Why do people not respond to texts?

[Anonymous]

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Intrusive modern communication has really highlighted the difference between social and less social people, the ones who multitask eagerly and those who prefer not to.

To those of you who expect a response all the time - please understand many of us don't want to communicate in that way. We have lots of other skills, so if you ditch us, it will probably be your loss. Just because you can text, it doesn't mean you need to.

So you are less social and don't prefer to multitask? Do you take the initiative to reach out to friends, or are you a recipient? In my experience, people with much more free time would greatly prefer voice to voice or in person interactions. Unfortunately, as a social multitasker, I will forget to mention quite a lot that happens, and you and I will not be as close as a result. If that's okay with you, I will find other friends to be closer to.

I am sure your non texting friends will be greatly relieved to be rid of your fake friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who responded after OP blew a funny ass opportunity! Haha

If no one would've responded to this thread it would've been classic

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have texts turned off. I tell almost everyone I know, but sometimes new people try to text me. I literally do NOT get any texts sent to me. Unfortunately, the phone does not send back a message to the sender along the lines of, "This person does not receive texts," or anything like that, but I try to tell everyone I know: just email me, call me, whatever. I don't text. I am 44.

You literally don't know how to text, or you won't pay for it?

I won't pay for it, and I don't like it, so I don't pay for it. It's kind of a circular thing. Not sure which is the more determining factor. But I both a) don't like texts and b) don't want to pay for texts.

Wait... there are still phone plans out there where texting is not free?

I mean, even my dad's flip phone plan has unlimited texting. He also doesn't text. He'll read one and he knows how to do it if some kind of emergency came up, but he hates texting. "Just ring-a-ding the phone! It's faster than tippity-tapping!" is what he says.

[Anonymous]

Here's what I've learned from this thread:

1. Some people prefer to be texted.
2. Some people prefer to be called.
3. Some people prefer to be e-mailed.
4. If possible, it's best to contact people in the way they prefer to be contacted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't people call me and talk to me if they want something? I am not a robot, and if you can text me, clearly it is of no essence, and you are using me, while trying to have minimal personal connection with me. Texters are not your friends, just users.

Because I work 10 hours a day and am raising children? Are you okay with me calling you before 7 am while I'm exercising, or after 10 pm, just before I go to bed?

No, I am definitely not ok with calls or texts at 7am nor am I ok with texts before 10am and past 9pm. There is proper etiquette that was used and a common sense for phone calls, with texts this has gone out of the window. If you are working 10 hours and raising children, why do you need to text me/anybody? What possible reason do you have to text at 7am, or while exercising, or going to bed? What is wrong with you, that you think people are ok with your text since you text because it is convenient for you, disregarding your friend or family due to your convenience? No text at 7am will be answered not will any phone call be answered, unless I know it is an emergency. Plus, if you had any brain cells, you might realize that typing your texts might take longer than a simple phone call, without 20 back and forth. Why are you texting while you are working??? Have you no work ethic either, since you clearly lack any manners?

I don't text before 7 am or at or after 10 pm. That's when I'd be free for a call. I text during my day because I want to convey information. Why would I be using you by texting you? Are you thinking I am trying to create a friendship by texting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Intrusive modern communication has really highlighted the difference between social and less social people, the ones who multitask eagerly and those who prefer not to.

To those of you who expect a response all the time - please understand many of us don't want to communicate in that way. We have lots of other skills, so if you ditch us, it will probably be your loss. Just because you can text, it doesn't mean you need to.

So you are less social and don't prefer to multitask? Do you take the initiative to reach out to friends, or are you a recipient? In my experience, people with much more free time would greatly prefer voice to voice or in person interactions. Unfortunately, as a social multitasker, I will forget to mention quite a lot that happens, and you and I will not be as close as a result. If that's okay with you, I will find other friends to be closer to.

I am sure your non texting friends will be greatly relieved to be rid of your fake friendship.

I do not have non texting friends. My friends all work and have children, so they understand that texting is a common convenience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's what I've learned from this thread:

1. Some people prefer to be texted.
2. Some people prefer to be called.
3. Some people prefer to be e-mailed.
4. If possible, it's best to contact people in the way they prefer to be contacted.

5. If you like to text, and your friends like to be called, it's best to have no interaction at all until the next time you see that friend in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's what I've learned from this thread:

1. Some people prefer to be texted.
2. Some people prefer to be called.
3. Some people prefer to be e-mailed.
4. If possible, it's best to contact people in the way they prefer to be contacted.

Also, lots of people think you know what they prefer. Some say they tell "everyone they know" what their preference is and then screw anybody else who tries to contact them the wrong way.

In my circle of friends and family it has become normal to text someone just to ask if it's a good time to call and talk. Otherwise it's perceived as kind of rude to just call and expect someone to be available to talk.