Reasonable to expect coaches to break ball-hogging/Star syndrome?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a parent has to use money to motivate a player, that player is motivated/passionate about money not soccer.

The best players on our team are self-motivated and I can tell they love the sport.

Please show your DC the soccer movie, “Alex and me”.

That’s not true, rewards motivate behavior, not passion. I want my kid to behave different, i provide a goal with a commensurate reward.

The best players on the team might TOTALLY NOT be self motivated. Some of the worst players could love the sport. Correlation is not causation.

And they won’t be the best for long.

When you get into high competition by teens, any non self-motivated player will no longer be the star no matter their base athleticism. Drive, ambition and an unwilling desire to have that ball. The lazy, I could take it or leave it players/can’t be bothered to chase back and parents think they are special drive me nuts. I’d rather see a kid of lesser talent giving 110% than a kid with wasted potential.

#teamrudy

I love the movie Rudy for that reason

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a parent has to use money to motivate a player, that player is motivated/passionate about money not soccer.

The best players on our team are self-motivated and I can tell they love the sport.

Please show your DC the soccer movie, “Alex and me”.

That’s not true, rewards motivate behavior, not passion. I want my kid to behave different, i provide a goal with a commensurate reward.

The best players on the team might TOTALLY NOT be self motivated. Some of the worst players could love the sport. Correlation is not causation.

And they won’t be the best for long.

When you get into high competition by teens, any non self-motivated player will no longer be the star no matter their base athleticism. Drive, ambition and an unwilling desire to have that ball. The lazy, I could take it or leave it players/can’t be bothered to chase back and parents think they are special drive me nuts. I’d rather see a kid of lesser talent giving 110% than a kid with wasted potential.

#teamrudy

I love the movie Rudy for that reason

+1000.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a parent has to use money to motivate a player, that player is motivated/passionate about money not soccer.

The best players on our team are self-motivated and I can tell they love the sport.

Please show your DC the soccer movie, “Alex and me”.

You understand that "Alex and me" is a movie and not a documentary right?

Did anyone say it was a documentary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a parent has to use money to motivate a player, that player is motivated/passionate about money not soccer.

The best players on our team are self-motivated and I can tell they love the sport.

Please show your DC the soccer movie, “Alex and me”.

That’s not true, rewards motivate behavior, not passion. I want my kid to behave different, i provide a goal with a commensurate reward.

The best players on the team might TOTALLY NOT be self motivated. Some of the worst players could love the sport. Correlation is not causation.

And they won’t be the best for long.

When you get into high competition by teens, any non self-motivated player will no longer be the star no matter their base athleticism. Drive, ambition and an unwilling desire to have that ball. The lazy, I could take it or leave it players/can’t be bothered to chase back and parents think they are special drive me nuts. I’d rather see a kid of lesser talent giving 110% than a kid with wasted potential.

#teamrudy

I love the movie Rudy for that reason

You’ve chosen to discuss an extreme of that case, I’m describing the other. I want my kid to play with their left at u7/u8 to get more comfortable in matches having already trained to play with their left but need a nudge. If i can coax the behavior and it leads to other changes die to confidence then I am ok with risk/reward situations.

[Anonymous]

That’s a good reason then. You are incentivizing your DC to be a better player which helps the team. This is different than being a ball hog and wanting to score instead of passing when their teammates are wide open in front of the goal because they want that $10.

I’ve known parents that promises their children to buy them a new car if/when they obtain a college degree. Some kids need a little encouragement while others do not. Only an astute/observant parent would know best to how to mold/encourage their children based upon their children’s respective personalities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s a good reason then. You are incentivizing your DC to be a better player which helps the team. This is different than being a ball hog and wanting to score instead of passing when their teammates are wide open in front of the goal because they want that $10.

I’ve known parents that promises their children to buy them a new car if/when they obtain a college degree. Some kids need a little encouragement while others do not. Only an astute/observant parent would know best to how to mold/encourage their children based upon their children’s respective personalities.

I would consider buying my kid a car if they earned a college scholarship, academic or sport but a car for a degree? The incentive for the college degree should be the ability to buy food and shelter.

[Anonymous]

I think if we spend as much or more energy on praising the pass and giving credit to the assist, then that will help with ball hogging. A lot of it comes from the fact that most real excitement is in the goal, not in what lead up to it.

[Anonymous]

We should be praising and cheering good tackles as well, rather than the usual “HEYYY!! COME ON REF THAT WAS A FOUL!! THAT SHOULD BE A CARD!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if we spend as much or more energy on praising the pass and giving credit to the assist, then that will help with ball hogging. A lot of it comes from the fact that most real excitement is in the goal, not in what lead up to it.

This doesnt work long term, it just shifts the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if we spend as much or more energy on praising the pass and giving credit to the assist, then that will help with ball hogging. A lot of it comes from the fact that most real excitement is in the goal, not in what lead up to it.

This doesnt work long term, it just shifts the problem.

Why not? What do you think the problem is? Most ball hogs I see think they can dribble their way into goal.

[Anonymous]

Because everyone is not on the same page from player to coach to parent.