people.
Please keep that in mind.

You know what's not a big problem? Getting in the car and going home and showering there. Oh, big whoop, your hair will smell like chlorine for 15 minutes. Better than pedophiles AND making an entire locker room super uncomfortable.

Most of the time that is fine but in the middle of the winter when its freezing out, you need to at least change.

You don't, actually. That's what parkas are for.

-Captain of the high school swim team who was in winter swimming for 12 years. In Indiana.

+2. Winter swimming for years in PA. My hair actually did freeze one time when I didn't wear a hat, but it thawed once I jumped in the car!

And these are part of wonderful swimming memories, and living in a time when parents didn't micromanage and sweat every single little thing.

You mean uninvolved parents... we still have those now.

And, you are no longer the team captain.

PA PP here. I don't think it's a question of involved or uninvolved. Just different expectations. I don't know if people didn't worry about appearance as much or what, but it was not a big deal to drive 10 minutes home in a wet suit and shower and change there. In summer we'd sit on a towel so we didn't get the car seat wet. In winter we'd throw on sweat pants and a jacket over the suit and change at home -- again, only a 10-15 minute drive. Not a big deal. I never caught cold or any of the other dire predictions. And I sure as heck wasn't about to shower in the open showers my school gym had. Not to mention that by the time swim practice ended at 5:45 I was starving and still had to get picked up by mom. No snacks in the car! The fastest way to eat was to go home in the suit and change quickly while mom cooked dinner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pedophiles are a problem, people.
Please keep that in mind.

You know what's not a big problem? Getting in the car and going home and showering there. Oh, big whoop, your hair will smell like chlorine for 15 minutes. Better than pedophiles AND making an entire locker room super uncomfortable.

Most of the time that is fine but in the middle of the winter when its freezing out, you need to at least change.

You don't, actually. That's what parkas are for.

-Captain of the high school swim team who was in winter swimming for 12 years. In Indiana.

+2. Winter swimming for years in PA. My hair actually did freeze one time when I didn't wear a hat, but it thawed once I jumped in the car!

And these are part of wonderful swimming memories, and living in a time when parents didn't micromanage and sweat every single little thing.

You mean uninvolved parents... we still have those now.

And, you are no longer the team captain.

PA PP here. I don't think it's a question of involved or uninvolved. Just different expectations. I don't know if people didn't worry about appearance as much or what, but it was not a big deal to drive 10 minutes home in a wet suit and shower and change there. In summer we'd sit on a towel so we didn't get the car seat wet. In winter we'd throw on sweat pants and a jacket over the suit and change at home -- again, only a 10-15 minute drive. Not a big deal. I never caught cold or any of the other dire predictions. And I sure as heck wasn't about to shower in the open showers my school gym had. Not to mention that by the time swim practice ended at 5:45 I was starving and still had to get picked up by mom. No snacks in the car! The fastest way to eat was to go home in the suit and change quickly while mom cooked dinner.

Maybe that is what you did, but it is absurd to to think the majority of people leave a pool in a wet suit and put dry clothes over it. But I also think the amount of paranoia around here that their elementary aged or older child is going to get molested in a busy public locker room is absurd too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pedophiles are a problem, people.
Please keep that in mind.

You know what's not a big problem? Getting in the car and going home and showering there. Oh, big whoop, your hair will smell like chlorine for 15 minutes. Better than pedophiles AND making an entire locker room super uncomfortable.

Most of the time that is fine but in the middle of the winter when its freezing out, you need to at least change.

You don't, actually. That's what parkas are for.

-Captain of the high school swim team who was in winter swimming for 12 years. In Indiana.

That’s great, but I pay $200/month for our family to attend a nice gym with luxe shower facilities. I’m not buying my little boy a parka and running him to the car -in summer or in winter- to accommodate some mom’s idiotic hang ups.

[Anonymous]

^^^ $200 per month and they don’t have a family locker room???

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pedophiles are a problem, people.
Please keep that in mind.

You know what's not a big problem? Getting in the car and going home and showering there. Oh, big whoop, your hair will smell like chlorine for 15 minutes. Better than pedophiles AND making an entire locker room super uncomfortable.

Most of the time that is fine but in the middle of the winter when its freezing out, you need to at least change.

You don't, actually. That's what parkas are for.

-Captain of the high school swim team who was in winter swimming for 12 years. In Indiana.

+2. Winter swimming for years in PA. My hair actually did freeze one time when I didn't wear a hat, but it thawed once I jumped in the car!

And these are part of wonderful swimming memories, and living in a time when parents didn't micromanage and sweat every single little thing.

You mean uninvolved parents... we still have those now.

And, you are no longer the team captain.

PA PP here. I don't think it's a question of involved or uninvolved. Just different expectations. I don't know if people didn't worry about appearance as much or what, but it was not a big deal to drive 10 minutes home in a wet suit and shower and change there. In summer we'd sit on a towel so we didn't get the car seat wet. In winter we'd throw on sweat pants and a jacket over the suit and change at home -- again, only a 10-15 minute drive. Not a big deal. I never caught cold or any of the other dire predictions. And I sure as heck wasn't about to shower in the open showers my school gym had. Not to mention that by the time swim practice ended at 5:45 I was starving and still had to get picked up by mom. No snacks in the car! The fastest way to eat was to go home in the suit and change quickly while mom cooked dinner.

I swam for 13 years and don’t recall ever seeing anyone leave the pool in their parka during the winter. We always changed in the locker room. We kept our suits on in the group showers. Our parents would be mad at us for taking so long in there. We would take long hot showers and goof around.

I joined a Masters (adult) swim team a few years ago. A kid swim team practiced right before us and was always in the locker room when I was getting there. I couldn’t believe how many girls who looked to be 10 or even older had thrower moms in there helping them get dressed. The opposite gender issue is one thing but this was straight helicopter parenting. On the other hand, maybe those moms knew that if they didn’t supervise their kids would take forever like I used to!

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Anonymous wrote:What about for dads with their daughters? Dads, at what age do you become uncomfortable with them in the locker room, and feel like they're leering at you?

If I bring my 4 year old daughter into the locker room because I don’t want to leave her alone I cover up just the way I’d do at home. If other guys are there I just tell them she is with me and they are always very dad like. There are man laws that are never broken.

Dad's don't care at all. My husband says girls are in there all the time. He would prefer them in there then going alone.

I see nothing wrong with girls going in with their dads, but it’s not like there are tons of pedos in the women’s locker room. If your daughter can dress/undress herself she should be perfectly fine there.

[Anonymous]

You would let your little girl go in a men’s locker room?! Hell no to that. I don’t think multiple penis viewings on strangers is ideal for an afternoon at the pool. When my husband took the kids to the JCC when they were little, they went to the family locker room or just came home in a towel like someone else suggested. They were little kids and did not really need to shower and blow dry their hair for work or anything.

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What really bothers me is when opposite sex parents bring their child into the locker room, even when a same sex adult is available.
On several occasions I've seen an older elementary/young middle school age boy in the ladies locker room/restroom with his mom. After leaving the locker room/restroom I see them immediately meet up with an adult male (presumably the dad!) Why does mom need to bring a 10 year old boy into the ladies room instead of Dad (or uncle, grandpa, whoever he is!) bringing him into the mens room?
And yes, I have seen this happen many times!

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Anonymous wrote:What really bothers me is when opposite sex parents bring their child into the locker room, even when a same sex adult is available.
On several occasions I've seen an older elementary/young middle school age boy in the ladies locker room/restroom with his mom. After leaving the locker room/restroom I see them immediately meet up with an adult male (presumably the dad!) Why does mom need to bring a 10 year old boy into the ladies room instead of Dad (or uncle, grandpa, whoever he is!) bringing him into the mens room?
And yes, I have seen this happen many times!

Middle school? That's ridiculous. No middle school boy needs mommy's help to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What really bothers me is when opposite sex parents bring their child into the locker room, even when a same sex adult is available.
On several occasions I've seen an older elementary/young middle school age boy in the ladies locker room/restroom with his mom. After leaving the locker room/restroom I see them immediately meet up with an adult male (presumably the dad!) Why does mom need to bring a 10 year old boy into the ladies room instead of Dad (or uncle, grandpa, whoever he is!) bringing him into the mens room?
And yes, I have seen this happen many times!

That is a broader feminism issue.

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Anonymous wrote:8 or so. Not a chance I'd let my little one in a locker room alone. I rarely let my older elementary school child in one alone. They are selfish parents to send their kids in a public restroom alone.

Other people are selfish for respecting everyone’s privacy? An 8 year old is NOT a little one and have no business being in an opposite gender locker room.

Mom's call, not yours.

It absolutely is my call of I’m naked in a locker room and getting leered at by your 8 year old son.

My son has no interest in your body and why are you naked in public around any child - boy or girl? Cover up.

I know, right? The old ladies in there are the worst! Walking around with their floppy t*ts out and a full bush. No one wants to see it! Gross.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pedophiles are a problem, people.
Please keep that in mind.

You know what's not a big problem? Getting in the car and going home and showering there. Oh, big whoop, your hair will smell like chlorine for 15 minutes. Better than pedophiles AND making an entire locker room super uncomfortable.

Most of the time that is fine but in the middle of the winter when its freezing out, you need to at least change.

You don't, actually. That's what parkas are for.

-Captain of the high school swim team who was in winter swimming for 12 years. In Indiana.

+2. Winter swimming for years in PA. My hair actually did freeze one time when I didn't wear a hat, but it thawed once I jumped in the car!

And these are part of wonderful swimming memories, and living in a time when parents didn't micromanage and sweat every single little thing.

You mean uninvolved parents... we still have those now.

And, you are no longer the team captain.

PA PP here. I don't think it's a question of involved or uninvolved. Just different expectations. I don't know if people didn't worry about appearance as much or what, but it was not a big deal to drive 10 minutes home in a wet suit and shower and change there. In summer we'd sit on a towel so we didn't get the car seat wet. In winter we'd throw on sweat pants and a jacket over the suit and change at home -- again, only a 10-15 minute drive. Not a big deal. I never caught cold or any of the other dire predictions. And I sure as heck wasn't about to shower in the open showers my school gym had. Not to mention that by the time swim practice ended at 5:45 I was starving and still had to get picked up by mom. No snacks in the car! The fastest way to eat was to go home in the suit and change quickly while mom cooked dinner.

But now the clothes you wore over the suit are wet too? So dyou put them in the hamper or wear again?
I have to change at the pool

[Anonymous]

Your overprotectiveness if your sons does NOT trump my pubescent daughter’s right to privacy. IDGAF if your kid sees me naked, that’s what happens when you go into a women’s locker room. However my daughter would be very developmentally appropriate horrified and that’s no okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 or so. Not a chance I'd let my little one in a locker room alone. I rarely let my older elementary school child in one alone. They are selfish parents to send their kids in a public restroom alone.

Other people are selfish for respecting everyone’s privacy? An 8 year old is NOT a little one and have no business being in an opposite gender locker room.

Mom's call, not yours.

It absolutely is my call of I’m naked in a locker room and getting leered at by your 8 year old son.

My son has no interest in your body and why are you naked in public around any child - boy or girl? Cover up.

I know, right? The old ladies in there are the worst! Walking around with their floppy t*ts out and a full bush. No one wants to see it! Gross.

+1

I have never looked at another woman I n the locker room long enough to notice or observe her pubic hair. And even if I did notice, it wouldn’t ever dawn on me to care or be offended about whether she waxed it. What a bizarre, perverted, and idiotic thing to observe and judge. Either you are profoundly insecure or just a major pervert.