Would you date a former cocaine addict?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the other thing, you can date someone who is A+ all around and then one day you're dating an addict. I posted earlier that I dated someone who was hooked on fentanyl at one point in his life. That point wasn't until he was in his early 40's, after a terrible car accident that broke multiple bones in his back. Until that point in life, he never had any issues, social drinker, responsible dad, held down a demanding and great job.

So, I guess all of you with your perfect lives and perfect choices will just head on out the door when it happens to your loved ones.

Ummm no. He made a choice to move from prescribed pain relievers to cocaine and fentanyl. No one took out a prescription pad and handed those over.

And personally - I know no one is perfect. But I do everything possible to stay away from hard drugs, even prescribed ones. When I had a month's worth of Oxycontin and hydrocodone supplied to me I flushed the damned things down the toilet as soon as I was able.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Cocaine addict in college and twenties. Now in thirties and supposedly not using anymore.

Key word is "supposedly" and I would never trust this. My answer is not only "no but Hell no!"

[Anonymous]

Date? Yes.

-Man

It's just coke. It's not meth or crack or heroin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

I think you are projecting. You are disgusted with yourself. Are you a current or former cokehead?

If my (future) children were to dabble in drugs, I'd sure as fu@& notice something was up long before cocaine could be an issue.

Even if they're away at college or living on their own in another city after college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Date? Yes.

-Man

It's just coke. It's not meth or crack or heroin.

Crack and coke are the same thing. Both lead to violence, unemployment, unreliable behaviors, physical deterioration, destitution, and addiction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

Here's the thing - my children aren't addicts, I don't associate with addicts and I DON'T tolerate drug use in my relationships. If you do and you sat by while yours spiraled, I feel bad for you.

They are not currently addicts but you never know what the future may hold. If you think you can somehow guarantee that none of your children will ever struggle with addiction, you are both hopelessly naive & horrifyingly ignorant.

[Anonymous]

I'm a recovering addict myself, so that could be a dangerous thing for me. But if he was cute and the sexual chemistry was there, I'd be really tempted. If he was really well endowed, too, then absolutely.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

Here's the thing - my children aren't addicts, I don't associate with addicts and I DON'T tolerate drug use in my relationships. If you do and you sat by while yours spiraled, I feel bad for you.

They are not currently addicts but you never know what the future may hold. If you think you can somehow guarantee that none of your children will ever struggle with addiction, you are both hopelessly naive & horrifyingly ignorant.

PP true. But why date or marry someone with a propensity to use drugs and/or struggles with being a user? They're more likely to pass that on to children or overlook use in their own child leading to addiction. Defending it is incredibly foolhardy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

No one owes you or anyone else a date. People can rule you out for any reason they want to including past decisions.

'You chose to do cocaine and with that choice there are consequences, some of those consequences are long-ranging including someone deciding to pass on dating you.

If my kid was an addict I hope the people considering date enough are wise enough to consider what that means and just gloss over it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Date? Yes.

-Man

It's just coke. It's not meth or crack or heroin.

Crack and coke are the same thing. Both lead to violence, unemployment, unreliable behaviors, physical deterioration, destitution, and addiction.

Wrong. They have a very different effect.

Coke usually leads to dancing, talking, and wanting more coke. Which is why I said date, not marry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

No one owes you or anyone else a date. People can rule you out for any reason they want to including past decisions.

'You chose to do cocaine and with that choice there are consequences, some of those consequences are long-ranging including someone deciding to pass on dating you.

If my kid was an addict I hope the people considering date enough are wise enough to consider what that means and just gloss over it

If my kid was a cocaine user I would be okay with no grandkids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

I think you are projecting. You are disgusted with yourself. Are you a current or former cokehead?

If my (future) children were to dabble in drugs, I'd sure as fu@& notice something was up long before cocaine could be an issue.

Even if they're away at college or living on their own in another city after college?

Hopefully, I will do a good job raising my (hypothetical) kids. My parents did fine raising me and I'm not a druggie, never have been -I don't even drink. I have a strong desire to maintain self control and my composure. That desire has kept me on the straight and narrow.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you all are not nearly so judgmental when little larlo or larla is declared an undateable leper for having suffered from, battled and over come the disease of addiction. No grandkids for you since you raised pariahs!

Oh, it's the " I hope you never..." poster in disguise!

No. Just someone who is disgusted by you.

What will you tell your friends? "No. Larla isn't dating anyone. She's undateable! Cocaine habit ten years ago . . ."

I think you are projecting. You are disgusted with yourself. Are you a current or former cokehead?

If my (future) children were to dabble in drugs, I'd sure as fu@& notice something was up long before cocaine could be an issue.

Even if they're away at college or living on their own in another city after college?

Hopefully, I will do a good job raising my (hypothetical) kids. My parents did fine raising me and I'm not a druggie, never have been -I don't even drink. I have a strong desire to maintain self control and my composure. That desire has kept me on the straight and narrow.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Cocaine addict in college and twenties. Now in thirties and supposedly not using anymore.

Key word is "supposedly" and I would never trust this. My answer is not only "no but Hell no!"

This! This! This!

The biggest issue here is that there's uncertainty about it being a thing of the past.

[Anonymous]

Was married to an addict and he died because of his addiction leaving me and a child by ourselves