I’m rich and hate rich people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No not really.

We still live in a middle class neighborhood and hang with middle class friends and neighbors. We have a net worth of over $5M in our late 30s (perhaps that is not considered rich though) but you wouldn't know it by our house, the way we dress, or the cars we drive, etc. We just don't feel a need to flaunt it.

We do take some nice vacations though.

This is us. Our circle of closest friends is the same from when we were in our 20s. We're now mid 40s and through work, we have a net worth of around $10M. It hasn't changed much about our life. We take awesome vacations. That's about it.

My thought is what made you get caught up in that lifestyle in the first place? That says something about you. I always knew I didn't want to be a big law partner or hang out at the golf course or belong to the fancy country club. But I suppose it's good you figured it out.

Point being, there are plenty of rich people not living the life you're trying to get away from and that you don't like.

We were like you. Until we were in our early 50's we lived comfortably but well below our incomes or net worth which was $15-20M at the time. When my DH's income was listed in his company's proxy it surprised a lot of people including our children! He retired two years ago with a much greater net worth and he decided it was time to "unlock the vault" so we joined a golf club and built a vacation home. But I drive a Subaru SUV and he buys used cars so we

haven't gone crazy!

How is this remotely wealthy? When I worked at Brown Brothers Harriman you needed 40 million minimum to open a checking account and we did have billion dollar accounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe other rich people seem boring because they don’t click with you because you rub them the wrong way because you come off... oh, well like you do on this whole thread.

Sometimes if you feel like everyone else is the problem you need to look in the mirror.

IP here. I don’t think everyone else is the problem. I think the rich people are. I have no problem with anyone now that that’s all behind me.

Oh, and a note to Derek Zoolander: I’m not lying about anything. I mean, if I was gonna lie I’d be a lot more creative than this.

You come across very juvenile. Yawn.

+1. I’m pretty sure OP is a 16 year old troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No not really.

We still live in a middle class neighborhood and hang with middle class friends and neighbors. We have a net worth of over $5M in our late 30s (perhaps that is not considered rich though) but you wouldn't know it by our house, the way we dress, or the cars we drive, etc. We just don't feel a need to flaunt it.

We do take some nice vacations though.

This is us. Our circle of closest friends is the same from when we were in our 20s. We're now mid 40s and through work, we have a net worth of around $10M. It hasn't changed much about our life. We take awesome vacations. That's about it.

My thought is what made you get caught up in that lifestyle in the first place? That says something about you. I always knew I didn't want to be a big law partner or hang out at the golf course or belong to the fancy country club. But I suppose it's good you figured it out.

Point being, there are plenty of rich people not living the life you're trying to get away from and that you don't like.

We were like you. Until we were in our early 50's we lived comfortably but well below our incomes or net worth which was $15-20M at the time. When my DH's income was listed in his company's proxy it surprised a lot of people including our children! He retired two years ago with a much greater net worth and he decided it was time to "unlock the vault" so we joined a golf club and built a vacation home. But I drive a Subaru SUV and he buys used cars so we

haven't gone crazy!

How is this remotely wealthy? When I worked at Brown Brothers Harriman you needed 40 million minimum to open a checking account and we did have billion dollar accounts.

Um, re-read it. The bold parts in particular.

[Anonymous]

I'm not rich yet, but I will be within 12 years unless things go absolutely haywire. I don't plan on changing much of anything, except perhaps scaling back at work if possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe other rich people seem boring because they don’t click with you because you rub them the wrong way because you come off... oh, well like you do on this whole thread.

Sometimes if you feel like everyone else is the problem you need to look in the mirror.

IP here. I don’t think everyone else is the problem. I think the rich people are. I have no problem with anyone now that that’s all behind me.

Oh, and a note to Derek Zoolander: I’m not lying about anything. I mean, if I was gonna lie I’d be a lot more creative than this.

You come across very juvenile. Yawn.

+1. I’m pretty sure OP is a 16 year old troll.

+2

Stop feeding the troll. "Law firm partner rich" lmao!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I don't know if we're rich but we have a mid 6 figure HHI, large college and retirement funds, paid off house etc. Wr have chosen never to trade up to wealthier neighborhoods because we feel the same way. I interact with many affluent people in my work and as a rule find them and their children less kind, more materialistic, more competitive, and more entitled.

This. I agree too and we also have chosen not to move to a wealthier neighborhood, even though we easily could. OP, I think the PPs are missing your point -- it is more subtle than they seem to understand.

+1 I want to move to a less wealthy neighborhood just two miles down the road. The kids my kids seem to get along most with are those who live in that area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe other rich people seem boring because they don’t click with you because you rub them the wrong way because you come off... oh, well like you do on this whole thread.

Sometimes if you feel like everyone else is the problem you need to look in the mirror.

IP here. I don’t think everyone else is the problem. I think the rich people are. I have no problem with anyone now that that’s all behind me.

Oh, and a note to Derek Zoolander: I’m not lying about anything. I mean, if I was gonna lie I’d be a lot more creative than this.

You come across very juvenile. Yawn.

+1. I’m pretty sure OP is a 16 year old troll.

+2

Stop feeding the troll. "Law firm partner rich" lmao![/quote]

I'll bet the troll has more $ than you, Derek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No not really.

We still live in a middle class neighborhood and hang with middle class friends and neighbors. We have a net worth of over $5M in our late 30s (perhaps that is not considered rich though) but you wouldn't know it by our house, the way we dress, or the cars we drive, etc. We just don't feel a need to flaunt it.

We do take some nice vacations though.

This is us. Our circle of closest friends is the same from when we were in our 20s. We're now mid 40s and through work, we have a net worth of around $10M. It hasn't changed much about our life. We take awesome vacations. That's about it.

My thought is what made you get caught up in that lifestyle in the first place? That says something about you. I always knew I didn't want to be a big law partner or hang out at the golf course or belong to the fancy country club. But I suppose it's good you figured it out.

Point being, there are plenty of rich people not living the life you're trying to get away from and that you don't like.

You are wrong in assuming that I got caught up in that lifestyle. I never did. I just observed. I’ve always lived a different life than the rich, but I had a family to support. So I sucked it up for as long as I could stand, then walked away from all of it.

Okay. But I guess my point is you chose to make your money being a big law lawyer and you must have been in the scene a while and played the game well to make partner. First, there are other ways to make money. Second, no one needs big law money. You might want it. But if the whole thing is so gross to you and you can't stand the people, live by who you are and your principles and go a different path. Plenty of people do just fine and support their families without having big law money in life, to say the least.

It just seems awfully convenient that you bought into the whole system to get rich but you're holding your nose the whole time. Get over yourself. Obviously you're driven my money and you're not all that different than the people you're judging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No not really.

We still live in a middle class neighborhood and hang with middle class friends and neighbors. We have a net worth of over $5M in our late 30s (perhaps that is not considered rich though) but you wouldn't know it by our house, the way we dress, or the cars we drive, etc. We just don't feel a need to flaunt it.

We do take some nice vacations though.

This is us. Our circle of closest friends is the same from when we were in our 20s. We're now mid 40s and through work, we have a net worth of around $10M. It hasn't changed much about our life. We take awesome vacations. That's about it.

My thought is what made you get caught up in that lifestyle in the first place? That says something about you. I always knew I didn't want to be a big law partner or hang out at the golf course or belong to the fancy country club. But I suppose it's good you figured it out.

Point being, there are plenty of rich people not living the life you're trying to get away from and that you don't like.

You are wrong in assuming that I got caught up in that lifestyle. I never did. I just observed. I’ve always lived a different life than the rich, but I had a family to support. So I sucked it up for as long as I could stand, then walked away from all of it.

Okay. But I guess my point is you chose to make your money being a big law lawyer and you must have been in the scene a while and played the game well to make partner. First, there are other ways to make money. Second, no one needs big law money. You might want it. But if the whole thing is so gross to you and you can't stand the people, live by who you are and your principles and go a different path. Plenty of people do just fine and support their families without having big law money in life, to say the least.

It just seems awfully convenient that you bought into the whole system to get rich but you're holding your nose the whole time. Get over yourself. Obviously you're driven my money and you're not all that different than the people you're judging.

OP here. You make some good points, I will give you that. Suffice it to say that I was very young, already had a family, and thought going to law school would be a good way to support them. And once I got into the game, it was hard to get out, because it’s very hard to walk away from that kind of money when you have a family. But, in the end, I did walk away. Had I stayed I would’ve made millions more, even if I just phoned it in. I’m clearly driven by more than money - my decision proves that.

[Anonymous]

Only on DCUM are people with a $5M net worth in their thirties told they are not rich.

[Anonymous]

Right. And only on DCUM can someone say that “ biglaw firm partner rich” isn’t rich. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No not really.

We still live in a middle class neighborhood and hang with middle class friends and neighbors. We have a net worth of over $5M in our late 30s (perhaps that is not considered rich though) but you wouldn't know it by our house, the way we dress, or the cars we drive, etc. We just don't feel a need to flaunt it.

We do take some nice vacations though.

This is us. Our circle of closest friends is the same from when we were in our 20s. We're now mid 40s and through work, we have a net worth of around $10M. It hasn't changed much about our life. We take awesome vacations. That's about it.

My thought is what made you get caught up in that lifestyle in the first place? That says something about you. I always knew I didn't want to be a big law partner or hang out at the golf course or belong to the fancy country club. But I suppose it's good you figured it out.

Point being, there are plenty of rich people not living the life you're trying to get away from and that you don't like.

You are wrong in assuming that I got caught up in that lifestyle. I never did. I just observed. I’ve always lived a different life than the rich, but I had a family to support. So I sucked it up for as long as I could stand, then walked away from all of it.

Okay. But I guess my point is you chose to make your money being a big law lawyer and you must have been in the scene a while and played the game well to make partner. First, there are other ways to make money. Second, no one needs big law money. You might want it. But if the whole thing is so gross to you and you can't stand the people, live by who you are and your principles and go a different path. Plenty of people do just fine and support their families without having big law money in life, to say the least.

It just seems awfully convenient that you bought into the whole system to get rich but you're holding your nose the whole time. Get over yourself. Obviously you're driven my money and you're not all that different than the people you're judging.

OP here. You make some good points, I will give you that. Suffice it to say that I was very young, already had a family, and thought going to law school would be a good way to support them. And once I got into the game, it was hard to get out, because it’s very hard to walk away from that kind of money when you have a family. But, in the end, I did walk away. Had I stayed I would’ve made millions more, even if I just phoned it in. I’m clearly driven by more than money - my decision proves that.

Yes, you are a legend in your own mind. It could well be that your law partners got tired of you and wanted you to go "of counsel" and that led you to walk away and you created a new story to rise about the heathen rich people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe other rich people seem boring because they don’t click with you because you rub them the wrong way because you come off... oh, well like you do on this whole thread.

Sometimes if you feel like everyone else is the problem you need to look in the mirror.

IP here. I don’t think everyone else is the problem. I think the rich people are. I have no problem with anyone now that that’s all behind me.

Oh, and a note to Derek Zoolander: I’m not lying about anything. I mean, if I was gonna lie I’d be a lot more creative than this.

You come across very juvenile. Yawn.

+1. I’m pretty sure OP is a 16 year old troll.

+2

Stop feeding the troll. "Law firm partner rich" lmao!

I'll bet the troll has more $ than you, Derek.

Sure, troll. Sock puppeting now too. I bet that "law partner" position comes with a lot of free time to DCUM, amirite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right. And only on DCUM can someone say that “ biglaw firm partner rich” isn’t rich. LOL

Chip on your shoulder, jackass? Were all the wealthier people not as nice to you as you'd like?

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of rich people who are d-bags but painting rich people with the same d-bag brush is ridiculous. I know plenty of rich people who are d-bags and once I figure out their MO I simply avoid them. To be rich and say you hate rich people and completely change your lifestyle is a unique way to deal with a problem. If big law partners are all d-bags and you are forced to spend all of your working hours with them I can see why you'd want to jump ship. I'm wealthy, but I never worked in a place where I was surrounded day to day by rich people but the few I did work with were good people. I'm a member of a club and there are a few rich jerks but I rarely come in contact with them. What is interesting is how quickly the club employees can sniff out a d-bag and quietly spread the word.