Neighbor with another woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy I went to college with saw a married female colleague leaving a hotel room that wasn't hers while they were on a conference trip.

He jokingly told her he'd tell her husband if she didn't give him a BJ.

She actually gave him one. He said he felt pretty bad about it but it was obvious that she was pretty much a tramp.

He should feel pretty bad it's sextortion and it's a serious crime. Whether he was joking or not the fact that she complied does not obviously make her a tramp it means she was coerced into performing a sexual act for fear of the threat of something terrible happening. It's sick and depraved and it is no different than any other form of gender-based violence against women. It's no different than when teachers coerce sex acts from students in exchange for fair grades, no different than when landlords demand sex in lieu of rent, no different than when judges extort sex in exchange for favorable custody decisions. It's the equivalent of putting a gun to a woman's head and requesting they provide you with a sexual favor in return for sparing their life. Consent cannot occur in a situation where the person is coerced, such as when they have a gun to their head, or are under threat of something terrible happening. Blackmail is a form of coercion. The guy you went to college with belongs in jail.

What a nutter!
Let me guess, you are a gender studies student? Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy I went to college with saw a married female colleague leaving a hotel room that wasn't hers while they were on a conference trip.

He jokingly told her he'd tell her husband if she didn't give him a BJ.

She actually gave him one. He said he felt pretty bad about it but it was obvious that she was pretty much a tramp.

So what does that make your blackmailing friend?

You missed the 'jokingly' part?

If it were “jokingly” he’d have kept his pants zipped.

To be honest, I can't think of one guy I know that would have turned it down. Also, maybe she likes giving BJs. You do know those women exist, right? Or are you one of the people that think women view sex as a disgusting chore?

We know a guy in the Oval Office didn't turn it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy I went to college with saw a married female colleague leaving a hotel room that wasn't hers while they were on a conference trip.

He jokingly told her he'd tell her husband if she didn't give him a BJ.

She actually gave him one. He said he felt pretty bad about it but it was obvious that she was pretty much a tramp.

So what does that make your blackmailing friend?

You missed the 'jokingly' part?

If it were “jokingly” he’d have kept his pants zipped.

To be honest, I can't think of one guy I know that would have turned it down. Also, maybe she likes giving BJs. You do know those women exist, right? Or are you one of the people that think women view sex as a disgusting chore?

We know a guy in the Oval Office didn't turn it down.

I thought the guy in the Oval Office likes golden showers from Russian hookers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy I went to college with saw a married female colleague leaving a hotel room that wasn't hers while they were on a conference trip.

He jokingly told her he'd tell her husband if she didn't give him a BJ.

She actually gave him one. He said he felt pretty bad about it but it was obvious that she was pretty much a tramp.

wow. blackmailing someone for sex is a form of non-consensual sex. your friend is a sexual assaulter.

It's also helpful to not engage in activities that make one vulnerable to blackmail.

Found the guy with the clearance.

[Anonymous]

A neighbor, myob

[Anonymous]

Honestly I can't even imagine threatening a man to expose his affair. He literally might have you killed or something. Why start some Dateline drama? Ignore and stop future playdates. Don't associate with them anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I can't even imagine threatening a man to expose his affair. He literally might have you killed or something. Why start some Dateline drama? Ignore and stop future playdates. Don't associate with them anymore.

Why you want to send his wife an anonymous note about the incident!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I can't even imagine threatening a man to expose his affair. He literally might have you killed or something. Why start some Dateline drama? Ignore and stop future playdates. Don't associate with them anymore.

Why you want to send his wife an anonymous note about the incident!

Missed encounter Craigslist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would go up to the guy and say "I saw you kissing that woman at the store today. If you don't tell your wife within 48 hours, I will."

I view it as a health issue.

This response always cracks me up, like every person who messes with a married person must be a diseased mess.

1) it’s highly possible she has no idea he’s married and he is lying to her—I mean, they’re making out in public. Not really trying to hide. So I hesitate to call her a dirty home wrecker—I’ve been lied to by married men who were very public with their misdeeds.

2) you’re more of a risk to the world if you’ve ever had a cold sore, so get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - DH said to mind my own business and I told him he is responsible going forward making the play date arrangements. I feel so bad and couldn't sleep last night. As I thought before posting on here, the recommendations are split on what to do.

Drama queen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was leaving the grocery store today and while getting in my car saw my neighbor kissing and hugging a woman who wasn't his wife across the parking lot. His wife is friendly with me but we aren't close. I am so conflicted and wondering WWYD if you were in my shoes?

Is it possible it wasn't really him, or it was him but the woman was the wife or his sister? Also could it possibly be that the car hit a bump that have effected your or their vision? TIA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy I went to college with saw a married female colleague leaving a hotel room that wasn't hers while they were on a conference trip.

He jokingly told her he'd tell her husband if she didn't give him a BJ.

She actually gave him one. He said he felt pretty bad about it but it was obvious that she was pretty much a tramp.

I am sure he didn't' feel bad at the time!

[Anonymous]

OP here - well a playdate happened today and made my DH answer the phone and door when my neighbor (his wife) came by. Told him to tell her I was feeling good and upstairs sleeping. The anxiety of this is ripping me apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - well a playdate happened today and made my DH answer the phone and door when my neighbor (his wife) came by. Told him to tell her I was feeling good and upstairs sleeping. The anxiety of this is ripping me apart.

Oh ffs, grow up.

[Anonymous]

Tell her! You're just as bad as the cheater, lying to your friend like that. Gross.