Shared wall and small kitchen appliance use at 6 am weekdays

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. It would be inconsiderate to play loud music at 4 a.m. on a Tuesday; that's an unreasonable time for something like that.

But 7 a.m. on a weekday is totally appropriate smoothie time, or food preparation of any sort. It is purposeful, time-appropriate behavior. Be glad it's not 6 a.m.

OP said it was 6am. She was making the noise for 3 minutes at 6am because she leaves at 7.

At 6AM, it is very rude!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are you people? Just because you get up by 6am doesn't mean the whole world is. Making Loud noises (e.g. Blenders are about 78-85 dB) before 8 a.m. is rude -- weekday or weekend. If you live in a shared space, you *should* be extra vigilant.

A shared wall is not enough of a shared space that people shouldn’t do ordinary thinks like make a breakfast smoothie or blow dry their hair.

But what OP is doing is NOT normal morning behavior. I love how the onus is on the "victim" and not on the OP to exhibit polite behavior.

I disagree. It’s very normal behavior.
Is she “allowed” to use her hairdryer? After all that’s loud, too.

Before 8 am, on a weekday, is rude? You're just lazy. Get out of bed already. OP: grinding coffee and making smoothies before work on a weekday are reasonable expectations. I would completely ignore it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. It would be inconsiderate to play loud music at 4 a.m. on a Tuesday; that's an unreasonable time for something like that.

But 7 a.m. on a weekday is totally appropriate smoothie time, or food preparation of any sort. It is purposeful, time-appropriate behavior. Be glad it's not 6 a.m.

OP said it was 6am. She was making the noise for 3 minutes at 6am because she leaves at 7.

At 6AM, it is very rude!

Yep, rude.
You paid it forward. It will come back to you. Karma.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people? Just because you get up by 6am doesn't mean the whole world is. Making Loud noises (e.g. Blenders are about 78-85 dB) before 8 a.m. is rude -- weekday or weekend. If you live in a shared space, you *should* be extra vigilant.

A shared wall is not enough of a shared space that people shouldn’t do ordinary thinks like make a breakfast smoothie or blow dry their hair.

But what OP is doing is NOT normal morning behavior. I love how the onus is on the "victim" and not on the OP to exhibit polite behavior.

I disagree. It’s very normal behavior.
Is she “allowed” to use her hairdryer? After all that’s loud, too.

Before 8 am, on a weekday, is rude? You're just lazy. Get out of bed already. OP: grinding coffee and making smoothies before work on a weekday are reasonable expectations. I would completely ignore it.

Who do anyone was sleeping at 8am. Just because people are up doesn't mean you should be making loud noises, but based on some comments here it seems it would acceptable to jack up the radio at 6am. After all that's how some people would like to start their day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. It would be inconsiderate to play loud music at 4 a.m. on a Tuesday; that's an unreasonable time for something like that.

But 7 a.m. on a weekday is totally appropriate smoothie time, or food preparation of any sort. It is purposeful, time-appropriate behavior. Be glad it's not 6 a.m.

OP said it was 6am. She was making the noise for 3 minutes at 6am because she leaves at 7.

Not precisely at 6 am. Sometime between 6 and 6:10, DH grinds a tiny amount of beans for his coffee. Sometime between 6:20 and 6:30, I make a smoothie. We leave no later than 7, but often earlier.

Yep, that’s annoying. You are waking him up twice every day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. It would be inconsiderate to play loud music at 4 a.m. on a Tuesday; that's an unreasonable time for something like that.

But 7 a.m. on a weekday is totally appropriate smoothie time, or food preparation of any sort. It is purposeful, time-appropriate behavior. Be glad it's not 6 a.m.

OP said it was 6am. She was making the noise for 3 minutes at 6am because she leaves at 7.

Not precisely at 6 am. Sometime between 6 and 6:10, DH grinds a tiny amount of beans for his coffee. Sometime between 6:20 and 6:30, I make a smoothie. We leave no later than 7, but often earlier.

Yep, that’s annoying. You are waking him up twice every day.

So sometimes your DH is grinding at 6 on the dot and you use the blender at 6.30. That's beyond annoying, it almost feels passive aggressive, like you're trying your hardest to be as annoying as you possibly can.

You shouldn't be forcing everyone in your building to wake up at the time that you're awake. Especially when it's 6am. Maybe he has chronic insomnia and really needs that extra hour or two of sleep every morning. Maybe he works shift work and so you're really waking him in the middle of the night. Maybe he's up late studying for something or caring for an elderly relative. Who knows.

I'd hope that you could at least make some effort to synchronize the timing of those extremely loud things and do whatever you can to dampen the noise - with towels, maybe doing that stuff in another room away from the shared wall if possible.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious OP, if you did things late the night before (like working late, studying, dealing with a sick kid, whatever), and didn't need to get up at 6am for work but were instead still sleeping until 8am, and the noise from DH grinding the coffee would wake you up due to the layout of your house/apartment, would he not care what you thought about it and continue to do it because it's officially his right? Or would he decide he doesn't need it that badly after all and/or find a way around it?

[Anonymous]

Ignore the note. You’re not doing anything wrong. Putting a mat under your appliances would be thoughtful though. It would be good to have a conversation with him in passing to see if it helped. If he writes to you again or escalates his complaint, it might be worth contacting your building manager.

[Anonymous]

can you move? are you a renter?

[Anonymous]

If I were your neighbor, I'd just play loud music at all hours to keep you up.

[Anonymous]

OP you and your spouse/whoever sound obnoxious.

Mr. I Only Drink Coffee From Freshly Ground Beans and
Ms. I Could Not Miss A Morning Without My Smoothie

6 am is waaaay to early for noise like that. Even my children understand to use a quiet voice while everyone is waking up.

But you have no intention of changing a thing. So why did you post?

[Anonymous]

Those are loud and obnoxious noises that early in the day. Your DH is perfectly capable of grinding the beans the night before, or --gasp-- buying beans already ground (or grinding them at the store.) He doesn't NEED to be a dick at 6 am. He's choosing to because it's his right...he's standing his ground...is he from Florida by chance? You don't NEED an offing smoothie every day. You can have smoothies on weekends and eggs and toast or fruit and yogurt (isn't that what a smoothie is) like a normal person. Or just do your precious smoothie 1 or 2 days a week (and let the man know which days) and STFU the rest of the week.

This guy might work swing shift or nights and have a legitimate reason to be sleeping at that time. Your'e purposely and selfishly waking him up twice every morning for nonessential reasons. He's asking you nicely to dial it down and you're getting defensive and indignant which is why so few people actually talk to the person who is causing the problem vs going nuclear and contacting management right off the bat.

Do the right thing and be a good neighbor...be the neighbor you would want. Come up with 2-3 solutions to the problem, let him know what they are and what his suggestion is, and then implement the change(s) and check in with him to see if they help. Just making an effort will go a long way toward good relations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were your neighbor, I'd just play loud music at all hours to keep you up.

It sounds from what she said like even if he did, it wouldn't affect her. She said her bedroom is at the other side of her place and that even noise from her own kitchen doesn't travel there. So her bedroom is quiet no matter what, and she couldn't care less about how things are for the neighbor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it inconsiderate to grind coffee or use a blender to make smoothies before 7 am on a weekday if you share a wall with another home.

Our neighbor sent us a note that we wake him up. He must be extremely noise sensitive as the walls are not exceptionally thin, his bedroom doesn’t abut our kitchen, and these small appliances run for maybe 3 min tops. I can’t hear them if I’m in my bathroom on the same floor! We are very quiet otherwise, minimal talking, no tv or radio, and we’re out the door by 7 typically. In my opinion, the loudest sound we make in the kitchen is opening and closing the patio door to water plants and that is only 1/3 of the year.

I’m unsure about a next step: respond verbally, ignore/don’t respond, explain the above in writing?

And do you seriously need to water plants at 6am?? If you know it's noisy to open and close the patio door, why can't you do it when you get home in the afternoon/evening rather than early enough in the morning to disturb people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can fix it, I would. Can you move the appliance to another place..or grind the night before? Otherwise 7 is not really that early for a workday.

EXACTLY, just take the grinder or mixer to the other side of the home while you turn it on, only takes a few extra seconds. Another reason not to live in an adjoining home.