Judging kids in frugal families

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We live well below our means, which bugs me but yet, gives me comfort. Our home is small compared to my son's friend's homes, and there have been comments said. My son's answer was "my house may be small but I have the best mom". We've never bought into the house hype - the bigger, the better - and never will as long as my DH is alive. Here's the thing, if you're raising your kids right, they understand material items won't make you happy and it's ok to wait and save for something.

You, um, sound angry about your DH.

+1

You say:

You will buy into the house hype after your husband has died.

Living below your means bugs you and that presumably you're living this way at his insistence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am poor (so, by default, so is my daughter) and one thing I always felt that would make her stand out was if her pants were too short. I may have bought them from super cheap places, but she's never worn high water pants.

She's 13 and still never owned anything by Under Armor or gotten a passport. Somehow happy with lots of nice friends despite that.

OP, I think you should judge yourself, and harshly, if you'd seriously consider getting rid of a 20 yr old car because of what kindergartners and their parents might think of you for having it. Shame on you. Why would you even WANT to be friends with anyone who'd judge you for living in a condo?

DH was very poor growing up and the memory of wearing high water pants still bothers him. That's the one aspect of our kids' clothing he cares about.

That's funny. We can afford a lot and my kids are in private school, so they have to wear uniform. I work long hours, so my ES kid leaves to school after I am gone to work (we have a driver who drives kids to and from school). last April I stayed at home for some reason and saw the kid leaving to school in pants that looked more like Capri pants. I buy uniforms in August, and then sometimes in spring, but I guess I missed it this year. The funny part, that kid told me that the pants were like this since December and the kid didn't even realized there is something ring with that look. I love my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The things kids judge about in kindergarten:
Who has the "best" lunch (ie, anything with sugar)
Who's family has a pet
Who knows the most about Frozen/baseball/Tree frogs/whatever
Who took the ball at recess

That's what my children notice and talk about at home. It's cute. However, we are in Vienna and a lot of the children in the school have expensive, name brand stuff. I mostly shop at Target and Lands End. I can definitely tell we live more frugally than a lot of my children's peers.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe this thread is 6 pages and no one seems to have realized this is a troll post summarizing several other recent posts.

[Anonymous]

No one cares! And if they do, f*** em!

[Anonymous]

In case this isn't a troll:

The only part that gave me pause was the age of the car. If you'll possibly be driving around my child (playdates, carpools), I'd have greater peace of mind if the vehicle seems sound with modern safety features. We sold off our own 20yo rustbucket for this very reason. (Yours, of course, may be in better shape.)