Settling at 32.

[Anonymous]

The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

[Anonymous]

Don't settle, read this: http://bookoutlines.pbworks.com/w/page/14422733/Why%20Men%20Marry%20Some%20Women%20And%20Not%20Others

[Anonymous]

I can't tell you how many of my friends in early 30s are shacked up with recently divorced men. Trust its not a problem.

[Anonymous]

I would rather be single then with someone I didn't want to be with at any age.

[Anonymous]

Life is long to be spending it with someone you are not crazy about. Everyone who marries has to compromise to some extent, but if you feel indifferent about your spouse in the beginning, that does not bode well for your long term happiness. For me personally, I would rather be single than be in an unhappy marriage, and that is what you are heading towards.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for you if you would make such a bad decision because you can’t be alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you if you would make such a bad decision because you can’t be alone.

Op here. You don't know me to be making that assumption. I spent a good 5 years being single in my 20's. I dated around but didn't date anyone for more than a couple of months. I am more than fine being alone, but the reality is my time for children is decreasing, and I definitely want a family. I don't want to be 40 and never have a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you if you would make such a bad decision because you can’t be alone.

Op here. You don't know me to be making that assumption. I spent a good 5 years being single in my 20's. I dated around but didn't date anyone for more than a couple of months. I am more than fine being alone, but the reality is my time for children is decreasing, and I definitely want a family. I don't want to be 40 and never have a child.

But...that's not being single? That's dating and being in relationship after relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you if you would make such a bad decision because you can’t be alone.

Op here. You don't know me to be making that assumption. I spent a good 5 years being single in my 20's. I dated around but didn't date anyone for more than a couple of months. I am more than fine being alone, but the reality is my time for children is decreasing, and I definitely want a family. I don't want to be 40 and never have a child.

A couple of options:
1. Marry the guy and have a baby but have a marriage that's meh.
2. Wait a few more years and hope to meet the right guy.
3. If you don't meet the right guy, have a baby and be a single mom. That's probably better than marrying a guy you're not really in love with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you if you would make such a bad decision because you can’t be alone.

Op here. You don't know me to be making that assumption. I spent a good 5 years being single in my 20's. I dated around but didn't date anyone for more than a couple of months. I am more than fine being alone, but the reality is my time for children is decreasing, and I definitely want a family. I don't want to be 40 and never have a child.

But...that's not being single? That's dating and being in relationship after relationship.

Op here. I dated 4 guys totaling about 6 months in 5 years.

[Anonymous]

What makes you a catch?

[Anonymous]

You broke up with this guy because you didn't see a future with him and now you want to have a child with him?

Forgive my harshness Op, but that is just plain stupid!

A child is forever as is your connection to the other parent. That means once you get over your baby panic and have a baby you will remember all the reasons you didn't want to be with this guy long-term only then you'll have a child with him and you can't make in clean break. You'll either have to go through a divorce and put your kid through a divorce or stay stuck in a miserable marriage.

You're 32 not old at all. Stop reading redpill sites and panic button women's magazines. They re not benefiting you in any way.

Go to a therapist. Yes you need one. Commit to going at least 6 months.
Then looking into dating but change the way you date after 6 months of therapy you shoulf have some insight into why you choose dead in relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

What kind of guy do you want to marry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

Not enough information. We don't know you to make a determination of whether you have unrealistic expectations or bad luck or a personality flaw that attracts the wrong match.

[Anonymous]

Freeze your eggs. Don't settle.