Would you date a former cocaine addict?

[Anonymous]

I would not date any former addict.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

Women love losers.

[Anonymous]

loved cocaine in college but wouldn't touch it with a 10' pole now - those days are long gone.

[Anonymous]

Did tons of blow in my 20's; haven't touched it in 20 years, I own a successful business and from all other angles I'm a devoted father and pretty outstanding husband.

I could easily be considered an addict based on behavior from two decades earlier but I'm just not the same person and depending on how far back your "addict" has their last line they might not be either.

[Anonymous]

My ex-boyfriend was a convicted felon and after I left him I married a cop. My LEO and I have been together for more than 8 years. He's retired now. If you want to date a former addict, date one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the other thing, you can date someone who is A+ all around and then one day you're dating an addict. I posted earlier that I dated someone who was hooked on fentanyl at one point in his life. That point wasn't until he was in his early 40's, after a terrible car accident that broke multiple bones in his back. Until that point in life, he never had any issues, social drinker, responsible dad, held down a demanding and great job.

So, I guess all of you with your perfect lives and perfect choices will just head on out the door when it happens to your loved ones.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

Women love losers.

Guy with small penis says what?

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

Here's the thing - my children aren't addicts, I don't associate with addicts and I DON'T tolerate drug use in my relationships. If you do and you sat by while yours spiraled, I feel bad for you.

They are not currently addicts but you never know what the future may hold. If you think you can somehow guarantee that none of your children will ever struggle with addiction, you are both hopelessly naive & horrifyingly ignorant.

PP true. But why date or marry someone with a propensity to use drugs and/or struggles with being a user? They're more likely to pass that on to children or overlook use in their own child leading to addiction. Defending it is incredibly foolhardy.

Yes, someone with a history of addiction is more likely to have kids who are genetically predisposed to addiction. From what I have seen, however, parents who have battled substance abuse issues in the past & are now sober/in recovery are actually LESS likely to excuse, miss, or ignore the kind of behaviors that can lead to addiction. Unlike a lot of parents, they don't have the head in the sand "it could never happen to MY kid" mentality about drug & alcohol use & addiction. Having been through it themselves, they are very much cognizant the fact that kids from all types of backgrounds & families can & do become addicts.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

Here's the thing - my children aren't addicts, I don't associate with addicts and I DON'T tolerate drug use in my relationships. If you do and you sat by while yours spiraled, I feel bad for you.

They are not currently addicts but you never know what the future may hold. If you think you can somehow guarantee that none of your children will ever struggle with addiction, you are both hopelessly naive & horrifyingly ignorant.

PP true. But why date or marry someone with a propensity to use drugs and/or struggles with being a user? They're more likely to pass that on to children or overlook use in their own child leading to addiction. Defending it is incredibly foolhardy.

Yes, someone with a history of addiction is more likely to have kids who are genetically predisposed to addiction. From what I have seen, however, parents who have battled substance abuse issues in the past & are now sober/in recovery are actually LESS likely to excuse, miss, or ignore the kind of behaviors that can lead to addiction. Unlike a lot of parents, they don't have the head in the sand "it could never happen to MY kid" mentality about drug & alcohol use & addiction. Having been through it themselves, they are very much cognizant the fact that kids from all types of backgrounds & families can & do become addicts.

^I'm not saying that one shouldn't have serious reservations about marrying & starting a family with a recovered addict. The increased genetic vulnerability is very real as is, in many cases, the high risk of relapse. But to say that someone who has overcome an addiction & successfully maintained their sobriety is more likely to "overlook" drug use is ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

I think you are projecting. You are disgusted with yourself. Are you a current or former cokehead?

If my (future) children were to dabble in drugs, I'd sure as fu@& notice something was up long before cocaine could be an issue.

Even if they're away at college or living on their own in another city after college?

Hopefully, I will do a good job raising my (hypothetical) kids. My parents did fine raising me and I'm not a druggie, never have been -I don't even drink. I have a strong desire to maintain self control and my composure. That desire has kept me on the straight and narrow.

Such a naive bunch here. Once your sweet innocent child goes away to his SLAC on a full lacrosse scholarship there will be cocaine, lots of it. He will partake and he will end up fine just like the thousands of others who do the same thing. Take off the blinders lady.

[Anonymous]

Cocaine is a relatively easy thing to get past. Nothing like as addictive as heroine, nothing like as omnipresent as alcohol.

I know many people that used it in the past and then stopped. Oh, and their (loving and attentive) parents had no idea...

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

Women love losers.

Guy with small penis says what?

you forgot to put "bitter" before "guy", hahaha!

Yeah, that my weakness, too. If he's packing, I'm powerless to resist him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if you have to think about it don't do it.

He's a stupid man and probably thinks the ex cocaine addict is hot. Models are known to use cocaine to help them be thin and do nasty things.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

Women love losers.

Guy with small penis says what?

The pp is a former cocaine addict. They are known to be easy women and have a body image obsession.

[Anonymous]

I briefly dated a woman with drug and alcohol addictions -- at least I think so. She was just the right amount of crazy for me at the time. But, she could not comprehend that I do not do drugs and only drank lightly. She was an active addict.

One day, she "got me drunk", basically, she spiked my drinks; she wanted to see what I was like drunk. She did not like the answer. I am not mean, or funny, but I am selfish. For example, I ate all the chips. She did not like me like that and threw me out -- when I was in too bad of a state to drive home. (I slept it off in my car), passenger seat).

She wanted to go out later in the week, but I had sense to realize good sex is not worth crazy.