32 and Still Single

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm if you were in med school you know that tons of women started relationships, got married and had kids at various points in their training. It’s not some insurmountable obstacle. I’m 30 and unmarried butnhave been with my SO for 1.5 yrs and even before I met him I dated regularly. Try to do some deeper introspection on what’s keeping you single. Maybe it’s not something you can change or maybe it’s something you don’t want to change. But it would be good to know.

Op here. I have my faults and flaws, but being single has been on my terms. I threw myself into finishing up my degree, often working and studying 1618 hours a day. The biggest problem is I am unlikely to have children of my own. That’s my biggest hurdle.

You're 32, not 42. Why do you think you won't have kids??

[Anonymous]

You have plenty of time. I met my DH a month before my 35th birthday. Married at 36 - kids at 37 and 39. I remember my OB saying 75% of his practice was women over 35!

[Anonymous]

Bumble...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm if you were in med school you know that tons of women started relationships, got married and had kids at various points in their training. It’s not some insurmountable obstacle. I’m 30 and unmarried butnhave been with my SO for 1.5 yrs and even before I met him I dated regularly. Try to do some deeper introspection on what’s keeping you single. Maybe it’s not something you can change or maybe it’s something you don’t want to change. But it would be good to know.

Op here. I have my faults and flaws, but being single has been on my terms. I threw myself into finishing up my degree, often working and studying 1618 hours a day. The biggest problem is I am unlikely to have children of my own. That’s my biggest hurdle.

You're 32, not 42. Why do you think you won't have kids??

Fertility issues in my family. I also have suffered with pcos since puberty.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I want to throw out there that I am in no way saying I am more dateable or better because I have a degree in your medical field. I know that my career will be brought up at some point, and that is why I offered up the information. My biggest issue is I am very picky and want to marry a certain type of man. Preferably 30’s, white ( my preference), never married, no kids, educated, makes 80k+ a year, conservative, non religious, wants kids, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I want to throw out there that I am in no way saying I am more dateable or better because I have a degree in your medical field. I know that my career will be brought up at some point, and that is why I offered up the information. My biggest issue is I am very picky and want to marry a certain type of man. Preferably 30’s, white ( my preference), never married, no kids, educated, makes 80k+ a year, conservative, non religious, wants kids, etc.

Just find your below average looking nerd with limited dating experience like basically everyone else here does. You’ll have qualms at first, but when the kids come, it won’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Aren’t you also the author of this thread:

Settling at 32- http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/673464.page

The other OP had a similar salary and was looking for a guy with the same set of criteria.

[Anonymous]

OP- keep dating. Join dating websites. Go on blind dates. Go to bars etc. Do not sit at home moping. Go on as many dates as you can and treat it like a job. Do not give up.
I wasn't married until 34 and now have 3 children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I want to throw out there that I am in no way saying I am more dateable or better because I have a degree in your medical field. I know that my career will be brought up at some point, and that is why I offered up the information. My biggest issue is I am very picky and want to marry a certain type of man. Preferably 30’s, white ( my preference), never married, no kids, educated, makes 80k+ a year, conservative, non religious, wants kids, etc.

Are you white also OP? No offense, but why are you so picky? You have pcos and fertility issues in the family, so that makes you non-ideal for mid 30’s guys who want kids. Maybe you should broaden your expectations a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm if you were in med school you know that tons of women started relationships, got married and had kids at various points in their training. It’s not some insurmountable obstacle. I’m 30 and unmarried butnhave been with my SO for 1.5 yrs and even before I met him I dated regularly. Try to do some deeper introspection on what’s keeping you single. Maybe it’s not something you can change or maybe it’s something you don’t want to change. But it would be good to know.

Op here. I have my faults and flaws, but being single has been on my terms. I threw myself into finishing up my degree, often working and studying 1618 hours a day. The biggest problem is I am unlikely to have children of my own. That’s my biggest hurdle.

You're 32, not 42. Why do you think you won't have kids??

Fertility issues in my family. I also have suffered with pcos since puberty.

So you may have been infertile at 25 if you have these other factors. Would you have wanted to marry at 23? Not likely. You could also have just always been infertile. You could also easily have a baby if you have your pcos under control. No way to know right now one way or the other, so don't get hung up on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have plenty of time. I met my DH a month before my 35th birthday. Married at 36 - kids at 37 and 39. I remember my OB saying 75% of his practice was women over 35!

These are my exact stats as well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you also the author of this thread:

Settling at 32- http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/673464.page

The other OP had a similar salary and was looking for a guy with the same set of criteria.

She posts the same thing every few months. There's no way she's a 7. She's probably a 4 or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you also the author of this thread:

Settling at 32- http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/673464.page

The other OP had a similar salary and was looking for a guy with the same set of criteria.

She posts the same thing every few months. There's no way she's a 7. She's probably a 4 or something.

That’s unnecessary. You should be ashamed of yourself. (NP here.)

[Anonymous]

You'll never be afraid to divorce due to lack of job/money.

Spare a thought for those of us in that predicament...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you also the author of this thread:

Settling at 32- http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/673464.page

The other OP had a similar salary and was looking for a guy with the same set of criteria.

She posts the same thing every few months. There's no way she's a 7. She's probably a 4 or something.

That’s unnecessary. You should be ashamed of yourself. (NP here.)

No, it's great context. I'm glad PP did it, sometimes you have to certain posters will keep
you spinning around in circles.