Is STA gay-friendly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of boys who came out at STA in the last 10 years. None faced any discrimination or bullying.

That is the biggest lie I have ever heard. There has been a TON of disctimination against students who have come out at STA. It is a very homophobic school. My son is a nonbinary biromantic asexual and he is TERRIFIED to come out to his peers. He has told me stories of how students react towards openly LGBT students. He has told me about the things that people say about the LGBTQ community. There is so much homophobia and silent discrimination towards students who have come out.

It’s not a lie. I could list the names of the boys I personally know who have come out over past 10 years (but that would be wrong and against DCUM policy) You could ask all of them. It was NBD. Your son may just be an outlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of boys who came out at STA in the last 10 years. None faced any discrimination or bullying.

That is the biggest lie I have ever heard. There has been a TON of disctimination against students who have come out at STA. It is a very homophobic school. My son is a nonbinary biromantic asexual and he is TERRIFIED to come out to his peers. He has told me stories of how students react towards openly LGBT students. He has told me about the things that people say about the LGBTQ community. There is so much homophobia and silent discrimination towards students who have come out.

It’s not a lie. I could list the names of the boys I personally know who have come out over past 10 years (but that would be wrong and against DCUM policy) You could ask all of them. It was NBD. Your son may just be an outlier.

I agree pp, my son has friends who have flip flopped on being being by and and some who came out as gay. As you said, no big deal. Seriously, no one cares, especially the STA boys. To the other poster, I'm sorry your son has this trepidation. That must be a terrible feeling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the most popular and respected teachers in the lower school is gay. The boys have honk he is great.

Who, might I ask?

That's great but who cares? The teachers in the lower school are great , agreed. I have not given one thought to their sexual orientation and neither has my son. Your sexual orientation, race etc. do not make you any better or lesser of a teacher. And yes in the 90's my favorite teacher was gay but's that not why he was my favorite. He was just a great person and the only teacher I respected. My parents adored him too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many posters just seem to want to discount positive feedback about STA being respectful and inclusive.

How is that for intolerance and bigotry.

In any case, how about this: STA has many public speakers come to the school in the course of a school year. The ONLY speaker in recent memory to have received a standing ovation from the entire Upper School ( all male ) student body was a Transgender NCAA athlete who spoke about what it was like coming out and finding self acceptance in collge

Standing ovation.

Was this a former NBA star? Spoke at SFS in the Fall as well.

[Anonymous]

As a gay dad who went to an all boys high school and am still rattled by the experience (and I was not even partially until late in college), reading this chain is great, particularly the post about a trans athlete getting a standing ovation. The world has changed, or at least the privileged portion of the world occupied that we are fortunate enough to live in. As a parent experiencing rhe next generation through my kids, i am constantly impressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a gay dad who went to an all boys high school and am still rattled by the experience (and I was not even partially out until late in college), reading this chain is great, particularly the post about a trans athlete getting a standing ovation. The world has changed, or at least the privileged portion of the world that we are fortunate enough to live in. As a parent experiencing rhe next generation through my kids, i am constantly impressed.

Made a couple edits. Sorry for posting twice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of boys who came out at STA in the last 10 years. None faced any discrimination or bullying.

That is the biggest lie I have ever heard. There has been a TON of disctimination against students who have come out at STA. It is a very homophobic school. My son is a nonbinary biromantic asexual and he is TERRIFIED to come out to his peers. He has told me stories of how students react towards openly LGBT students. He has told me about the things that people say about the LGBTQ community. There is so much homophobia and silent discrimination towards students who have come out.

It’s not a lie. I could list the names of the boys I personally know who have come out over past 10 years (but that would be wrong and against DCUM policy) You could ask all of them. It was NBD. Your son may just be an outlier.

Define "outlier". I know what it means, but do YOU mean by outlier in this context?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of boys who came out at STA in the last 10 years. None faced any discrimination or bullying.

That is the biggest lie I have ever heard. There has been a TON of disctimination against students who have come out at STA. It is a very homophobic school. My son is a nonbinary biromantic asexual and he is TERRIFIED to come out to his peers. He has told me stories of how students react towards openly LGBT students. He has told me about the things that people say about the LGBTQ community. There is so much homophobia and silent discrimination towards students who have come out.

It’s not a lie. I could list the names of the boys I personally know who have come out over past 10 years (but that would be wrong and against DCUM policy) You could ask all of them. It was NBD. Your son may just be an outlier.

DP. The truth is somewhere in between. Many boys accept it and many do not. That is the truth and anyone in the know would know that many boys and families at STA are conservative and traditional and they do not accept being gay and most certainly won’t accept them into their friend group. The all boys schools in this area lean very conservative. Coed is a better option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many posters just seem to want to discount positive feedback about STA being respectful and inclusive.

How is that for intolerance and bigotry.

In any case, how about this: STA has many public speakers come to the school in the course of a school year. The ONLY speaker in recent memory to have received a standing ovation from the entire Upper School ( all male ) student body was a Transgender NCAA athlete who spoke about what it was like coming out and finding self acceptance in collge

Standing ovation.

When was this, might I ask?

I think it was about 2018

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many posters just seem to want to discount positive feedback about STA being respectful and inclusive.

How is that for intolerance and bigotry.

In any case, how about this: STA has many public speakers come to the school in the course of a school year. The ONLY speaker in recent memory to have received a standing ovation from the entire Upper School ( all male ) student body was a Transgender NCAA athlete who spoke about what it was like coming out and finding self acceptance in collge

Standing ovation.

Was this a former NBA star? Spoke at SFS in the Fall as well.

No, he was a recent Grad from Harvard I think and his sport was swimming or something like that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of boys who came out at STA in the last 10 years. None faced any discrimination or bullying.

That is the biggest lie I have ever heard. There has been a TON of disctimination against students who have come out at STA. It is a very homophobic school. My son is a nonbinary biromantic asexual and he is TERRIFIED to come out to his peers. He has told me stories of how students react towards openly LGBT students. He has told me about the things that people say about the LGBTQ community. There is so much homophobia and silent discrimination towards students who have come out.

It’s not a lie. I could list the names of the boys I personally know who have come out over past 10 years (but that would be wrong and against DCUM policy) You could ask all of them. It was NBD. Your son may just be an outlier.

DP. The truth is somewhere in between. Many boys accept it and many do not. That is the truth and anyone in the know would know that many boys and families at STA are conservative and traditional and they do not accept being gay and most certainly won’t accept them into their friend group. The all boys schools in this area lean very conservative. Coed is a better option.

More stereotyping....

PP, you seem selectively blind to the fact that sexual orientation is determined by a complex interplay of peri-natal hormones and genetics- not political views acquired decades into one's life.

Translation: " conservative types" are JUST as likely to have a gay identifying child as liberals. Go ask Cher and Dick Cheyne.

And as for Gay shaming, many so called Liberals are just as likely to engage in it- ala Jen Pskai and her " lady G " public attack on a political opponent

Multiple posters have shared their experiences about STA being respectful towards Gay identifying people. Deal with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the most popular and respected teachers in the lower school is gay. The boys have honk he is great.

Who, might I ask?

That's great but who cares? The teachers in the lower school are great , agreed. I have not given one thought to their sexual orientation and neither has my son. Your sexual orientation, race etc. do not make you any better or lesser of a teacher. And yes in the 90's my favorite teacher was gay but's that not why he was my favorite. He was just a great person and the only teacher I respected. My parents adored him too.

That is the point, the boys didn’t care. Thought he was a great teacher and a positive influence. Many still use him for tutoring in the upper school.

And if you don’t know, not sure your kid is at STA. If you don’t know yet, you will and probably think the same: he is a good teacher that STA is lucky to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of boys who came out at STA in the last 10 years. None faced any discrimination or bullying.

That is the biggest lie I have ever heard. There has been a TON of disctimination against students who have come out at STA. It is a very homophobic school. My son is a nonbinary biromantic asexual and he is TERRIFIED to come out to his peers. He has told me stories of how students react towards openly LGBT students. He has told me about the things that people say about the LGBTQ community. There is so much homophobia and silent discrimination towards students who have come out.

It’s not a lie. I could list the names of the boys I personally know who have come out over past 10 years (but that would be wrong and against DCUM policy) You could ask all of them. It was NBD. Your son may just be an outlier.

DP. The truth is somewhere in between. Many boys accept it and many do not. That is the truth and anyone in the know would know that many boys and families at STA are conservative and traditional and they do not accept being gay and most certainly won’t accept them into their friend group. The all boys schools in this area lean very conservative. Coed is a better option.

Unless you are a parent at STA with first hand knowledge, you are a total nut with your guessing and making stuff up about people you don’t know. Think about how wrong it would be if you changed up a few of the criteria and went about spouting off your bullshit. You would get drilled, and appropriately so.