Would you date a former cocaine addict?

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Anonymous wrote:I briefly dated a woman with drug and alcohol addictions -- at least I think so. She was just the right amount of crazy for me at the time. But, she could not comprehend that I do not do drugs and only drank lightly. She was an active addict.

One day, she "got me drunk", basically, she spiked my drinks; she wanted to see what I was like drunk. She did not like the answer. I am not mean, or funny, but I am selfish. For example, I ate all the chips. She did not like me like that and threw me out -- when I was in too bad of a state to drive home. (I slept it off in my car), passenger seat).

She wanted to go out later in the week, but I had sense to realize good sex is not worth crazy.

PP here. I forgot to make my answer relevant to the discussion. I would not knowingly date an active addict. In recovery is more complex. I would want to know details....

[Anonymous]

OP, its all about how the person is now. Are they drug free, social drinker only? are they reliable, honest, stable, have long standing friendships, a good employment record, a sense of perspective and emotionally healthy? Do they handle stress, disappointment, challenges in an emotionally and physically healthy way? Do they take care of their health? If the answer to the above is yes, then I would. But if you think there's still instability, emotional slipperiness, dishonesty, drug use, hard living, using substances (or other unhealthy behavior) as a coping mechanism, then no.

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Anonymous wrote:nah. too much baggage and would always wonder.

+1 on one hand, everyone deserves a second chance, but it would always worry me.

meh...they can have a second chance, but it doesn’t mean they deserve to be married. We all make our choices in life, and they made theirs...for better or worse.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

I think you are projecting. You are disgusted with yourself. Are you a current or former cokehead?

If my (future) children were to dabble in drugs, I'd sure as fu@& notice something was up long before cocaine could be an issue.

Even if they're away at college or living on their own in another city after college?

Hopefully, I will do a good job raising my (hypothetical) kids. My parents did fine raising me and I'm not a druggie, never have been -I don't even drink. I have a strong desire to maintain self control and my composure. That desire has kept me on the straight and narrow.

Such a naive bunch here. Once your sweet innocent child goes away to his SLAC on a full lacrosse scholarship there will be cocaine, lots of it. He will partake and he will end up fine just like the thousands of others who do the same thing. Take off the blinders lady.

Sounds like the plot of a dime store novel. You should write it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I briefly dated a woman with drug and alcohol addictions -- at least I think so. She was just the right amount of crazy for me at the time. But, she could not comprehend that I do not do drugs and only drank lightly. She was an active addict.

One day, she "got me drunk", basically, she spiked my drinks; she wanted to see what I was like drunk. She did not like the answer. I am not mean, or funny, but I am selfish. For example, I ate all the chips. She did not like me like that and threw me out -- when I was in too bad of a state to drive home. (I slept it off in my car), passenger seat).

She wanted to go out later in the week, but I had sense to realize good sex is not worth crazy.

I dated her, too. amazing in bed but she couldn't stop drinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coke usually leads to dancing, talking, and wanting more coke. Which is why I said date, not marry.

best response, yet.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

Women love losers.

Guy with small penis says what?

The pp is a former cocaine addict. They are known to be easy women and have a body image obsession.

Awwwww, now you're just getting mean, little fella!

Typical. Take out your frustrations with your shortcomings in life on someone else. What a charmer you must be!

But I'll humor you, sheerly for sake of letting you know your looks-like-a-penis-only-smaller penis will never turn my head. I'm 41, a triathlete, former NCAA D-1 volleyball, and yes, I do have a bit of a body image obsession. And it's served me well! Easy? Maybe. For the properly-equipped men, yes, perhaps!

But you'll never know. Because your small, tiny, babydick does nothing for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

Women love losers.

Guy with small penis says what?

The pp is a former cocaine addict. They are known to be easy women and have a body image obsession.

Awwwww, now you're just getting mean, little fella!

Typical. Take out your frustrations with your shortcomings in life on someone else. What a charmer you must be!

But I'll humor you, sheerly for sake of letting you know your looks-like-a-penis-only-smaller penis will never turn my head. I'm 41, a triathlete, former NCAA D-1 volleyball, and yes, I do have a bit of a body image obsession. And it's served me well! Easy? Maybe. For the properly-equipped men, yes, perhaps!

But you'll never know. Because your small, tiny, babydick does nothing for me.

You are weirdly obsessed with small penises

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Cocaine addicts can go all night long (assuming this is a female poster - didn't read the whole thread)....so if they're good in bed, no harm, no foul right? Not like I'm gonna marry him

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Op here. This is dating with the intent of getting married. Not just someone to have fun with.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

Women love losers.

Guy with small penis says what?

The pp is a former cocaine addict. They are known to be easy women and have a body image obsession.

Awwwww, now you're just getting mean, little fella!

Typical. Take out your frustrations with your shortcomings in life on someone else. What a charmer you must be!

But I'll humor you, sheerly for sake of letting you know your looks-like-a-penis-only-smaller penis will never turn my head. I'm 41, a triathlete, former NCAA D-1 volleyball, and yes, I do have a bit of a body image obsession. And it's served me well! Easy? Maybe. For the properly-equipped men, yes, perhaps!

But you'll never know. Because your small, tiny, babydick does nothing for me.

I am a woman. You are weirdly obsessed with penis size and maybe you did need all that coke in the past but that is no excuse to be a bitch now.

[Anonymous]

I'm currently (casually) dating a (former/recovered/used in his 20s) cocaine addict.

You'd never know. He is very successful with his work, owns his home, functions as an average adult (if not above average.) He was very open about it, but I won't lie and say it's not always in the back of my mind. I find myself wanting to "drop by" his place at random times to see if he's secretly high. I've done it a couple times, in the beginning, and he was very understanding and accomodating to my concerns. To him, he's so far removed from that life, but the thought is always in my mind. You're never really relaxed. It's always, "Is this the day I will find him acting a little off."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Cocaine addict in college and twenties. Now in thirties and supposedly not using anymore.

Not worth the risk