ILs want to babysit and DH and I say no

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Absolutely not! Grandparents are there to provide another loving adult that children can bond with and learn from. Grandparents are NOT there to undermine the parents.

I did not say undermine. grandparents are there to be loving adults, which can include the occasional spoiling...

F me....mashed potatoes are now solid foods... for the love of god....

Hey genius...mashed potatoes usually contain butter, milk and/or cream. Babies that age may well have an allergy to cows milk. They are only supposed to have breast milk or formula until a doctor says otherwise at a 9 month checkup.

Idiot.

Okay. I'm of the "respect the parents' wishes," but you're going a bit overboard here. Avoidance of cow's milk in the first year is one of those "abundance of caution" things. A steady diet might be harmful (though there were kids fed this way not so long ago), but an occasional taste is very unlikely to do harm - kind of equivalent to the occasional car ride.

Some parents use rules like these as a means to control their children, other people, etc. It can get pretty crazy.

--PP grandma who has to turn off the wifi.

NP - Actually, is the most common food allergy/intolerance in infants. The proteins pass through to breastmilk, hence why I'm now on a milk free diet for my son who is 3 months old. It also is one of the things that takes the longest to get out of your systems. Most outgrow it by 1 year old. I can assure you I would be pissed at anyone feeding him food without my ok. I don't need a return of his raw, weeping diaper rash and reflux - and he only has a fairly mild intolerance in the range of reactions.

This. What do you say now, Grammy? OK to make baby suffer because you know better than a doctor?

How dumb do you think I am? Obviously if the child has a know sensitivity to X you don't feed X to him. I'm talking about parents who adopt a host of rules in the absence of a problem. Like, no dairy till 1 year. Or no wifi ever.

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Anonymous wrote:You know they had the same 'regulations' during your childhood?? Your husband turned out fine...that's probably why your MIL thinks you have a bee-in-your-bonnet.

Moron. So because a child's parents don't have an allergy, the child won't?

Actually, these regulations say no ice cream or rich gravies or puddings. So I don't think they're advocating MIL and SIL's antics either.

Kind of the point. No one follows the regulations 100% of the time. The prior generations didn't die off for eating a little ice cream, neither will yours.

And noboday ever died from NOT having ice cream as an infant, either. The point is actually that the mother and father call the shots. If they have rules that are not to your liking, too bad. You roll your eyes and talk about them behind their backs. You don't just feed their baby ice cream anyway.

Also, I don't blame OP for not wanting her infant to eat fast food and ice cream before the first birthday. Even if it's just a taste, what is the point? There's no benefit. There's no nutrition. This child will have a lifetime to eat junk. Why the need to cram it into the baby so soon?

OP, cut ties with these people now. They don't respect you or the boundaries you've established. They are not the kind of people you want around when you have a teenager looking to break more important family rules. With these people, you're going to be in for a lifetime of overstepping boundaries. Doesn't sound like it's worth it to me.

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Absolutely not! Grandparents are there to provide another loving adult that children can bond with and learn from. Grandparents are NOT there to undermine the parents.

I did not say undermine. grandparents are there to be loving adults, which can include the occasional spoiling...

F me....mashed potatoes are now solid foods... for the love of god....

Hey genius...mashed potatoes usually contain butter, milk and/or cream. Babies that age may well have an allergy to cows milk. They are only supposed to have breast milk or formula until a doctor says otherwise at a 9 month checkup.

Idiot.

Okay. I'm of the "respect the parents' wishes," but you're going a bit overboard here. Avoidance of cow's milk in the first year is one of those "abundance of caution" things. A steady diet might be harmful (though there were kids fed this way not so long ago), but an occasional taste is very unlikely to do harm - kind of equivalent to the occasional car ride.

Some parents use rules like these as a means to control their children, other people, etc. It can get pretty crazy.

--PP grandma who has to turn off the wifi.

NP - Actually, is the most common food allergy/intolerance in infants. The proteins pass through to breastmilk, hence why I'm now on a milk free diet for my son who is 3 months old. It also is one of the things that takes the longest to get out of your systems. Most outgrow it by 1 year old. I can assure you I would be pissed at anyone feeding him food without my ok. I don't need a return of his raw, weeping diaper rash and reflux - and he only has a fairly mild intolerance in the range of reactions.

This. What do you say now, Grammy? OK to make baby suffer because you know better than a doctor?

How dumb do you think I am? Obviously if the child has a know sensitivity to X you don't feed X to him. I'm talking about parents who adopt a host of rules in the absence of a problem. Like, no dairy till 1 year. Or no wifi ever.

Here's how dumb that I think you are:
You doooooo realize that there is no way of telling whether someone has an allergy/sensitivity until the first time they try something, yes? THAT IS WHY you don't feed infants things they might be sensitive to, because they are tiny and delicate and there's NO NEED to put them through suffering just so grandma can watch baby eat mashed potatoes.

NO BENEFIT to a two-month-old eating mashed potatoes. POSSIBLE HARM could be done. So--because of common effing sense and doctors' recommendations, normal/sane/smart people don't feed infants mashed potatoes!

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Quick scan of responses seem about the same:.even if they're family, if they are this disrespectful in front of you, who would trust them to babysit your kid. They have no one to blame but themselves.