SIL blocked invitation to family BBQ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a difference in hosting one family vs two. Not sure how big either family is in the OP. But having 2 adults and 1 child over is different than 4 adults and 3 kids. 3 vs 7 guests. Three people is double food and all fit at my table. 7 extra people means expanding the table, hauling up extra chairs, way more food. Completely different vibe. I wouldn't think this needs explained, but here we are.

ITA. Why does the OP think she's entitled to have any input into what type of gathering her brother and SIL host?

Not op but, it is human feelings to be excluded as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a difference in hosting one family vs two. Not sure how big either family is in the OP. But having 2 adults and 1 child over is different than 4 adults and 3 kids. 3 vs 7 guests. Three people is double food and all fit at my table. 7 extra people means expanding the table, hauling up extra chairs, way more food. Completely different vibe. I wouldn't think this needs explained, but here we are.

ITA. Why does the OP think she's entitled to have any input into what type of gathering her brother and SIL host?

Not op but, it is human feelings to be excluded as well.

Yes, and? When I have feelings, I process them. I don't pick up the phone and invite myself to things, acting like a wounded bird.

It's fine to have feelings. It's not fine to act like an entitled brat.

[Anonymous]

She didn't block it, she just didn't invite you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would probably be annoyed that they asked to come over to my house after a bbq I wasn’t invited to.

Yes, this brother was looking to stir the pot.

+2.

[Anonymous]

Why are you such a bigot OP? And why do you support patriarchy? Does it give you pleasure to blame women such as your SIL but not men? Your own brother? Why? Your brother could have invited you, he is having a BBQ, he is your blood. But, SIL is to blame? Why? Why is this post not "my brother didn't invite me to his BBQ and I resent him for it."

[Anonymous]

It is okay for them to get together without you OP (especially if you and SIL are not close).

But as to the hurt feelings - This is on the brother who texted you and stirred the pot. He could have left things alone knowing you were not invited.