When did your June birthday boy start school? How do you feel about it now that he is older?

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Mid-June birthday, didn't hold back. Now one of the biggest in the class, ironically, despite being one of the youngest, and top of the class academically. I can't imagine him in a grade with all younger children!

OTOH, I know twin boys who were older than him who were held back to do an extra year of preschool. They really needed it, behaviorally. Now they are thriving too.

I tend to trust that parents know what's best for their own kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. This is kind of ridiculous. Don’t red-shirt.

OP here. I was a teacher. The boy summer birthdays were almost always obvious! I could tell who had a summer birthday before even checking the roster.

I do not want him to be the last to turn 16/18/21. That is why I am asking the teen forum. I want to know how the boys are doing down the road.

I hate for him to be the last birthday, and to have girls/boys with birthdays in October. They'll be 9 months older than him and that is a LOT.

It sounds like you should hold him back for your needs and wishes. But, be prepared to have him ask why you had not confidence in him that he can do it. There are plenty of younger kids and the reason why there are not is because of parents like you. Send your kid to school on time.

I don't want him to be the last to turn 16, 18, or 21. How is that MY need or wish. I don't want him to have a hard time being the last birthday. I think there's a chance he could resent me for sending him "late", but it is more likely that he'll have hardships for being so young.

First of all, with a JUNE birthday he won't be anywhere near the youngest in the class. Not even close. We have 3 kids in my son's class with late September birthdays. Second, you are forgetting the other side of the coin- that your son will now be the one whining because he's board in K because he's in an inappropriately young class for his age. You'll be on here bitching that things aren't advanced enough for him and, when he starts misbehaving, it's because they school is failing to challenge him.

And if that's not enough... when he's in high school and he and all his friends get caught doing something stupid, they'll all wind up getting their parents called while he, being 18, gets to go right to jail. Enjoy!

+1 If OP is a teacher, OP should know this already. Kids who are bored in class talk a lot, and kids who are academically way more advanced than their peers in class get bored pretty easily, finish their work early, and so they talk to other kids.

This is such BS. Some of those kids have behavior issues plain and simple, but their parents right it off as 'he's such a Genius so he gets in trouble because he is sooooooo bored'. My kid have had a bunch of kids like that in their GT classes over their years and 99% of them had parents that never properly disciplined and also were the kids with unfettered screen time. My kids found things to do when they were done ahead of schedule---quietly read at their desks, made comic strips, etc. They knew not to disrupt the entire class.

Sure some might, but many are just really bored after finishing their worksheets in 5 min. Most boys are quiet. Much harder for them to sit still. I have one of each, both summer kids, both went to school on time.

Our kids don't get bored. They rush through their worksheets in a few minutes so they can use their chrome books to play online games. Most kids can sit still for computer games. Funny thing, they can sit when they want to. Teachers need to make school more interesting and engaging.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. This is kind of ridiculous. Don’t red-shirt.

OP here. I was a teacher. The boy summer birthdays were almost always obvious! I could tell who had a summer birthday before even checking the roster.

I do not want him to be the last to turn 16/18/21. That is why I am asking the teen forum. I want to know how the boys are doing down the road.

I hate for him to be the last birthday, and to have girls/boys with birthdays in October. They'll be 9 months older than him and that is a LOT.

It sounds like you should hold him back for your needs and wishes. But, be prepared to have him ask why you had not confidence in him that he can do it. There are plenty of younger kids and the reason why there are not is because of parents like you. Send your kid to school on time.

I don't want him to be the last to turn 16, 18, or 21. How is that MY need or wish. I don't want him to have a hard time being the last birthday. I think there's a chance he could resent me for sending him "late", but it is more likely that he'll have hardships for being so young.

First of all, with a JUNE birthday he won't be anywhere near the youngest in the class. Not even close. We have 3 kids in my son's class with late September birthdays. Second, you are forgetting the other side of the coin- that your son will now be the one whining because he's board in K because he's in an inappropriately young class for his age. You'll be on here bitching that things aren't advanced enough for him and, when he starts misbehaving, it's because they school is failing to challenge him.

And if that's not enough... when he's in high school and he and all his friends get caught doing something stupid, they'll all wind up getting their parents called while he, being 18, gets to go right to jail. Enjoy!

+1 If OP is a teacher, OP should know this already. Kids who are bored in class talk a lot, and kids who are academically way more advanced than their peers in class get bored pretty easily, finish their work early, and so they talk to other kids.

This is such BS. Some of those kids have behavior issues plain and simple, but their parents right it off as 'he's such a Genius so he gets in trouble because he is sooooooo bored'. My kid have had a bunch of kids like that in their GT classes over their years and 99% of them had parents that never properly disciplined and also were the kids with unfettered screen time. My kids found things to do when they were done ahead of schedule---quietly read at their desks, made comic strips, etc. They knew not to disrupt the entire class.

Some of our kids get far more screen time at school than at home. Maybe you should try to engage those kids more and work with them on their behavior fi they are not getting it at home. That is part of the school learning process.

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Turned 5 in June, started Kindergarten in late August. It never occurred to me to hold him back a year.

He is now 14 and a freshman and I feel he it was the right thing to do.

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My early June son started on time. He’s in eighth grade now and I am not sure it was the right decision. It’s surprising how many parents red shirt their kids here, or have them repeat a grade. DS is pretty immature compared to many classmates but why wouldn’t he be? He’s one of the youngest kids in his grade. His peers are almost all 14 and some are on the cusp of 15.