Peanut Butter Rules

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some kids have allergies. My friend's kids are severely allergic to shell fish and gluten. She does not expect anyone to stop consuming those allergens in public. Instead, she educates her children about what they can and cannot eat.

Not quite the same as a nut allergy.

We are very nut aware, having been in classes with severely allergic kids. PB at the park? Yes. Sit and eat, wipe hands and face with a wet wipe, and go play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some kids have allergies. My friend's kids are severely allergic to shell fish and gluten. She does not expect anyone to stop consuming those allergens in public. Instead, she educates her children about what they can and cannot eat.

Not quite the same as a nut allergy.

We are very nut aware, having been in classes with severely allergic kids. PB at the park? Yes. Sit and eat, wipe hands and face with a wet wipe, and go play.

It is the same - someone can have an anaphylactic reaction to shellfish, etc. just the same as peanuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was inspired by the other thread asking about peanut butter before daycare.

I recently met two friends and their children at the park for a picnic. We are decently close and have spent many playground play dates together. One mom brought PB&J sandwiches for her two preschoolers. Honestly, I was somewhat shocked since I thought it was a universal ‘no-no’ to consume peanuts in public. It was a pretty day so there were lots of people there and like most kids, our kids would go from eating to the playground and back throughout the course of the lunch. I am beginning to think this friendship should fade since she is so blasé about such a dangerous food. Would you have asked her to put away the sandwich? We had extra cheese and crackers and veggies that her kids could have had (and we offered), but she said they love their PB&Js. Would you take peanut butter to a park?

Yes. Get over it. What on Earth made you think there was some "universal no-no to consumer peanuts in public?" That's beyond ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Almost every time I'm at a park, I see kids snacking on Bamba. No biggie at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, it must be scary to have a child with severe allergies. I am not going to deny how frightening that can be for the child and parents. Unfortunately, it would be irrational to expect the public to accommodate that. Daycares, schools and other institutions where there is a known person (employee, student etc) with an allergy is a different story. A public park can not have those type of limitations.

This. My son has treenut and peanut allergies, and yes, it is scary. I do think that he has to learn to manage his allergies in an unsafe world, and that he has to learn to be thick-skinned about it. If you're shelling peanuts next to him and he gets up and moves away, don't make a snide comment. He's not asking you to stop, but is removing himself from a situation that's potentially dangerous.

I do think, however, that eating in all sorts of public places has gotten out of control. Allergies aside, crumbs, stickiness, and garbage are just gross.

You think it's gross to have a picnic in a park? WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, it must be scary to have a child with severe allergies. I am not going to deny how frightening that can be for the child and parents. Unfortunately, it would be irrational to expect the public to accommodate that. Daycares, schools and other institutions where there is a known person (employee, student etc) with an allergy is a different story. A public park can not have those type of limitations.

This. My son has treenut and peanut allergies, and yes, it is scary. I do think that he has to learn to manage his allergies in an unsafe world, and that he has to learn to be thick-skinned about it. If you're shelling peanuts next to him and he gets up and moves away, don't make a snide comment. He's not asking you to stop, but is removing himself from a situation that's potentially dangerous.

I do think, however, that eating in all sorts of public places has gotten out of control. Allergies aside, crumbs, stickiness, and garbage are just gross.

You think it's gross to have a picnic in a park? WTF.

No. I said in all sorts of public places. Not a park.

[Anonymous]

My DC is allergic to PN/TN/eggs. The peanut and other nut butters worry me because they are so sticky and even if wiped up can leave an oily residue. They're not like nut crumbs that would be likely to blow away or could be brushed off. Eggs are not so much a concern because it's not common to see leftover egg crumbles lying around and little crumbs of baked items containing a small amount of egg haven't been a problem, although I'm careful to make sure DC always washes hands before eating. I met a mom once at a park so our kids could play and I noticed her toddler had something smeared all over her pants. I didn't say anything, but the mom told me she had eaten Nutella for lunch. My DC's blood work and skin tests always spike on hazelnuts. I watched the kids carefully, but it worried me and I wouldn't be comfortable sending DC to their house. DC is not allowed to go anywhere w/out epipens.

[Anonymous]

I have a nut allergic kid, but realize other people don't and might bring PB to a public place. It's my job to watch my kid until she's old enough to look put for herself (she's only 1.5). I do appreciate those parents who are conscientious enough to wipe their kid down after eating PB ?

That said, I once saw a 3 year old go into anaphalactic shock from nuts. It was horrifying, and I would never forgive myself if I was even indirectly a contributing factor to that. It scared me off ever bringing PB into public (this was before my nut allergic kid. My older kids have no allergies, but I wouldn't let them take a PB sandwich or snack to the park. My kids eating PB out of the house was not worth another kid's life.)

[Anonymous]

A park is a public place. There are no laws, rules, or policies associated with bringing PB&J to a park. The responsibility for dealing with a peanut allergy in public lies with the person that is allergic, or their caregiver. Op, suggesting that you end your friendship over this is going overboard.

Also, I see no reason to change mine or my child's diet or clothes because we may potentially run into someone in a public place, or even school that's allergic to something that we ate for breakfast.

[Anonymous]

OP would you also end the friendship over other nut butters like almond butter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was inspired by the other thread asking about peanut butter before daycare.

I recently met two friends and their children at the park for a picnic. We are decently close and have spent many playground play dates together. One mom brought PB&J sandwiches for her two preschoolers. Honestly, I was somewhat shocked since I thought it was a universal ‘no-no’ to consume peanuts in public. It was a pretty day so there were lots of people there and like most kids, our kids would go from eating to the playground and back throughout the course of the lunch. I am beginning to think this friendship should fade since she is so blasé about such a dangerous food. Would you have asked her to put away the sandwich? We had extra cheese and crackers and veggies that her kids could have had (and we offered), but she said they love their PB&Js. Would you take peanut butter to a park?

Yes. Get over it. What on Earth made you think there was some "universal no-no to consumer peanuts in public?" That's beyond ridiculous.

I would end a friendship with someone as high strung snd judgemental as PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a nut allergic kid, but realize other people don't and might bring PB to a public place. It's my job to watch my kid until she's old enough to look put for herself (she's only 1.5). I do appreciate those parents who are conscientious enough to wipe their kid down after eating PB ?

That said, I once saw a 3 year old go into anaphalactic shock from nuts. It was horrifying, and I would never forgive myself if I was even indirectly a contributing factor to that. It scared me off ever bringing PB into public (this was before my nut allergic kid. My older kids have no allergies, but I wouldn't let them take a PB sandwich or snack to the park. My kids eating PB out of the house was not worth another kid's life.)

I guarantee all these parents ranting about how they have to bring their peanut butter to playgrounds would be the first to go ballistic if it was their child whose life was in danger. They really don't get it.

Look, bring your PB&J but make sure your kid isn't sharing it with anyone or spreading it around to playground equipment or anywhere else. That is the problem. For that matter, keep your kids' food of any kind off the playground equipment and everywhere else. It's called basic hygiene and common sense. If you can't manage that, then eat at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A park is a public place. There are no laws, rules, or policies associated with bringing PB&J to a park. The responsibility for dealing with a peanut allergy in public lies with the person that is allergic, or their caregiver. Op, suggesting that you end your friendship over this is going overboard.

Also, I see no reason to change mine or my child's diet or clothes because we may potentially run into someone in a public place, or even school that's allergic to something that we ate for breakfast.

Karma is a bitch lady. Better keep an eye out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was inspired by the other thread asking about peanut butter before daycare.

I recently met two friends and their children at the park for a picnic. We are decently close and have spent many playground play dates together. One mom brought PB&J sandwiches for her two preschoolers. Honestly, I was somewhat shocked since I thought it was a universal ‘no-no’ to consume peanuts in public. It was a pretty day so there were lots of people there and like most kids, our kids would go from eating to the playground and back throughout the course of the lunch. I am beginning to think this friendship should fade since she is so blasé about such a dangerous food. Would you have asked her to put away the sandwich? We had extra cheese and crackers and veggies that her kids could have had (and we offered), but she said they love their PB&Js. Would you take peanut butter to a park?

Yes. Get over it. What on Earth made you think there was some "universal no-no to consumer peanuts in public?" That's beyond ridiculous.

I would end a friendship with someone as high strung snd judgemental as PP.

Look in the mirror to find judgmental, cupcake.

Insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A park is a public place. There are no laws, rules, or policies associated with bringing PB&J to a park. The responsibility for dealing with a peanut allergy in public lies with the person that is allergic, or their caregiver. Op, suggesting that you end your friendship over this is going overboard.

Also, I see no reason to change mine or my child's diet or clothes because we may potentially run into someone in a public place, or even school that's allergic to something that we ate for breakfast.

Karma is a bitch lady. Better keep an eye out.

LOOK OUT!!! GLUTEN'S GOT A KNIFE!!!