Our house is boring

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We once went to a party and all the teen/tweens were in a tricked-out basement. The dad of the house was very proud of how the kids could "have their own space." I joked with my son that it would be nice if we had something like that for him and his friends. He said "a date rape basement? No thanks."

(FYI, when they were younger they played with waterguns or "manhunt" around the neighborhood. Now that they are driving age, they go to the driving range or to eat.)

Your kid is truly bizarre.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We once went to a party and all the teen/tweens were in a tricked-out basement. The dad of the house was very proud of how the kids could "have their own space." I joked with my son that it would be nice if we had something like that for him and his friends. He said "a date rape basement? No thanks."

(FYI, when they were younger they played with waterguns or "manhunt" around the neighborhood. Now that they are driving age, they go to the driving range or to eat.)

I don't get it? Why would your kid assume or imply that he or his friends would be committing date rape if they had the opportunity?

You clearly don't get it.

Different poster. What does a tricked out basement have to do with date rape?

It's space where parents who are eager to be seen as having the "cool house" leave kids unsupervised. It a situation that leads to under-aged drinking and all sorts of awfulness.

So nice basements =date rape?

[Anonymous]

Our house is a hangout space. But it really is due to the grandparents going nuts. When we moved we had a large basement with a pool table (past owners asked if we wanted it, it was really nice so we said yes) and we finished a room and turned it into a movie room with a screen and projector. But then the grandparents saw the potential and went to town. It's going to be almost 3 years since our move and now our basement has game systems, I don't know which ones, a foosball table, a ping pong table, an air hockey table (I hate this one it takes so much space), neon signs, laser tag guns and gear, etc. We recently sat the grandparents down and told them that was enough.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

how do you find out if other parents are this permissive? this makes me uncomfortable.

You don't, but this parent is not that permissive. I've been to homes where the parents never, ever even checked on us once. Plenty of drinking. You just have to trust that your kid will make the right choices at that point.

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Anonymous wrote:We once went to a party and all the teen/tweens were in a tricked-out basement. The dad of the house was very proud of how the kids could "have their own space." I joked with my son that it would be nice if we had something like that for him and his friends. He said "a date rape basement? No thanks."

(FYI, when they were younger they played with waterguns or "manhunt" around the neighborhood. Now that they are driving age, they go to the driving range or to eat.)

I don't get it? Why would your kid assume or imply that he or his friends would be committing date rape if they had the opportunity?

You clearly don't get it.

Different poster. What does a tricked out basement have to do with date rape?

It's space where parents who are eager to be seen as having the "cool house" leave kids unsupervised. It a situation that leads to under-aged drinking and all sorts of awfulness.

His makes no sense and neither does the kid who commented on it. Date rape happens in basements, bedrooms, cars, parks and playgrounds, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We once went to a party and all the teen/tweens were in a tricked-out basement. The dad of the house was very proud of how the kids could "have their own space." I joked with my son that it would be nice if we had something like that for him and his friends. He said "a date rape basement? No thanks."

(FYI, when they were younger they played with waterguns or "manhunt" around the neighborhood. Now that they are driving age, they go to the driving range or to eat.)

Your kid is truly bizarre.

Her kid never said that. I love when people try to make their kids sound mature and erudite and shit by making up stuff no kid has ever said and curiously always delivering it in an adult way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our house is a hangout space. But it really is due to the grandparents going nuts. When we moved we had a large basement with a pool table (past owners asked if we wanted it, it was really nice so we said yes) and we finished a room and turned it into a movie room with a screen and projector. But then the grandparents saw the potential and went to town. It's going to be almost 3 years since our move and now our basement has game systems, I don't know which ones, a foosball table, a ping pong table, an air hockey table (I hate this one it takes so much space), neon signs, laser tag guns and gear, etc. We recently sat the grandparents down and told them that was enough.

You’re a grown adult whose parents are furnishing your home? What’s wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our house is a hangout space. But it really is due to the grandparents going nuts. When we moved we had a large basement with a pool table (past owners asked if we wanted it, it was really nice so we said yes) and we finished a room and turned it into a movie room with a screen and projector. But then the grandparents saw the potential and went to town. It's going to be almost 3 years since our move and now our basement has game systems, I don't know which ones, a foosball table, a ping pong table, an air hockey table (I hate this one it takes so much space), neon signs, laser tag guns and gear, etc. We recently sat the grandparents down and told them that was enough.

You’re a grown adult whose parents are furnishing your home? What’s wrong with you.

Are foosball tables furniture now? Nothing wrong with me, hence the conversation. They just want to give their grand kids a place to entertain themselves and their friends, their hearts are in the right place. It's just that it's more than enough now, and they understand.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We once went to a party and all the teen/tweens were in a tricked-out basement. The dad of the house was very proud of how the kids could "have their own space." I joked with my son that it would be nice if we had something like that for him and his friends. He said "a date rape basement? No thanks."

(FYI, when they were younger they played with waterguns or "manhunt" around the neighborhood. Now that they are driving age, they go to the driving range or to eat.)

Your kid is truly bizarre.

Her kid never said that. I love when people try to make their kids sound mature and erudite and shit by making up stuff no kid has ever said and curiously always delivering it in an adult way.

+1000
Poster, literally no one believes your kid actually said that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our house is a hangout space. But it really is due to the grandparents going nuts. When we moved we had a large basement with a pool table (past owners asked if we wanted it, it was really nice so we said yes) and we finished a room and turned it into a movie room with a screen and projector. But then the grandparents saw the potential and went to town. It's going to be almost 3 years since our move and now our basement has game systems, I don't know which ones, a foosball table, a ping pong table, an air hockey table (I hate this one it takes so much space), neon signs, laser tag guns and gear, etc. We recently sat the grandparents down and told them that was enough.

You’re a grown adult whose parents are furnishing your home? What’s wrong with you.

Are foosball tables furniture now? Nothing wrong with me, hence the conversation. They just want to give their grand kids a place to entertain themselves and their friends, their hearts are in the right place. It's just that it's more than enough now, and they understand.

In your OP it was ping pong, foosball, air hockey, laser tag, neon signs, etc. yeah. That’s furnishing your home with expensive gifts you took over and over again.

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Pp , jeez what’s wrong with those gifts? Seems nice to me. There’s nothing wrong with having those items and I’m sure they struggled, as many grandparents do, with gift ideas for kids that already have a lot likely. I like that the parents also said enough now we have too much or whatever was communicated.

[Anonymous]

On the kid who said “date rape basement” I could see it, I have a nephew with friends who are super smart, not super social, and can be snarky in that way.