If you found your teen’s Vaping supplies would you confiscate?

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Parents take different approaches on this. Some try to keep communication open versus hiding and punishing. Just different parenting styles. There’s no evidence one is better than the other according to my teen’s well versed therapist.

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The reality is if they are vaping, they will continue. I have had the talk and throw out the devices ad nauseum. I do regular backpack and room searches and will come across the juuling package or insertsperiodixally. I throw them out. I talk about health risks. It’s tiring. I’m not the only parent dealing with this. And, DH and I are involved parents. Punishing has its limits. All we can do is try to get through.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents take different approaches on this. Some try to keep communication open versus hiding and punishing. Just different parenting styles. There’s no evidence one is better than the other according to my teen’s well versed therapist.

Again, I don’t see this as an either/or.

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing full well if they want to do it they’ll get new ones? Or just talk to them about your disapproval, health risks, etc?

With what money?

Certain kids in my neighborhood resort to either dealing, or breaking and entering, to support their habits.

That's a separate, additional problem.

I’m just saying if you stop the money flow, they will find it elsewhere. Merely cutting off money doesn’t do much good.

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing full well if they want to do it they’ll get new ones? Or just talk to them about your disapproval, health risks, etc?

With what money?

Certain kids in my neighborhood resort to either dealing, or breaking and entering, to support their habits.

That's a separate, additional problem.

I’m just saying if you stop the money flow, they will find it elsewhere. Merely cutting off money doesn’t do much good.

If the desire to vape is so strong that they will burgle their neighbors in order to have money for vaping, then all the more reason to have a no-vaping rule. I certainly hope that no parent would think to themselves, "I won't confiscate the vaping supplies, because if I do, my kid will steal from our neighbors for money to buy more."

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is if they are vaping, they will continue. I have had the talk and throw out the devices ad nauseum. I do regular backpack and room searches and will come across the juuling package or insertsperiodixally. I throw them out. I talk about health risks. It’s tiring. I’m not the only parent dealing with this. And, DH and I are involved parents. Punishing has its limits. All we can do is try to get through.

Right there with ya! I was on my daughter’s Instagram account and couldn’t believe how many kids in the dm, story or video sections have shots of themselves vaping. Kids you wouldn’t have thought- but I wouldn’t have thought my daughter either.

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What punishments for vaping have parents found effective?

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Anonymous wrote:What punishments for vaping have parents found effective?

No car.
No phone.
No riding with friends.
Mommy picks up and drops off like she did when they were in elementary school.

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Anonymous wrote:What punishments for vaping have parents found effective?

No car.
No phone.
No riding with friends.
Mommy picks up and drops off like she did when they were in elementary school.

Ok any you know it’s worked ? How? And what was duration of punishments?

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing full well if they want to do it they’ll get new ones? Or just talk to them about your disapproval, health risks, etc?

I would confiscate, and keep confiscating - those things are expensive.

[Anonymous]

First time - I confiscated it and had a long talk.
Second time - I left it in its hiding place and monitored when it was missing so I could get an idea of how often it was being used and then confiscated it about two months later and had another talk.
Third time - DH found it in the car and left it.
Fourth time - I confiscated it when I walked in his room and he was stoned and it was out in the open in his room.
I have given up.

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Anonymous wrote:What punishments for vaping have parents found effective?

Sadly, none. We have had several family discussions, they didn't work. I have tried grounding and I have tried taking away the car. I have confiscated his supplies on more than one occasion. Nothing seems to change the fact that he wants to do it and will find a way.

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Anonymous wrote:What punishments for vaping have parents found effective?

My girlfriend was pretty extreme when she found out her son was vaping. She took his cell phone and read all of his texts. She then texted back all of his friends that he could no longer hang out with them because they vaped, but they were welcome to come to his house and have dinner with him and his mom. She made him delete all social media. She made him quit his clubs and sports. He didn't switch schools, but basically she made him start over and find new friends. Kid seems okay, but I feel sorry for him.

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing full well if they want to do it they’ll get new ones? Or just talk to them about your disapproval, health risks, etc?

With what money?

You would be surprised how creative they can be. Mine was selling his video games.