Wish you didn't redshirt?

[Anonymous]

I have a boy with a late Fall birthday. EEK was not an option (missed the deadline). We explored private school options to push ahead a year, but ultimately sent on time to an independent school that allows for acceleration. For us, best of both worlds. Academically ahead while with the correct social/emotional peer group. I would absolutely not have redshirted if he had been born earlier...he can easily hang academically with the kids in the grade above and socially, too. I think knowing your child is really important. Staying on grade gave my child more time to develop fine motor & emotional skills. But if we weren't able to accelerate academically, it would have been a poor fit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We ultimately decided to send my August boy on time after some deliberation, and a few years in, I believe I would have really regretted redshirting. He's mature, a couple years ahead academically, and one of the taller kids in his class, so it's hard to imagine him a grade behind. As it is, he's bored in the classroom. If he was a different kid, I might not feel that way though.

Your son isn't old enough for the difference yet. My son (sept birthday) was great until 4th grade, then we saw issues. By 9th grade, I totally regretted not reshirting. He was just not as mature as the other kids! It's also not about your class, it's about the age of the other kids. if you have a kid 1 to 2 years younger, your kid will struggle. It doesn't matter how smart they are.

HAHA. I had the same issue. Kid was always smart, but by 4th I can see he was not ready to move forward even though he was getting straight A's. My elementary school principal was against redshirting because of social reasons, My husband for the same reason. In middle school, with the consent of the child I redshirted. It has been the best decision. Now a sophomore he is finally showing responsibility, discipline and needs no motivations. He had a B average his freshman year, this year, 4.0+. He is supper motivated now. BTW, middle school was stressful and mostly a disaster.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I can honestly say it was the absolute BEST thing DH and I have done for DS. I have a happy, thriving child who is learning and who is socially where he is the most comfortable.

[Anonymous]

We sent our November kid early and it has worked out well. he is a great kid in every respect, never had problems in school, is graduating from high this year, and at 17 is ready to go to an Ivy next Fall. It all depends on the kid. Ours ways big for his age, well coordinated, very bright, talkative and demanding. He was a little too much for the Pre-K teacher to handle, he asked big time academic questions all the time, so the school suggested sending him to K early. He was tired after school and had to work hard to keep up in K, but by first fourth he was a class leader, and was sailing along academically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We sent our November kid early and it has worked out well. he is a great kid in every respect, never had problems in school, is graduating from high this year, and at 17 is ready to go to an Ivy next Fall. It all depends on the kid. Ours ways big for his age, well coordinated, very bright, talkative and demanding. He was a little too much for the Pre-K teacher to handle, he asked big time academic questions all the time, so the school suggested sending him to K early. He was tired after school and had to work hard to keep up in K, but by first fourth he was a class leader, and was sailing along academically.

You mean you sent your Nov. kid as a 4 year old starting K or a 5 year old starting K? In MD, DC, and VA, Nov. kids are not allowed to start early at least without special consideration.

[Anonymous]

I sent my November birthday kid to K at 4. He turned 5 during K in a MCPS school. This was possible 12 years ago with an exam or something. i don't know if it is today. He later moved to a good private school for high school, where he is the youngest in the graduating class ( I think).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regretted it so my child skipped K. So far it has been the right choice for him. He's much happier. We got a lot of pressure to hold back. I did not think it was a good idea but the school pushed it. They were wrong about my kid.

Sounds like an inexperience parent. Wait until his in MS and HS. There's a reason why you rarely see parents of middleschoolers, especially highschoolers walking around with a smile on their faces. That frown on their foreheads says they've fought through many battles. I held my child back against when expert told me to move forward, but I wouldn't have ignored them if they'd told me to hold back. They rarely do that.

Everyone told me to redshirt my son. I didn't listen because he seemed 100% ready. I've never regretted it. He's now in middle school and doing great. Happy, good student, lots of friends, decent athlete. His teachers tell me they love having him in class. There's no one size fits all approach.

[Anonymous]

One of greatest gifts I ever gave my spring boy was redshirting him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of greatest gifts I ever gave my spring boy was redshirting him.

Can you elaborate? How did you know? What were the immediate and long-term benefits?

[Anonymous]

So has anyone actually answered OP's original question of whether they regretted redshirting??

[Anonymous]

Yes, I did. I regretted it and my child skipped k as he was ready for first.