Our house is boring

[Anonymous]

My kid and most of his friends are not into gaming, so they just find other things to do. Food and a little independence go a long way.

[Anonymous]

-1 on the gaming system. That’s not really socializing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS is 13. We have basketball hoop outside but we do not have a gaming system but plenty of boardgames. When friends are over I allow them to use my computer to play games against each other. What else do we need to have a fun house to hang out in? Foosball? I really don't know but our house is definitely not as exciting as other kids.

Sorry, but considering the way kids now socialize these days, nobody is going to want to be at your house. Nothing wrong with that. This is just a result of your house not being teen friendly.

This. This is how boys interact at that age. I usually kick my son and his friend outside for a while too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

Your post exhausts me. What are you going to do with your free time and mental energy when your kids move out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

how do you find out if other parents are this permissive? this makes me uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

We don’t have a gaming system, but we have a tv, a lot of food, new board games 4x a year, and a great sound system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

I wouldn’t want to send my kid to your house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

I wouldn’t want to send my kid to your house

seriously glad my kid doesn't hang with kids like yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

I wouldn’t want to send my kid to your house

seriously glad my kid doesn't hang with kids like yours.

Who are you talking about pp? The parent with the virtual reality room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

I wouldn’t want to send my kid to your house

seriously glad my kid doesn't hang with kids like yours.

I’m curious what you find permissive? She knows it’s a hang out house but is trying to enforce rules and keep an eye on things. It’s realistic that someone might have sex in your house despite the best laid plans. (No pun intended). My friends would do it in the bushes, laundry room, and similar at each other’s houses. She’s strict about drinking and doesn’t condone but concedes these days it’s pretty hard to know if kids are vaping whatever substance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

how do you find out if other parents are this permissive? this makes me uncomfortable.

What are you uncomfortable with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

how do you find out if other parents are this permissive? this makes me uncomfortable.

If your kid is asking to go to their house, they are this permissive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

how do you find out if other parents are this permissive? this makes me uncomfortable.

If your kid is asking to go to their house, they are this permissive.

Not sure what is permissive here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have pool, hot tub, two gaming systems, separate fridge in basement with drinks and pantry with snacks, we have ping pong, a work out room, virtual reality, outdoor fireplace, a good tv hang out room, lax about what music they play as long as I’m not trying to go to bed, I let them order in, we have cameras too but not insidewhich I find creepy. My son is 16. Is it possible someone has had sex here - sure. Drinking I’m really strict about and if youv’e been drinking I will likely know. I enforce a you have to greet me when come in and say goodbye before you leave, I limit numbers - most is 8, whatever combo with boys. Sleepovers ok but have to sleep on my level. I find vaping and pot a lot harder to patrol. They vape pot now mostly if living at home.

how do you find out if other parents are this permissive? this makes me uncomfortable.

If your kid is asking to go to their house, they are this permissive.

Not sure what is permissive here?

I’m the poster. I’m a bit confused too. Yes kids hang out here, but we have strict limits on number, have cameras so no sneaking in or out, I do not allow drinking or you to come over if you have been drinking. I call parents if something is going on. I don’t allow kids to smoke anything. I try to be around a lot and no kids in the house if we aren’t there. They can eat and listen to what they want though. I guess that’s permissive??

[Anonymous]

pP If you’re responding to the could Kids have had sex or vaped pot at my house they could at yours too. It’s not allowed. But teens get by with a lot even with the best attempts.