Peanut Butter Rules

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This was inspired by the other thread asking about peanut butter before daycare.

I recently met two friends and their children at the park for a picnic. We are decently close and have spent many playground play dates together. One mom brought PB&J sandwiches for her two preschoolers. Honestly, I was somewhat shocked since I thought it was a universal ‘no-no’ to consume peanuts in public. It was a pretty day so there were lots of people there and like most kids, our kids would go from eating to the playground and back throughout the course of the lunch. I am beginning to think this friendship should fade since she is so blasé about such a dangerous food. Would you have asked her to put away the sandwich? We had extra cheese and crackers and veggies that her kids could have had (and we offered), but she said they love their PB&Js. Would you take peanut butter to a park?

Yes. Get over it. What on Earth made you think there was some "universal no-no to consumer peanuts in public?" That's beyond ridiculous.

I would end a friendship with someone as high strung snd judgemental as PP.

Look in the mirror to find judgmental, cupcake.

Insufferable.

CUPCAKES HAVE GLUTEN AND DAIRY!! HOW ABOUT A TRIGGER WARNING?!?!

[Anonymous]

I'm an old mom-kids are 25yrs through 3- and I didn't even try to get through all seven pages.

Yes I will bring pb sandwiches to a park! Goodness sake. It's not a nuclear bomb or anthrax. There are also tons of other allergens floating around at a park, or anywhere in the world for that matter.

I have a friend with a dd with nut allergy and she has played at playgrounds throughout her childhood-never had an issue.

[Anonymous]

Peanut allergy is made worse by people avoiding it when their kids are young. Exposure from early on minimizes the possibility of it and very few people have actual peanut allergy. Plus, you don't own the park, you insane lunatic, and you don't even say that your kid has an allergy. Are you now a peanut park ranger?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First, it must be scary to have a child with severe allergies. I am not going to deny how frightening that can be for the child and parents. Unfortunately, it would be irrational to expect the public to accommodate that. Daycares, schools and other institutions where there is a known person (employee, student etc) with an allergy is a different story. A public park can not have those type of limitations.

This. My son has treenut and peanut allergies, and yes, it is scary. I do think that he has to learn to manage his allergies in an unsafe world, and that he has to learn to be thick-skinned about it. If you're shelling peanuts next to him and he gets up and moves away, don't make a snide comment. He's not asking you to stop, but is removing himself from a situation that's potentially dangerous.

I do think, however, that eating in all sorts of public places has gotten out of control. Allergies aside, crumbs, stickiness, and garbage are just gross.

You think it's gross to have a picnic in a park? WTF.

No. I said in all sorts of public places. Not a park.

This thread is about eating in a park.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a nut allergic kid, but realize other people don't and might bring PB to a public place. It's my job to watch my kid until she's old enough to look put for herself (she's only 1.5). I do appreciate those parents who are conscientious enough to wipe their kid down after eating PB ?

That said, I once saw a 3 year old go into anaphalactic shock from nuts. It was horrifying, and I would never forgive myself if I was even indirectly a contributing factor to that. It scared me off ever bringing PB into public (this was before my nut allergic kid. My older kids have no allergies, but I wouldn't let them take a PB sandwich or snack to the park. My kids eating PB out of the house was not worth another kid's life.)

I guarantee all these parents ranting about how they have to bring their peanut butter to playgrounds would be the first to go ballistic if it was their child whose life was in danger. They really don't get it.

Look, bring your PB&J but make sure your kid isn't sharing it with anyone or spreading it around to playground equipment or anywhere else. That is the problem. For that matter, keep your kids' food of any kind off the playground equipment and everywhere else. It's called basic hygiene and common sense. If you can't manage that, then eat at home.

Well, the OP was complaining that someone brought peanut butter to the park. If she had complained that someone's kid was smearing peanut butter on the slide and suggesting that people not let their kids bring food onto the equipment, she'd have gotten a different reaction. I posted earlier that it's reasonable to expect people to wipe their kids' hands and face, and not let them bring food onto the equipment, but that's not the same as saying that no one should ever eat peanut butter in public, ever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like not eating peanut butter in public should become thought of as a social norm instead of an accommodation. If this is lethal why take the risk. That’s insane. I feel like it should come with an FDA warning label.

+100000

One, how does one police this? Should their be a "nut" cop at every playground, asking to inspect your food? Two, there are a lot of kids that love nut butters. A lot more than there are that are allergic. Should they stop eating it at home because your kid is allergic and may run into them at a playground/school? My family loves nuts. We have 5 different kinds in our house right now, so I would be pressed to change our eating habits to accommodate someone we might run into. Now, if you come to our house, that would be a different story. I would do my best to accommodate you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I'm an old mom-kids are 25yrs through 3- and I didn't even try to get through all seven pages.

Yes I will bring pb sandwiches to a park! Goodness sake. It's not a nuclear bomb or anthrax. There are also tons of other allergens floating around at a park, or anywhere in the world for that matter.

I have a friend with a dd with nut allergy and she has played at playgrounds throughout her childhood-never had an issue.

Hi - not all kids have contact allergies. I wouldn't have believed the severity of contact allergies until witnessing it myself!

My son also plays at playgrounds despite the contact allergies. I know there's a risk but I hope that people generally will be thoughtful and wipe their hands rather than smearing their food onto the playground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a nut allergic kid, but realize other people don't and might bring PB to a public place. It's my job to watch my kid until she's old enough to look put for herself (she's only 1.5). I do appreciate those parents who are conscientious enough to wipe their kid down after eating PB ?

That said, I once saw a 3 year old go into anaphalactic shock from nuts. It was horrifying, and I would never forgive myself if I was even indirectly a contributing factor to that. It scared me off ever bringing PB into public (this was before my nut allergic kid. My older kids have no allergies, but I wouldn't let them take a PB sandwich or snack to the park. My kids eating PB out of the house was not worth another kid's life.)

I have watched my son have an anaphylactic reaction to milk. It is extremely scary, but again it is unreasonable to expect that every person should not have milk or milk products in public because he could die from it. I do think, though, that it is reasonable for parents/caregivers not to offer snacks to other kids who they do not know without checking with the parents first. I had to watch my son like a hawk to ensure that he never got goldfish at the park.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a nut allergic kid, but realize other people don't and might bring PB to a public place. It's my job to watch my kid until she's old enough to look put for herself (she's only 1.5). I do appreciate those parents who are conscientious enough to wipe their kid down after eating PB ?

That said, I once saw a 3 year old go into anaphalactic shock from nuts. It was horrifying, and I would never forgive myself if I was even indirectly a contributing factor to that. It scared me off ever bringing PB into public (this was before my nut allergic kid. My older kids have no allergies, but I wouldn't let them take a PB sandwich or snack to the park. My kids eating PB out of the house was not worth another kid's life.)

I have watched my son have an anaphylactic reaction to milk. It is extremely scary, but again it is unreasonable to expect that every person should not have milk or milk products in public because he could die from it. I do think, though, that it is reasonable for parents/caregivers not to offer snacks to other kids who they do not know without checking with the parents first. I had to watch my son like a hawk to ensure that he never got goldfish at the park.

As you should be doing.