32 and Still Single

[Anonymous]

Just go online. But don't say you have a "medical degree" because people think that is a doctor. If you are a nurse practitioner, say that. Or pharmacist, say that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 32 year old woman and still single. I know it’s my fault - I chose to focus on my medical degree. Now I feel hopeless. I have had a fwb for the past 6 months while I was in school. I have dated here and there but nothing serious for a year now. Do I rightfully have a sense of urgency to find someone? I want kids, hopefully 2 by the time I’m 40. I feel really rushed and hopeless to find someone.

Man here. My advice is to keep dating and focus on finding someone to share your life and have fun with. Your OP comes off as desperate and if that is your attitude, every man will see right through it. No man wants to be a "check the box" item.

You've spend a lot of time in intense schooling. Real life is different and you need to take time to explore and really understand who you are and what you want. You've been so hyper focused on your medical degree and you need some time to explore real life...real life isn't going from point a to point z like getting a degree.

[Anonymous]

BS. There's a reason OP is single and it's not because she's busy. Most likely she has a mental illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am also 32, and a divorcing mother of two. And no medical degree! And yet I am confident I will find an appropriate partner in time. You have plenty of time - and no baggage! Go girl!

This is me too but I'm 34. Tween and almost tween kids, going back to school and about to start year three of separation. Sometimes things are ridiculously stressful and exhausting.

I'm confident I will attract the right person when the time is right. It took awhile but I appreciate the time I have now to better myself and enjoy just being me. Fast tracking set me ahead financially, but I wish at 20 I could have known a fraction of what I know now.

Try to create as many ways as possible to enjoy your present life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BS. There's a reason OP is single and it's not because she's busy. Most likely she has a mental illness.

Agree!

First, she says she has a medical degree....which we all know implies an MD, but then waits a bit and admits she's not an MD just certified (or licensed?)...Um ok.
Just say that..."I just spent the last 2 years getting my physican assistent, lab technician, massage therapist, (XYZ) degree".

Second, op laments about the possibility of not having kids bc of infertility and pcos, but then she back pedals and writes her RE says she does have a good chance of having kids.

If op can't even come clean, honest, and transparent on dcum, I can see how IRL her relationships don't last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my long-term, long-distance boyfriend at 32 b/c I decided I was ready to settle down.

I went on Match. Two weeks later I met the man I married two years to the day after our first date (I was 34).

Been married 12 years and we have four children (no multiples).

Sounds like you were desperate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my long-term, long-distance boyfriend at 32 b/c I decided I was ready to settle down.

I went on Match. Two weeks later I met the man I married two years to the day after our first date (I was 34).

Been married 12 years and we have four children (no multiples).

Sounds like you were desperate.

Sounds like you have comprehension problems.

[Anonymous]

Who is SMJ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BS. There's a reason OP is single and it's not because she's busy. Most likely she has a mental illness.

Agree!

First, she says she has a medical degree....which we all know implies an MD, but then waits a bit and admits she's not an MD just certified (or licensed?)...Um ok.
Just say that..."I just spent the last 2 years getting my physican assistent, lab technician, massage therapist, (XYZ) degree".

Second, op laments about the possibility of not having kids bc of infertility and pcos, but then she back pedals and writes her RE says she does have a good chance of having kids.

If op can't even come clean, honest, and transparent on dcum, I can see how IRL her relationships don't last.

+100
Something is definitely not right with OP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I want to throw out there that I am in no way saying I am more dateable or better because I have a degree in your medical field. I know that my career will be brought up at some point, and that is why I offered up the information. My biggest issue is I am very picky and want to marry a certain type of man. Preferably 30’s, white ( my preference), never married, no kids, educated, makes 80k+ a year, conservative, non religious, wants kids, etc.

Are you white also OP? No offense, but why are you so picky? You have pcos and fertility issues in the family, so that makes you non-ideal for mid 30’s guys who want kids. Maybe you should broaden your expectations a bit.

Op here. I am white. I do have my pcos under control. My endocrinologist thinks my chances for having kids are very good.

The why did you say you'd be unlikely to have children of your own earlier in the thread? Are you just looking for things to whine about? Your attitude is annoying and offputting, that likely had way more to do with your inability to find and keep the sort of man you want than your looks.

The story is carried out rather unevenly. Dubious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It you are indeed white, it's strange to caveat your desire for a white partner as your preference. I mean, duh, most people have a preference to date within their race. Of course interracial couples happily exist, but intraracial dating is pretty much the default and doesn't need a callout.
You talk about obtaining a medical degree, knowing that most will assume that means you are a physician when you are not. Strangely misleading.

Do you have issues with being socially awkward?

This OP is trolling, hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BS. There's a reason OP is single and it's not because she's busy. Most likely she has a mental illness.

Agree!

First, she says she has a medical degree....which we all know implies an MD, but then waits a bit and admits she's not an MD just certified (or licensed?)...Um ok.
Just say that..."I just spent the last 2 years getting my physican assistent, lab technician, massage therapist, (XYZ) degree".

Second, op laments about the possibility of not having kids bc of infertility and pcos, but then she back pedals and writes her RE says she does have a good chance of having kids.

If op can't even come clean, honest, and transparent on dcum, I can see how IRL her relationships don't last.

OP also says she’s 32 in her initial post, then says she’s 31 until May in a later post.

[Anonymous]

OP could say that she has a degree in a medical field (not a medical degree).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is SMJ?

I think (because of the Buffy reference) that it’s Sarah Michelle Gellar. But that would be SMG.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you also the author of this thread:

Settling at 32- http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/673464.page

The other OP had a similar salary and was looking for a guy with the same set of criteria.

She posts the same thing every few months. There's no way she's a 7. She's probably a 4 or something.

I don’t see what’s so hard to believe. My 39 year old single sister is around a 7/7.5. It’s not always all about looks.