What does "single Mom" mean?

[Anonymous]

I was a single mom until I got married a couple of years ago. DC1's dad hadn't seen him in years. I got small monthly child support checks, which were court ordered. However, I would routinely go 20+ months without talking to him at all... Not so much as a "how's the kid?" text. I think he sent the money because he didn't want to deal with the guilt of never even remotely engaging us.

[Anonymous]

I hope none of you judgey people ever has reason to figure out what the phrase "single mom" means to you.... after your now DH is gone.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, but I'm a little sick of seeing it as some sort of badge or honor or excuse for entitlement.

[Anonymous]

Single mother is a mother who is dating
A divorcee or an unmarried mother

And the world does look down on such fallen women.

As for taking solo financial responsibility for the kids? I believe there are married women whose income is used solely for the kids, especially when husband does not out earn her

[Anonymous]

Always glad to see this thread revived!

Not.

Give it a rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single mother is a mother who is dating
A divorcee or an unmarried mother

And the world does look down on such fallen women.

As for taking solo financial responsibility for the kids? I believe there are married women whose income is used solely for the kids, especially when husband does not out earn her

So, I'm definitely single (not married, not partnered, not dating).

And I'm definitely a mother, got the birth certificate and the kid to prove it.

But I'm not dating. So, I'm not a single mom? This is news to me.

[Anonymous]

a milf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mother is a mother who is dating
A divorcee or an unmarried mother

And the world does look down on such fallen women.

As for taking solo financial responsibility for the kids? I believe there are married women whose income is used solely for the kids, especially when husband does not out earn her

So, I'm definitely single (not married, not partnered, not dating).

And I'm definitely a mother, got the birth certificate and the kid to prove it.

But I'm not dating. So, I'm not a single mom? This is news to me.

Yes in that case you are not a single mother
A single mother is a woman who is out to get the husband of some other poor married woman

You do not sound dangerous at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mother is a mother who is dating
A divorcee or an unmarried mother

And the world does look down on such fallen women.

As for taking solo financial responsibility for the kids? I believe there are married women whose income is used solely for the kids, especially when husband does not out earn her

So, I'm definitely single (not married, not partnered, not dating).

And I'm definitely a mother, got the birth certificate and the kid to prove it.

But I'm not dating. So, I'm not a single mom? This is news to me.

Yes in that case you are not a single mother
A single mother is a woman who is out to get the husband of some other poor married woman

You do not sound dangerous at all

I'm widowed and have a child. I'm certainly not "out to get the husband of some other poor married woman". So what would you call me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mother is a mother who is dating
A divorcee or an unmarried mother

And the world does look down on such fallen women.

As for taking solo financial responsibility for the kids? I believe there are married women whose income is used solely for the kids, especially when husband does not out earn her

So, I'm definitely single (not married, not partnered, not dating).

And I'm definitely a mother, got the birth certificate and the kid to prove it.

But I'm not dating. So, I'm not a single mom? This is news to me.

Yes in that case you are not a single mother
A single mother is a woman who is out to get the husband of some other poor married woman

You do not sound dangerous at all

I'm widowed and have a child. I'm certainly not "out to get the husband of some other poor married woman". So what would you call me?

It is not what would I call you, but how other people see you. I know someone whose mother told her to stay away from friendships with single mothers
Sometimes a single mother will like a man just because he is hitched. Married women are better off being friends with married women only .

[Anonymous]

Don't feed the troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mother is a mother who is dating
A divorcee or an unmarried mother

And the world does look down on such fallen women.

As for taking solo financial responsibility for the kids? I believe there are married women whose income is used solely for the kids, especially when husband does not out earn her

So, I'm definitely single (not married, not partnered, not dating).

And I'm definitely a mother, got the birth certificate and the kid to prove it.

But I'm not dating. So, I'm not a single mom? This is news to me.

Yes in that case you are not a single mother
A single mother is a woman who is out to get the husband of some other poor married woman

You do not sound dangerous at all

I am single mom. Divorced. Primary custody of three kids and very little involvement/support of any kind from their mid 7-figure income earning father. He "disagrees" with the concept of child support. He sees the kids at his convenience and on his terms. He knows very little about their lives and who they are as people. It's his loss - they are amazing kids.
But I'm exhausted. I don't have the energy or the desire to go after someone else's husband. That sounds horribly complicated. I don't have time for any kind of relationship. And just because I am an attractive divorced woman does not mean that I don't respect other people's relationships. Your husband might want to bang me but he also wanted to bang me when I was married. Men want to bang half the women they see. I'm not interested. You are safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mother is a mother who is dating
A divorcee or an unmarried mother

And the world does look down on such fallen women.

As for taking solo financial responsibility for the kids? I believe there are married women whose income is used solely for the kids, especially when husband does not out earn her

So, I'm definitely single (not married, not partnered, not dating).

And I'm definitely a mother, got the birth certificate and the kid to prove it.

But I'm not dating. So, I'm not a single mom? This is news to me.

Yes in that case you are not a single mother
A single mother is a woman who is out to get the husband of some other poor married woman

You do not sound dangerous at all

I am single mom. Divorced. Primary custody of three kids and very little involvement/support of any kind from their mid 7-figure income earning father. He "disagrees" with the concept of child support. He sees the kids at his convenience and on his terms. He knows very little about their lives and who they are as people. It's his loss - they are amazing kids.
But I'm exhausted. I don't have the energy or the desire to go after someone else's husband. That sounds horribly complicated. I don't have time for any kind of relationship. And just because I am an attractive divorced woman does not mean that I don't respect other people's relationships. Your husband might want to bang me but he also wanted to bang me when I was married. Men want to bang half the women they see. I'm not interested. You are safe.

I'm not the troll. If dad earns 7 figures go after him in court. You don't need a lawyer, you need together a court date and serve him. He doesn't have to agree with child support to be legally obligated to pay it.

[Anonymous]

I have to LOL at the term "fallen women". PP you are clueless. And weak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My exboyfriend is only involved financially. What does that make me?

a typical woman: "leave me alone! oh, but I will still take your money."