I’m rich and hate rich people

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’ve probably traveled to more places on earth than anyone you know. It only reinforces my view. I’m not religious, but the “harder to fit a camel through the eye of a needle than get a rich man into heaven” saying rings true to me.

You may have traveled but you sound provincial to me -- sorry. Rich is not a personality; it's a financial condition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New money people can be insufferable, but there are aholes in every income level. Worst neighbors were in a lower class neighborhood.

+1

Also grew up lower/lower middle. Poor people can be great people. Some of them were truly terrible, awful idiots. I'll take the passive aggression of the WASPS, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Good for you but there are assholes at every income level as well as good people at every income level. The key is being friends with the good ones and avoiding the assholes. My sense is that you had disdain for the ones whose wealth was handed to them versus people like you who had to work hard to earn it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a lower and middle-class household and eventually became relatively wealthy (think big law firm partner wealthy). The longer I was around other wealthy people, the more I disliked them. Everything they stood for rubbed me the wrong way. They bored me.

A few years ago I walked away from rich people completely and now live a very different life. I have zero to do with old colleagues and friends and am much happier.

Anybody else feel the same way about the rich?

You sound insufferable, just like the people who rubbed you the wrong way and bored you. My bet is that your old friends and colleagues don't miss you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I don't know if we're rich but we have a mid 6 figure HHI, large college and retirement funds, paid off house etc. Wr have chosen never to trade up to wealthier neighborhoods because we feel the same way. I interact with many affluent people in my work and as a rule find them and their children less kind, more materialistic, more competitive, and more entitled.

This. I agree too and we also have chosen not to move to a wealthier neighborhood, even though we easily could. OP, I think the PPs are missing your point -- it is more subtle than they seem to understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for you but there are assholes at every income level as well as good people at every income level. The key is being friends with the good ones and avoiding the assholes. My sense is that you had disdain for the ones whose wealth was handed to them versus people like you who had to work hard to earn it.

I agree with this! There is something often insufferable about people who simply were handed wealth versus those who earned it. When you earn it you appreciate the hard work that others do even if it doesn't make them wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a lower and middle-class household and eventually became relatively wealthy (think big law firm partner wealthy). The longer I was around other wealthy people, the more I disliked them. Everything they stood for rubbed me the wrong way. They bored me.

A few years ago I walked away from rich people completely and now live a very different life. I have zero to do with old colleagues and friends and am much happier.

Anybody else feel the same way about the rich?

You sound insufferable, just like the people who rubbed you the wrong way and bored you. My bet is that your old friends and colleagues don't miss you.

OP here. I agree that my former colleagues and friends probably don't miss me anymore. It's been a few years. That's life. But I'll tell you what -- I'm certain they missed me for a while at least, while I didn't miss them at all from the minute I left.

I'm not insufferable at all. I just prefer being around real people. Rich people are clueless, self-centered, and think they're better than everyone else. They're also really boring, as I said before.

[Anonymous]

I don't consider law firm partner money wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for you but there are assholes at every income level as well as good people at every income level. The key is being friends with the good ones and avoiding the assholes. My sense is that you had disdain for the ones whose wealth was handed to them versus people like you who had to work hard to earn it.

I agree with this! There is something often insufferable about people who simply were handed wealth versus those who earned it. When you earn it you appreciate the hard work that others do even if it doesn't make them wealthy.

OP again. There's some truth to this, although becoming rich still changes a lot of people too. In the end, I wanted nothing to do with any of them -- born rich or earned rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider law firm partner money wealthy.

I expected someone might say that, just to provoke a rise. Of course they're rich. If you're making over $1 million a year, sometimes much more, and your net worth is ten times that and you can quit anytime you want, then you're rich by almost any definition except an unreasonable one.

Many, many rich people work even though they don't have to. Doesn't mean they're not rich.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on where they got their moeny. I'm in my 40s with $1m HHI and have a few friends in similar situations. All of us are entrepreneurs, and we all grew up middle class at best. At least from waht i"ve noticed, no one is snobby and we treat waitstaff very politely,etc. Maybe it's the mindset that comes when you start your own company and the fight to build it up etc.

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I mostly feel that wealth hasn't made you in any way discerning, which is sad.

There are just as many personalities at the wealth end of the spectrum as there are at the poor end. Your circle didn't have the same priorities as you? It doesn't mean all rich people should be tarred with the same brush, now, does it?

I recommend extensive reading, international travel and going to classical music concerts.

The suggestions are so vanilla, the equivalent of eat your vegetables. Totally useless and condescending.

[Anonymous]

OP: do what you want. If you are not stuck with them, why the hate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on where they got their moeny. I'm in my 40s with $1m HHI and have a few friends in similar situations. All of us are entrepreneurs, and we all grew up middle class at best. At least from waht i"ve noticed, no one is snobby and we treat waitstaff very politely,etc. Maybe it's the mindset that comes when you start your own company and the fight to build it up etc.

See, I hear you, but why the need to mention that you're nice to servers? Many rich a$$holes are. It doesn't mean they're not snobby -- it just means they're polite. The real question is would they ever become friends with a server?

[Anonymous]

I agree, OP.

Teacher here. I spent 2 years at an elementary school in an extremely wealthy zip code (not in this area but think Scarsdale, Greenwich, etc.) and hated it. I am much happier at my current school (Silver Spring). Kids are soooo much nicer.