If you found your teen’s Vaping supplies would you confiscate?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First time - I confiscated it and had a long talk.
Second time - I left it in its hiding place and monitored when it was missing so I could get an idea of how often it was being used and then confiscated it about two months later and had another talk.
Third time - DH found it in the car and left it.
Fourth time - I confiscated it when I walked in his room and he was stoned and it was out in the open in his room.
I have given up.

I get being tired. I don't get giving up.

Keep talking. Keep explaining how harmful it is to his lungs. And keep providing unpleasant concrete consequences for making the choice to do this to his body.
Your kid needs to know that he matters enough to you to care what he does to himself.

What you are saying sounds good, but I agree with the first poster. I have given up. We have talked and talked and talked. Our teen will not listen and is likely extremely addicted to nicotine now. He is also asthmatic, so it is even worse for his lungs. We tried everything. Everything. Absolutely nothing worked. We did not give him one red cent for over a year and threw away supplies many, many times. He somehow always manages to keep himself supplied. We had his doctors and therapist talk to him. He had all of his privileges revoked. Nothing matters more to him than his vaping. So we are not going to throw him out of the house, but he starts college next week and he will have to live in the dorms and with friends from now on. I am sick to death of finding his stupid pods in my house and listening to him whine about he doesnt have any money to do anything fun. He has chosen vaping and I honestly can not stand to watch anymore.

Thank you for sharing, I didn't realize this is such an issue. Sorry to hear your story though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My oldest became an example to the younger ones. Found her JUUL when she was 17. Cancelled her phone, took away the car, and told her to get a job and start looking for a place to live. She turned 18 two months later and was gone. Passed her the college bill a few months later, but since she couldn't pay it, she was disenrolled.

She was warned and had the option to heed the warning. But now she's free to vape and smoke every meal of the day if she wants.

She was vaping, so you kicked her out of the house and didn't pay for her college? And this is good, because why?

DP here: I would have done the same thing. I would not tolerate any addictions in my house, especially when the younger siblings are in the house, and definitely would not pay for that lifestyle. If a child makes an adult decision, let them live with the consequences and learn the lesson.

[Anonymous]

Seriously kicking a child out of the house for vaping????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My oldest became an example to the younger ones. Found her JUUL when she was 17. Cancelled her phone, took away the car, and told her to get a job and start looking for a place to live. She turned 18 two months later and was gone. Passed her the college bill a few months later, but since she couldn't pay it, she was disenrolled.

She was warned and had the option to heed the warning. But now she's free to vape and smoke every meal of the day if she wants.

She was vaping, so you kicked her out of the house and didn't pay for her college? And this is good, because why?

DP here: I would have done the same thing. I would not tolerate any addictions in my house, especially when the younger siblings are in the house, and definitely would not pay for that lifestyle. If a child makes an adult decision, let them live with the consequences and learn the lesson.

Perspective, proportion - who needs 'em, amirite ladies?